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I think it’s spot on for a lot of us!! At least I know it is for me!!
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My therapist always tells me I have “all or nothing” thinking. It’s either perfect or a disaster, no in between
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Totally! I never thought of myself as a perfectionist but looking back after my therapist pointed it out, holy cow. Always caring so much about doing well and receiving praise and affirmation and everyone liking me. Which I think is related to my “reassurance seeking” compulsions. I need constant reassurance that I’m smart, likable, successful, and I get that reassurance from getting good grades (back in the day), or doing well at work, pleasing my parents, and people liking me- basically being a perfectionist. And it’s not about trying to be perfect all the time, because I don’t try to be perfect all the time. But there’s a definite sense of self loathing or disappointment in myself when I’m not. I’m getting better at it though.
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How do we work thru perfectionism? What does ERP look like for this?
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@roxacres Wow, I do that all the time. My boyfriend always says “you don’t have to be liked by everyone”, “you can say no”, “it’s okay to mess up” and stuff like that. When we get into a fight, even a little argument, I feel I need to fix it right away because he’s going to stop loving me or something. I always seek approval through others like teachers, parents, friends, my boyfriend, and God. I had no idea this was perfectionism.
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Perfectionism is definitely a part of OCD for some people. There’s a concept of “maladaptive perfectionism” which means that you are too perfectionist.
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I haven't been able to read about experiences similar to mine when it comes to my perfectionism OCD so I was wondering if anyone had any "uncommon" experiences.
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I feel like my whole life I’ve been overthinking everything. I remember having really bad intrusive thoughts as a kid but I thought I had gotten over it. I feel like I’m starting to see that it’s just not manifested in different ways. I tried to bring it up with my therapist but she thinks it’s just anxiety. I feel like it’s something more. Does anyone have any advice on what personally showed you what was the difference
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i’ve unfortunately fallen into the cycle of trying to figure out my thoughts and find answers as to why i feel so distressed. this still pertains to the situation regarding changing my room for those reading who have seen my multiple posts over the last few days. i’ve been so distressed and in so much panic about it. i’m also panicking over my other room looking so different from when i left it. it’s been making me feel crazy because to me there’s no reason for my anxiety to latch so hard onto something that seems so minuscule. i was thinking i was having anxiety over change, but it’s like symptoms of ocd too that’s making it really hard for me to let go. SO i started thinking maybe it was perfectionism ocd? i’ve realized over time that i do compulsions to where things have to feel “just right”, but i also do that with any environment i’m in. like it HAS to feel cozy to me and provide me comfort in order for me to feel at ease. and this change is causing me to panic because there’s something wrong that i can’t find an answer to. maybe the different colored carpet? but it’s also more than that it feels like. however, now it’s spreading into other areas of my house where i’ve always been fine in and possibly to just any area i’m in at all. hence why it’s making me feel crazy because there’s no reason for me to be THIS distressed over that as i’ve never really had this problem before. and when i did it would last maybe an hour to a couple of days at most, but this has been going for over 2 weeks with my really bad anxiety being this week. i’m doing a little better, but it’s still hard when i can feel that panic waiting for me to acknowledge and just engulf me in the ocd cycle. i’m also analyzing basically any feeling i have so i just feel off in general and like i’m going insane. i’ve been so hyper focused on how i feel and that will send me spiraling too. multiple themes then start coming in like existential ocd and fear of solipsism. not to mention my harm and contamination ocd that just adds on when i’m this vulnerable. then i worry if no one is real, then no one feels the way i do. or just in general that what if no one feels the way i do. honestly, i think being out of college and in my house with nothing to do is causing me too much time with my thoughts. which is why i’m so distressed about everything that pops into my brain.
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