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I think it’s spot on for a lot of us!! At least I know it is for me!!
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My therapist always tells me I have “all or nothing” thinking. It’s either perfect or a disaster, no in between
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Totally! I never thought of myself as a perfectionist but looking back after my therapist pointed it out, holy cow. Always caring so much about doing well and receiving praise and affirmation and everyone liking me. Which I think is related to my “reassurance seeking” compulsions. I need constant reassurance that I’m smart, likable, successful, and I get that reassurance from getting good grades (back in the day), or doing well at work, pleasing my parents, and people liking me- basically being a perfectionist. And it’s not about trying to be perfect all the time, because I don’t try to be perfect all the time. But there’s a definite sense of self loathing or disappointment in myself when I’m not. I’m getting better at it though.
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How do we work thru perfectionism? What does ERP look like for this?
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@roxacres Wow, I do that all the time. My boyfriend always says “you don’t have to be liked by everyone”, “you can say no”, “it’s okay to mess up” and stuff like that. When we get into a fight, even a little argument, I feel I need to fix it right away because he’s going to stop loving me or something. I always seek approval through others like teachers, parents, friends, my boyfriend, and God. I had no idea this was perfectionism.
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Perfectionism is definitely a part of OCD for some people. There’s a concept of “maladaptive perfectionism” which means that you are too perfectionist.
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I’m new to the app and wanting to know who else experiences this form of ocd. Some background I was a therapist for over 10 years now I am out of the clinical space. So I have background knowledge of ocd but never knew much about relationship ocd. I realized over the last several years with my now fiancé, that I have a hard time just letting go in general, whether that’s an argument or statement or feeling. I want to be able to just accept things at face value and move on (and talk later if my partner is ready as needed). But when conflict arises I can’t disengage till there is a clear resolution. It’s causing serious strife as he can feel trapped and it escalates the argument. I am reading more and this sounds like relationship OCD. Anyone else experience this? Curious on what others have done to work on this for themselves. I do have a therapist but we are not doing work in this area yet as I am realizing this is an actual concern.
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OCD is so much more than just being 'neat' or 'organized'—it’s relentless, exhausting, and often deeply misunderstood. The intrusive thoughts, the compulsions, the anxiety—it can feel like a never-ending cycle that others just don’t seem to get. Many of us have had experiences where even therapists didn’t fully grasp the depth of our struggles. I myself faced difficulty being misdiagnosed and my talk therapist not understanding the full extent of what I was going through until I found NOCD. So many prior therapists wrote off my symptoms as general anxiety, not realizing it was actually OCD all along. If you could sit down with a therapist who truly wanted to understand, what do you wish they knew about OCD?
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Hi, I’m new to the app as of today. I’m 20 years old, and wanted to get some stuff off my chest about the types of OCD I’ve been experiencing over the years. I’m not entirely sure how or when my OCD was brought up, but I’ve been a perfectionist for as long as I can remember. Anywhere and everywhere I go, if I see things placed in an order/angle that my brain doesn’t approve of, next thing I know I’m “fixing” it to be in the placement I feel looks better. I’m not aware of why I feel the need to do that, but until an object is in the “right” placement, I won’t take my eyes off of it. My eye will even twitch. Another form of OCD I have is in relationships. I spend each day overthinking and over-analyzing every one of the relationships that are important to me. Friends, family, significant other. Another one is what’s considered “Pure OCD” . When I get an intrusive thought of something devilish, whether it’s randomly seeing my great aunt naked bc my grandma considers her “fat” even though she’s not, or it’s seeing something demonic and traumatizing, I immediately tell myself, “I don’t wanna see/think about that” over and over and over until the thought is gone. Or I’ll try to replace one mental image with another. One other form of OCD I face every day, is religion. I got baptized for the first time in my life earlier this year in January. I had finally started to repent for my sins, and now I’m constantly feeling afraid that I’m letting God down due to my depression/lack of motivation and vaping/smoking. I also fear excessively that He’ll banish me from His kingdom, or just turn a cold shoulder. I know that what I’ve just typed up is probably all over the place. That is my brain unfortunately. How do you go from being a mentally disorderly and seemingly erratic young woman, to a more well-established, successful woman? I’m all ears!
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