elleeen
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Kitty99Kitty99
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I kind of understand what you mean by feelings coming and go. I feel at times that I want to break up with him too, but I actually don't want that and I regret after telling him that. At times I feel like I'm faking the relationship and I have no feelings, but when I'm with him or if I consider the positive aspects of the relationship I realize I love him a lot. ROCD is damn confusing. If you know deep there you love him, don't give up! It's hard and it's exhausting but you have to face your obsessions and resist your compulsions. It's gonna be hard but you got this! That's what I'm telling myself :)
elleeenelleeen
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Thanks:) It’s harder in a long distance relationship, but i know i do love him and i love talking to him and being with him. But sometimes its very confusing, and i feel very guilty.
Kitty99Kitty99
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@elleeen Feeling guilty is part of ROCD... I know how much I cried because I was blaming myself and failing at being a 'normal' girlfriend. No matter how hard it's gonna be, I'm gonna cope with ROCD and find a way to save our relationship. That's only one way and that's going forward. :)
elleeenelleeen
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@Kitty99 Yes i know, its very hard and i have cried a lot... But i’m not able to anymore and idk why. (makes it feel more real). I just got very triggerd because it felt like he meant i was using rocd as an excuse. But im gonna keep fighting and not gonna give up :)
Crazy8s Crazy8s
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I think you’re definitely capable of loving your partner. Sometimes we are often quick to label situations as one of our forms of OCD when in reality they are normal feelings. If you truly don’t feel attracted to your partner or do not enjoy the relationship then it may be time to move on. But also just realize that these are thoughts, and also that the most important thing people can do in relationships is to communicate. Let your partner know how you feel, most importantly, and if he doesn’t accept/understand then so be it.
elleeenelleeen
- Date posted
- 5y ago
That was very triggering, why leave because i don’t feel attracted to him or enjoy it all the time? As you said its just feelings and they come and go, just like attraction and other things in a relationship. I have struggled with rocd for a long time, so im not using it as an excuse. But thanks.
ChellyBooChellyBoo
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I am going through exactly the same thing ? it started in august last year when I said I wasnt to get married and now I have constant thoughts in my head all the time, like "love love love love" "you don't love him/you do love him" "lies lies lies" "nothing nothing nothing" and they circulate all day every day. I am very tired and confused, why I have these when I know I do love him very much and then I will check to see how I feel when I am with him. I want it to stop ?
elleeenelleeen
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Oh im so sorry. You are not alone. The thing that helps is to sit with the feelings and thoughts because they aren’t you. Show yourself some radical compassion and accept uncertainty. Its very hard, but its the only way:)
OcdstinksOcdstinks
- Date posted
- 5y ago
How have you been doing?
ChellyBooChellyBoo
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@Ocdstinks I've had a couple of days with barely any intrusive thoughts which have been brilliant, I've been unwell and also busy working so perhaps it has given me a distraction
OcdstinksOcdstinks
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@JenLD @JenLD I’m married for 17 years with 5 kids and have been dealing with this for almost 13 years. Up and down and up and down and it’s exhausting.
ChellyBooChellyBoo
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@Ocdstinks It's awful isnt it just makes you doubt everything
OcdstinksOcdstinks
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@JenLD Nothing worse in my opinion. I’ve dealt with a Bh ch of themes but this one stuck the most. I’ve had ocd all my life. Are you married?
ChellyBooChellyBoo
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I just want the thoughts to stop period, it has gotten to the point where I dont know what is real and what is not, my mind just constantly chattering and talking, I dont enjoy anything anymore and cant focus on hobbies because my mind is busy busy busy all the time ?
elleeenelleeen
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes me too, it takes time and practise. Just be kind to yourself, its okey to feel this feelings. Its not our fault, we are humans.
ChellyBooChellyBoo
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I am really struggling at the moment x
elleeenelleeen
- Date posted
- 5y ago
U can contact me on instagram or facebook
ChellyBooChellyBoo
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Is it the same username?
elleeenelleeen
- Date posted
- 5y ago
no elenabjorneraas
ChellyBooChellyBoo
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Just about to message you on IG
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