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I have dealt with harm ocd myself. Suicide being the big one. Please take it easy on yourself. I know how difficult that can be ?
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Yeah, that isn't the most easiest thing in the world. To be kind to yourself. Thank you for empathizing to me.
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I have the same thoughts when it comes to the future. I’ll think about something and then go “well I hope I’m around for that”. I have been seeing an OCD therapist for a few weeks now and it seems to be something that will help. Once I kind of get out of a theme, a new one pops up. My therapist said that’s normal and actually a good sign. But it sucks. I just want to be to the point where this doesn’t have such an affect on my every day life.
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That’s interesting that having the topic jump to a different one means it’s a good sign. My topic has stayed consistently the same until last week, around the time I just started with my OCD therapist, that it for the first time starting jumping to new topics ?
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@Evelyn4416 My therapist said your ocd will try to throw new things at you once you start working against it. He said it’s like an ex boyfriend who realizes you’re moving on so then they show up and bash your car windows out with a baseball bat.
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@ejh Haha that’s a great analogy! Well if that’s the case I’m ready to fight back ?
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@Evelyn4416 You and me both!
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I’ve even had weird ones about humans having organs and brains and stuff. To the point where I would get nervous and uncomfortable around people. You just have to recognize these are OCD thoughts and not you.
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Absolutely. It’s an everyday struggle but it can be done. I have to tell myself that all the time. Especially in times like now when we are shut in our houses with nothing but time to think.
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If you wanna, I'm here for you. Don't worry, you'll have an amazing life
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I also have been dealing with suicidal OCD, it’s been going on straight for almost 5 months now. It’s definitely a topic that scares people but I try and reassure others that it’s not me actually wanting to die, it’s the OCD placing these intrusive thoughts, feelings, and urges. I also completely relate to it being so constant and torturous. It really tries to create doubt and fear, plus the anxiety is just all consuming at times. It makes me less lonely to know others also deal with the same thing. I hope both of us are able to work on this and move past this truly awful theme.
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Yes, I agree with every word you have said. I have been dealing with this for 5 years. It was triggered after the the tragic suicide of my stepdad.
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@Brandon H Im so sorry. I can’t even begin to fathom how that horrible that must have been for you and your family. Mine began out of nowhere it seems, in the middle of a bad anxiety episode. It really tries to eat at you and get you from so many angles, whether it be fears of developing depression and wanting to do it, fears of losing control and doing it, even thoughts presenting themselves at direct commands which is so scary. I have to keep reassuring myself, no matter how I feel, that it’s not be feeling this and it’s just the OCD.
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Yeah. The thing about it, is that you don't just fear this way of death, but my mind convinces me that this how you will die. So, it is kinda like knowing how you're gonna die, but you're not actually going to. It is just the fear of not having any choice or control.
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Wow yes! There have been so many times where I try to make plans for future events or things I’d like to do later on and my mind tries to make me feel...idk the exact word, maybe guilty?...to make these plans because the thoughts say “well you’re not gonna be around for that”, so trying to make me feel like I have no choices. Also agree with the mind saying this is how you will die. I was on vacation around the time it started and I struggled so hard each day until I came back home. I remember breaking down and sobbing in front of my dad because I was so afraid that I was going to die on that trip. Same thing over Christmas, went through an especially rough patch and I was terrified I wouldn’t make it through Christmas, like I was scared I’d give up or lose control or something.
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@Evelyn4416 That is exactly what I go through. I am only 19, and my mom always talks about me having a wife and kids, but my OCD destroys any hope of that for me.
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@Brandon H OCD will do that to you, just tries to ruin any little good thing in your life. Are you currently seeing a therapist at all?
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@Evelyn4416 Yes, once every 2 weeks.
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@Brandon H That’s good to hear! I had started seeing a mental health counselor back in December for the first time for a couple weeks then recently switched to an OCD specialist a couple weeks ago. I hope you’re able to find peace and healing in your mental health journey. We’re in this all together and will overcome ?
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That is good! Yes, we will overcome!
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Yeah, I know what you mean. It is kinda hard not to have the intrusive thoughts, which causes anxiety and distress.
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That is really the ultimate goal. To recapture control.
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Exactly.
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Hey everyone. I wanted to share my story and some of the things I have/am experiencing in my journey with OCD- particularly with Sexual Orientation OCD. My goal is not to use this as a means for reassurance for myself or for any other, rather as to be a reminder for myself and you all that you are NOT alone. No matter what you are experiencing you aren’t alone, and we have all gone through the same thoughts and feelings as you, in whatever form they may have been. For personal reasons I will not share my name, but I do want to share about me and my journey with what has truly been one of the hardest things I’ve ever experienced. I am a 24 year old female and for as long as I’ve remembered I’ve always been a “worrier”. My dad used to tell me that worrying will be the fastest way I’d die lol. Oh! How I wish I could go back to those days of just simply worry. For the past few years I have struggled with what I now know is intrusive thoughts. But, luckily for me they were a little calmer than what I’ve experienced now. They were the occasional worrying that my boyfriend died but I would get over it rather quickly. Well, in may of 2024, I had just graduated college, was about to get married and about to move out. So, that triggered some switch in my brain and thus began this horrible disease of OCD. My main type has been SO-OCD but I have found some moments that I’ve also struggled with ROCD as well as some existential crisis OCD. I have unfortunately not been able to go to therapy because of money but I am on meds and have been using tips and tricks I’ve found online. My goal is to still go to therapy when I can find the right time. And I, like many of you have months of great “freedom” from the disease; and then, like I find myself now, fall back into its trap. I wanted to share some of the things I’ve experienced with this to see if y’all have experienced the same things and to let you know you are not alone. For reference, I am straight (I am happily married to my wonderful husband). 1. Thoughts from the past: I slightly remember having a thought that I’d be gay when I was around 12-13… that was around the time I actually first figured out what that meant. Even then, I (more easily than now) brushed it off. Continued to have about a million crushes on boys and never thought of it again. But now, with my OCD, I feel “convinced” that that was a sign that I was gay. 2. I have always been a girls girl. Me and my friend have a joke that we are worse than men! Meaning that when we see a pretty girl with a nice body, we stare. We say they are pretty. Never have I ever thought anything of it. It was always from a place of envy and admiration. Never a place of lust or anything along those lines. But NOW. OH! If I even look that direction I feel guilty, I feel like that’s confirmation that I am gay. And even worse- that is one of my compulsions. To look and make myself “prove” I’m not gay. 3. I have lost “feeling” for my partner. I love my husband. More than anything else. I could not live without him. But since this all happened, my emotions and fears have been all over the place that I’ve somewhat lost that feeling. It doesn’t help that I’m on medicine that can have that effect. I have to just remind myself that love isn’t always feelings, it’s a choice. And I choose him every single day. 4. sex life issues: bc/ of the OCD fear as well as my medication, I don’t have much sex drive or pleasure in the bedroom as I did before OCD… and, my OCD likes to convince me that that is because I would be better off with a woman (even tho I don’t want that) and then, OH THEN, I proceed to experience some groinal sensation from that though. So- cue even more “proof” that I am gay. well- that’s all I can think of now. Let me know if any one yall struggle with those. And I hope you know, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS. YOU ARE NOT YOUR OCD 💚
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Here are some things that make me feel alone and isolated in my journey with sexual orientation OCD: 1. This feels like a complete identity crisis. I think that is what makes it so hard. It seems to go against everything I believe myself to be and who I always have identified as. 2. My compulsions, thoughts, triggers, and everything else that comes along with this disease feels and seems like I’m the only one that struggles with those things. My thoughts and images in my head often seems so real that it can only be me in denial. 3. Because this sub type of OCD is so sexual in nature, it has made my sex life with my husband, a really hard situation. Because I always get afraid and sex that I will think of these thoughts, I subconsciously then think of those thoughts, and if I have any type of feeling associated with those thoughts, it feels like proof that those thoughts are real and that makes it even harder. 4. Because a lot of the pleasure that comes with sex is on hot for me while I’m figuring out in this journey with OCD, my mind has convinced me that it is because I will only feel those things if I were with someone at the same sex (I am a straight female. I have a fear of being homosexual.). Well, all those things have made it really hard for me to function daily, I am doing a lot better at finding ways to combat those. I wanted to offer some of the things that I find that help me move past these thoughts and while it’s not always a perfect fix, it’s really helped. 1. I tried to remind myself daily that while love is a feeling it’s also choice. I have to remind myself to get up every single day and choose my husband not because I always feel like choosing him because that is who I choose. That is who I want. That is who I want to grow a relationship with to have a child with Thus why I always don’t feel that love, I always choose it. And while this can be really hard because just society as a whole has made us have these unrealistic ideas about what love is and made us think that love is just this huge with butterflies and sparks, it’s not always that. 2. I try to remind myself that these are just thoughts. And thoughts are not who I am. I don’t have to become the thoughts. I’m not a bad person for thinking of thoughts, and I don’t have to believe the thoughts. 3. When I get, like I often do, groinal responses to the things that I am thinking or seeing in my mind I just remind myself that those are responses to the anxiety I have. I’m not thinking those because I want to think those, but it’s in a response too The fear that I will think those and that I will get that response and then in turn I get the response. 4. I tried to remind myself that this isn’t a fear of coming out like if I was gay, this is a fear associated with a thought that I would be because that’s not who I am. If I really was gay, I would like the thought I would like the pleasure and I would be afraid of coming out. But in this situation, I don’t want any of the thoughts not because I’m afraid of coming out of this because it’s not who I am. If that makes sense.
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Trigger Warning: Suicide I’m 21(Female) just for reference Anyone else struggling with OCD so much to where you feel so isolated, confused, burnout, suffering & in astonishing emotional pain & agony. I promise yall aren’t alone in the feelings. I promise you there is someone going through similar, obviously our lives aren’t identical, but our struggles can be very similar. It’s even harder dealing with trauma, split parents, abusive parent(s), a sick parent at the same time as all of this. It feels like God or the universe just WANTS you to struggle. Like it’s punishment for something you did as a kid or teenager. I’m dealing with all this exactly. Sometimes I just want support. So I hope this message can be support for someone struggling too & hope it helps them be able to breathe a little easier & gives them strength to go on another day. I just would like to mention if you have access to therapy take advantage of it. The therapists are not there to judge you but I promise it’s a them issue & you’re not a horrible person. When I used to think of suicide often I started to think less “doomsdayish” & realized that I wont know how my life will turn out if I just give up. If you give up you won’t ever know. Whether your situation will improve, & all the fear in your heart just gone. You could miss out on that freedom and happiness you’ve been waiting for in this current life we are living. One last thing I want to point out that I’ve thought about is that we don’t know how many more people are out there struggling with this. I think they’re maybe afraid of judgement. Basically what I’m implying is I feel like there are so many others out there who don’t want to speak up & are struggling with this. Everything on their conscious being afraid to even write it down. I just feel in my heart that there are others who keep these issues to themselves. I think I feel it in my heart because that was me once. Feeling like my story was different, afraid at thought of even telling a stranger(therapist) who could judge me. I did not want to be perceived badly. I’m 21 years old & wish I had the courage to speak up sooner I feel like I could’ve started seeing the light at the end of the tunnel sooner but that’s okay. Speak up for you, you do not have to wake up in fear everyday or contemplate suicide everyday. Even if it feels like you’re your only cheerleader. Sending a virtual hug to all because I know what it’s like to just want to be held & told that everything is going to work out. you never know what others are going through, be the person who isn’t afraid to extend your heart to others, try & breathe a little more, take care of yourselves, remember you aren’t alone no matter your situation, stay strong To the suicidal person reading this, you’re resilient & strong. Sending a virtual hug❤️.
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