Anybody else fear of having kids?? My boyfriend wants some and I do too but I’m terrified thinking about it.

I’m very scared to have kids. Scared for a few reasons. 1. Would I be able to put them above myself always for the rest of my life? 2. I’m scared that my ocd will latch onto them & I’ll begin to be a helicopter parent, or get intrusive thoughts about hurting them. 3. So so scared I will pass my anxiety, depression, or ocd down to them. If I gave them my ocd I wouldn’t know how to forgive myself because it’s truly a debilitating mental illness that I wouldn’t wish on anybody.

I have some fears around pregnancy related to my emetophobia. I also am afraid to have biological children due to increased risk of them having OCD or other mental illnesses I have a family history of. It’s something that is still a long way away for me, but I definitely do have fears around it.

I think that is absolutely natural and normal.

The truth about pregnancy is that when you try to conceptualize it outside of it it's scary, worry some or an uncertain type of feeling. That's natural and normal. But when you do actually get pregnant it's no different than anything else happening to your body outside of your control, just like a cold orthe flue. It too passes. It changes everything and that can be daunting and scary because we know there will be a financial need that is increased and support system that's needed and if we don't know how wellmeet these needs we can feel scared about it. That's ok xx that's all natural.

I had a baby as a teenager and had all these feelings then I gotmorning sickness and all that throwing up prevented me from worrying or obsessing at all. Things got real with me always having morning sickness, but it got better and everything was very positive throughout that whole experience, I had a few intrusive thoughts even after having the baby, bit you know what I told myself that's all they were and I pushed them aside because I saw something more important that needed my attention right then a little baby and that kept me plenty occupied and I rarely worried j was too happy having fun with a little baby. Seemed so scary at first, but then was such a blessing I. Disguise

Now he's almost twelve and I'm 30 And I can't even believe I ever had a kiddo, but I am sure happy I did.

In disguise*

Wow. Thanks for sharing ? you really give me hope. I hope one day I have a good experience with my pregnancy like yours. I know everyone is different I just hope my mind is strong enough.