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Yeah my sex life has been very depressing for me. I can’t ever stop thinking
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Me too. It sucks
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This is really, really hard. Totally been there. It can be so hard to relax and enjoy your time with a sexual partner when your mind is racing. Of course, right when we are trying to get a break and just enjoy some sexual activity, we are taunted with intrusive thoughts that get in the way. I had to work hard at bringing myself back to the moment each and every time this happened for a long time. I still have to practice this! I always will do my best to bring it back because I hate that OCD can effect even my sex life. :(
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And it’s like I used to freak out about the intrusive thoughts and now when they pop up I try to just ignore them and then it’s like oh wait did I just like that? Or my minds says you do and I’m in complete question mode again.
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Same here. But I just let the “question mode” remain. Because I know even if I ignore them during, they will still haunt me afterwards so I make sure I’m ready to just keep ignoring them or expose them if they keep bothering me and won’t leave me alone. I say things back to it like “so what if I liked it? Maybe I did, maybe I didn’t.” And move on and I notice over time that’s helped me personally.
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It’s for sure a constant effort so don’t be too hard on yourself but good for you to make that real effort to try and ignore them. Keep that up!
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I just always repeat “I will except the uncertainty and move on” ! But thank you so much for your motivation it means alot
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Absolutely. Sounds like you’ve got this!
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I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
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