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I kind of understand what you mean by feelings coming and go. I feel at times that I want to break up with him too, but I actually don't want that and I regret after telling him that. At times I feel like I'm faking the relationship and I have no feelings, but when I'm with him or if I consider the positive aspects of the relationship I realize I love him a lot. ROCD is damn confusing. If you know deep there you love him, don't give up! It's hard and it's exhausting but you have to face your obsessions and resist your compulsions. It's gonna be hard but you got this! That's what I'm telling myself :)
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Thanks:) It’s harder in a long distance relationship, but i know i do love him and i love talking to him and being with him. But sometimes its very confusing, and i feel very guilty.
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@elleeen Feeling guilty is part of ROCD... I know how much I cried because I was blaming myself and failing at being a 'normal' girlfriend. No matter how hard it's gonna be, I'm gonna cope with ROCD and find a way to save our relationship. That's only one way and that's going forward. :)
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@Kitty99 Yes i know, its very hard and i have cried a lot... But i’m not able to anymore and idk why. (makes it feel more real). I just got very triggerd because it felt like he meant i was using rocd as an excuse. But im gonna keep fighting and not gonna give up :)
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I think you’re definitely capable of loving your partner. Sometimes we are often quick to label situations as one of our forms of OCD when in reality they are normal feelings. If you truly don’t feel attracted to your partner or do not enjoy the relationship then it may be time to move on. But also just realize that these are thoughts, and also that the most important thing people can do in relationships is to communicate. Let your partner know how you feel, most importantly, and if he doesn’t accept/understand then so be it.
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That was very triggering, why leave because i don’t feel attracted to him or enjoy it all the time? As you said its just feelings and they come and go, just like attraction and other things in a relationship. I have struggled with rocd for a long time, so im not using it as an excuse. But thanks.
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I am going through exactly the same thing ? it started in august last year when I said I wasnt to get married and now I have constant thoughts in my head all the time, like "love love love love" "you don't love him/you do love him" "lies lies lies" "nothing nothing nothing" and they circulate all day every day. I am very tired and confused, why I have these when I know I do love him very much and then I will check to see how I feel when I am with him. I want it to stop ?
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Oh im so sorry. You are not alone. The thing that helps is to sit with the feelings and thoughts because they aren’t you. Show yourself some radical compassion and accept uncertainty. Its very hard, but its the only way:)
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How have you been doing?
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@Ocdstinks I've had a couple of days with barely any intrusive thoughts which have been brilliant, I've been unwell and also busy working so perhaps it has given me a distraction
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@JenLD @JenLD I’m married for 17 years with 5 kids and have been dealing with this for almost 13 years. Up and down and up and down and it’s exhausting.
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@Ocdstinks It's awful isnt it just makes you doubt everything
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@JenLD Nothing worse in my opinion. I’ve dealt with a Bh ch of themes but this one stuck the most. I’ve had ocd all my life. Are you married?
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I just want the thoughts to stop period, it has gotten to the point where I dont know what is real and what is not, my mind just constantly chattering and talking, I dont enjoy anything anymore and cant focus on hobbies because my mind is busy busy busy all the time ?
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Yes me too, it takes time and practise. Just be kind to yourself, its okey to feel this feelings. Its not our fault, we are humans.
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I am really struggling at the moment x
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U can contact me on instagram or facebook
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Is it the same username?
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no elenabjorneraas
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Just about to message you on IG
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I feel awful that I keep coming on here whenever I’m down bad but oh my gosh OCD is the most painful shit that I have EVER experienced in my life and I have a physical chronic illness…. I hate to say it but I hate living right now it’s too painful… im crying as I type to the point where my stomach is hurting, I have pretty severe ocd I do have generalized anxiety and idk if that is connected with ocd but because of that I have most of the subtypes REAL EVENT OCD,POCD,ZOCD,ROCD,SOCD HARM OCD, you name it and I got it!!! a lot of also why I have have those theme is trauma growing up and involving those things^ as of right now i’m 25 and a women with the most loving boyfriend in the entire world before my ocd hit me I NEVER questioned my love and care and attraction with the love of my life I always knew I was going to marry and be with this person the rest of my life! Now with ocd it confuses me soooo much and now I think I’m gay and didn’t realize or indenial and listen I get it “don’t look for reassurance!” “It’s not the thing ocd is attacking that is the problem ocd is the actual problem!” Here’s the thing with that if I’m in a relationship and I’m gay that would mean I would have to leave that said relationship and to say that “oh yeah that stuff happens and you’ll move on” is absolutely devastating to me this is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE and your telling me that iv been lying to myself this whole time or that I didn’t realize?!?!? And that sexuality can change (even though some say it can’t google says otherwise and some people have said it can’t idek anymore) and all this other BULLSHIT I can’t take it WHY?!?! why does this have to happen why can’t I just be with my love the rest of my life?!? and yes before anyone says anything I have been attracted to girls more so when I was younger watching lesbian porn liking the body’s and fantazing them sexually it stopped when I got older but I still don’t get disgusted with women who are pretty it just makes me uncomfortable because I’m with the love of my life and before I remember talking to my partner and discussing certain childhood things I experienced and we discussed that we both could be a little bi and for certain I’m (demi sexual so I don’t even really care about looks) and I truly didn’t care!! NOW I do care even with being bi because again I don’t like thinking about anyone else but my partner but I do also know my parents are homophobic and I do think about if I am gay they wouldn’t be okay with that and I also dont want to deal with that so now I sound like in indenial right?!???? I didn’t even care about labels before my ocd it just didn’t matter but now it’s effected my sex life and it’s hard for me to enjoy sex with being so confused I’m so confused I googled everything can you still have sexual fantasies with same gender but still be straight? Can you fantasize about same gender or imagine marrying them all of it !!! And non of that disgusts me it just makes me uncomfortable AGIAN only bc I just love the partner I’m with right now!!! I’m so fucking confused do I have to leave my partner and accept that I’m gay is that going to happen in the future if I get better with ocd and find out it’s been true all along?!???
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When my boyfriend and I are apart, it honestly feels like I've lost all feelings for him. I start questioning everything, wondering if I even love him at all. Then, when we're finally together again, the memory of those earlier doubts creeps in and completely ruins the moment. I get so caught up in overthinking and analyzing my feelings that I can't even enjoy being with him. It's like I'm constantly second-guessing myself. The worst part is, sometimes later, when we're still together, I do feel the love. But then the anxiety kicks in again! I start worrying that I'm just faking it because I had those doubts earlier in the day. It's this endless cycle of questioning, doubting, and overthinking, and it's exhausting. I'm really struggling to stay present when we're together, and it feels like this constant cycle is preventing me from truly connecting with him. We have been together for three years and we love together, and I just started feeling this way about a month ago; it’s been almost every day since. One day, I randomly thought about breaking up with him. Our relationship is healthy, especially compared to my previous toxic one, where I was anxiously attached for two and a half years. My boyfriend is very supportive of me. I have talked to him about my doubts and everything I’m experiencing, and he continues to support, care for, and help me through it all. I am very grateful for that. One aspect of my current relationship that I would like to improve is our communication, but we are both willing to work on it together. I often find that my overthinking leads me to question whether I really want to try to fix things or if I’d rather just continue as we are. This creates a constant push and pull in our relationship. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Any advice on how to break this cycle and just be present in the moment? I'd love to hear from anyone who's been through something like this.
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