My Mom Affirmed My OCD. Is Denial A Compulsion?

{First post! I hope my tags are okay, I'm still getting used to using my health apps for the correct thing, instead of being a forgetful lurker.} — Sort of like title is asking. So, for a bit of background, my mother is one of those "nothing is wrong with my children" parents, and denies very obvious symptoms within all of my siblings, self included. She's slowly getting better about that, and I've gotten more comfortable sharing my symptoms and problems with her. However, it's important to note that, due to the way I was brought up by her, I tend to intellectualize and compartmentalize myself a LOT. By that, I mean I tend not to be emotionally or mentally "in-tune" with myself or my thoughts. Recently, I called my mother, just to chat. Somewhere in the conversation, the topic of me and OCD came up. In her own words, my mother said she absolutely knew my brain was wired differently. According to her, one of my lifelong compulsions is "an element of chaos." I can clean a room top to bottom, but then I can't sit in it for an extended period because it feels too "sterile," and unlived in. She told me she'd had to explain to my other siblings in the past that I wasn't "dirty," I was just different. It's not even something I've noticed! My partner also noticed this, and whenever we have this sort of conversation, they tend to point out other compulsions I have; but this is the first time the "chaos" compulsion's been brought up. I was in utter disbelief about it, and after finishing the conversation with my mother, my partner and I got to talking. I went into a full spiral, going on and on about how I can't "possibly" have OCD because I have several other health and mental conditions, so having OCD felt like "too much," and that I didn't feel as though my compulsions were obsessive or based on irrational thoughts. My partner tried to remind me about some recent compulsions I'd had only a few days prior, as well as my long history of compulsions and moments where it inhibited daily function. I argued that they "didn't count," because the fear was rational due to history (personal or general) with that particular trigger. I argued I wasn't "afraid," I was careful. They reasoned that it was only further proof, because I'd never personally experienced the outcome of that fear. According to them, it was a very clear fear of contamination and illness that had resulted in the need to react with a particular behavior. Either way, the argument devolved into me constantly denying many of my conditions, and them getting frustrated because they know that denying symptoms and conditions will only hurt more down the line. They think some of it has to do with how the internet treats people with any atypical conditions, because I argue points such as "but what if I don't actually have OCD and it was wrong, and I'm secretly stealing resources from others?" They said that me thinking that way was clearly a sign of the intrusive and anxious thinking that resulted in my compulsive behaviors to begin with, and I said it was a reasonable thought. Every compulsion was met with "well my brain isn't being irrational, it's just how I am." The chaos compulsion became less about the idea of me being uneasy about a seemingly sterile and orderly environment, and more that it just felt "off." My brain doesn't say "it's wrong because x," and sometimes it BARELY comes out as "it's wrong." Most of the time, I can't hear the thought behind the compulsion, I just act on it subconsciously without processing. My partner says this is due to my near-constant dissociation, and the fact that I grew up the way I did. I never thought to look in and check-in with myself to see how I was doing, too busy making sure no one else got upset around me. Somewhere in this, the thought that of my denial being a compulsion came to mind. I brought it up, and they think it very well could be a compulsive behavior in response to a fear of being "broken," or "wrong" in some way. I grew up the middle child of a dysfunctional home, and the threat of a hospitalization being on my "permanent record" kept me from getting the help I needed as a child. I was the kid that good grades, and was ignored unless my grades slipped to anything lower than A's and B's. My partner believes this caused me to develop many of my conditions and complexes, including a fear of not being "good enough." So, is it possible that me being in denial of my OCD (and other conditions) is a compulsive behavior?