ROCD Struggles with comparison

I want to know if anyone else has ever had issues with this. Recently, I have been struggling a lot with ROCD. The thoughts are typically centered around comparing my current bf to an old situation-ship I had. My old situation man and I started off as really good friends who had a lot in common. We had really good deep talks and he was and still is such a great person. A lot of people around me wanted us to date, but when he told me he had feelings for me I just couldn’t let myself allow things to take that next step because I did not feel 100% attractive to him in all the ways i felt i should and i knew that i would not be fully in it. After i made that decision, it felt right. I had no second thoughts about it because in the long run I knew that it was the only fair thing for both of us. About two months after I made that decision I met my current boyfriend. He was very sweet and we started hanging out and I did feel that attraction that I felt I was missing in the past. However, in between situations is when I started experiencing my first OCD spirals. Spirals about my sexual orientation, spirals about harm and spirals about my identity. These overlapped with when i met my current partner and he helped tremendously. However, right now it seems. The topic of my spiral has switched to my relationship, which has been the hardest one. I’m experiencing thoughts such as Is this person right for me? Did I make the right decision? Do i miss my old partner? Do my bf and i have enough deep talks? Will i ever get my old partners out of my head? Should i have stayed single? Am I feeling things as strongly as i should? Should i have given my past situation a fair shot? Am i wasting my time? Will i ever be able to be in a relationship with no anxiety? Etc… I think this is all stemming from relationships being a very important thing in my life. I’m a very empathetic person, and I care deeply about other people’s emotions. The scariest thing for me right now is I just can’t tell what’s my intuition and what’s my anxiety. Is my brain telling me that I miss my old partner because I feel I’m more compatible with them and I have regrets? Or am I just stuck in a loop that I can’t seem to get out of my brain is telling me that I don’t deserve what I have now even though my current boyfriend is truly amazing. I just wanna know if this sounds familiar to anyone. It’s very vulnerable of me to share and I could use support and I hope that maybe this helps somebody else.