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Yeah my sex life has been very depressing for me. I can’t ever stop thinking
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Me too. It sucks
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This is really, really hard. Totally been there. It can be so hard to relax and enjoy your time with a sexual partner when your mind is racing. Of course, right when we are trying to get a break and just enjoy some sexual activity, we are taunted with intrusive thoughts that get in the way. I had to work hard at bringing myself back to the moment each and every time this happened for a long time. I still have to practice this! I always will do my best to bring it back because I hate that OCD can effect even my sex life. :(
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And it’s like I used to freak out about the intrusive thoughts and now when they pop up I try to just ignore them and then it’s like oh wait did I just like that? Or my minds says you do and I’m in complete question mode again.
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Same here. But I just let the “question mode” remain. Because I know even if I ignore them during, they will still haunt me afterwards so I make sure I’m ready to just keep ignoring them or expose them if they keep bothering me and won’t leave me alone. I say things back to it like “so what if I liked it? Maybe I did, maybe I didn’t.” And move on and I notice over time that’s helped me personally.
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It’s for sure a constant effort so don’t be too hard on yourself but good for you to make that real effort to try and ignore them. Keep that up!
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I just always repeat “I will except the uncertainty and move on” ! But thank you so much for your motivation it means alot
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Absolutely. Sounds like you’ve got this!
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I need advice for intrusive thoughts. I used to feel like I could handle them. They weren’t nearly as bad as the things that related to my actual life. But now, I’m suffering. I haven’t had a sexual experience in over a year that didn’t involve constant intrusive thoughts. Most are somehow related to kids and I keep chasing off the thoughts but it’s so bad. I know you’re supposed to ignore them but I don’t know how I can just ignore that and continue what I’m doing. But they’re coming on stronger. I had one earlier I could not get rid of just as things finished so the thought came on strongly just before my orgasm hit and now I feel absolutely disgusting. I hated the thought and I know it’s not me and it was not enjoyable but it still feels like I was getting off to it. I feel sick. I’m so fucking tired of these thoughts. They’re in my every day life too and it’s all the time. I just want it to stop but ignoring it feels so wrong. What should I do?
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Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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I don’t know if my hormones are extra wild this month or what, but I have been having so many POCD thoughts lately. It feels like I enjoy them in the moment, and then a few seconds later, I get this tiny flicker of *wait I don’t think I actually want to enjoy that.* It’s scaring me a lot. I was watching adult videos for the first time in about a year, since I had been avoiding them because of my OCD. I know they are not good for anyone, but I felt like i could (ironically it felt like a tiny win that my OCD had calmed down enough). But while watching, I had like 3 separate POCD thoughts. And it felt like I liked them. Like genuinely *liked* them. I don’t know if maybe my body was mixing up physical pleasure and mental pleasure, and then my brain inserted those not okay thoughts into the situation, which got tangled up with the pleasure responses I felt mentally and physically. It is all really confusing. I just feel so scared. I know OCD thoughts are supposed to feel real, and that once you get desensitized to the anxiety, they lose their power. But this feels like I am *actually enjoying* the thoughts, and that makes me want to cry. I’m scared that I actually like these thoughts when I’m really aroused :( Please help.
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