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Okay Ive struggled a lot with the harm and sexual stuff. Something that helped me is when my therapist told me that "your thoughts aren't facts". She meant that the obsessive thoughts ur having about harm and sexual stuff aren't your own true thoughts u believe, tho in the moment they do definitely seem like it. So when u r having those thoughts in the moment start to think that those obsessive thoughts r just your ocd and arent a reflection of ur true thoughts. Even if u cant convince urself this, even thinking or saying that can help u to differentiate the two. This takes practice so dont feel rushed or overwhelmed by it not working right away:) Also another major thing I learned that helped me so much is to NOT focus so hard on NOT having obsessive thought on those sexual or harmful thoughts bc as we know that will only make them come more. When those thoughts come, acknowledge that "yes they are there at the moment, these thoughts are not a true reflection of me though it may feel like they are". Then try and do something or focus on something else. The thoughts might still try to come back but try not to give them power and repeat the aknowledgaknowledging and move through them. ---Move through the thoughts, dont let them paralyze you. I hope this helped a little. Also, you need to be patient with yourself. U are going to mess up and that it perfectly okay and expected so dont be mad at urself ever! U need to have patience with urself when these obsessive thoughts come. IIf u need any more advice or just somebody to talk to or talk u through it im here for you:)
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Well said! Thank you for sharing and thanks for the advice!!
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Very well said! Thank you!
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Thank you for that post its really calming my thoughts right now haha
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I use to struggle with violent or sexual thoughts and i know for a fact that i would never do any of them but thats what ocd does. It could help to remember that even tho in the moment u feel you might hurt or even purposely hurt babies, in reality that isnt true amd those are just ocd thoughts, those thoughts that you have in the moment arent a reflection of you.
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I am with you on Harm thoughts. They used to consume my life. I still remember it as my first theme and my first stuck/ocd thought that lead me into discovering that I might possibly have pure ocd. I remember being completely terrified. I really don’t struggle with those anymore. I think for me, getting pets helped me overcome it. As silly as it sounds, I was so afraid to have a pet and that I might hurt it. When I got my first cat, I was so afraid I’d stab her or something, but I let the thoughts be there and I was successful in allowing the thoughts and they only for quieter and smaller. Now I I have three pets and I love them all to death. I still get the harm thoughts sometimes but they don’t have power over me. My biggest theme to date was fear of psychosis or schizophrenia. That one was a really REALLY bad one for me. It was probably the darkest time of my life. My complusions were the worst in that time. And I climbed out of that obsession to by quitting my compulsions and accepting the possibility that it could happen someday and no amount of worrying could change the result of that.
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Ive been afraid of the scitzefrania too! I thought i was the only one
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@g432 It’s really common in the ocd is world. I had it so so terribly.
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@ruminating_redhead Wow that must've been so stressful for u:(
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Happy for you! Glad you are comfortable with loving your cats! Also I completely forgot that I dealt with the schizophrenia stuff too lol it was once upon a time. It mustve not had that much of an impact on me of I forgot about it.
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@g432 It was when I was going through it. I hope you are dealing with yours okay.
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@Hylian Isn’t is funny how we can totally forget about themes that were at one point the end of the world in our eyes? It feels good to look back and see that you were able to get yourself out of that mess because it means that you can do it with other themes too!
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Yeah harm and sexual stuff. I still struggle most with responsibility OCDs in various formats.
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Yes I can totally relate! Its ok! We will overcome!!
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I’ve had many, one particular problem I still deal with is taking objects from my own property and thinking they lose value if I do this. I can’t take books on vacation with me, or anywhere from my own private collection, as I sometimes think my collection will lose its value and people would recognise that a great book would be missing. It’s such a shameful thing to admit to, but this is OCD for you.
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Yep. From what i have experienced and read, OCD will attach itself to just about anything. Its so frustrating and annoying but this little thread proves that things eventually get better. Take care
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I have had the same experience as you and many people on this post, mine began with health then POCD then harm and now it’s worrying about schizophrenia,existential and psychosis, I do look back and thank God that I am out of the POCD part especially but this is difficult too, with everything in the moment and living in the UK on lockdown my thoughts are bothering me more but I just have to say these things may or may not be happening let it go (I have an interesting combo but i deal with it day by day knowing I will have better times to come) xx
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Usually the violent intrusive thoughts come in tense situations. Like I’m gonna “snap” or something. I do get fidgety around babies though. I can’t hold them without getting super anxious most the time. Not sure how to handle them I’m new to all this! You’re not alone bro!
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I need advice for intrusive thoughts. I used to feel like I could handle them. They weren’t nearly as bad as the things that related to my actual life. But now, I’m suffering. I haven’t had a sexual experience in over a year that didn’t involve constant intrusive thoughts. Most are somehow related to kids and I keep chasing off the thoughts but it’s so bad. I know you’re supposed to ignore them but I don’t know how I can just ignore that and continue what I’m doing. But they’re coming on stronger. I had one earlier I could not get rid of just as things finished so the thought came on strongly just before my orgasm hit and now I feel absolutely disgusting. I hated the thought and I know it’s not me and it was not enjoyable but it still feels like I was getting off to it. I feel sick. I’m so fucking tired of these thoughts. They’re in my every day life too and it’s all the time. I just want it to stop but ignoring it feels so wrong. What should I do?
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I deal pretty heavily with this. The last couple days, I’ve had what I think are urges. Something pops into my head intrusively and then what stems from that is me WANTING to just indulge in it even though it’s gross. I get worried bc I used to struggle w thoughts about my dad for a long time until eventually I just purposely thought of him while self pleasuring and got off to it. While that’s something I did, it is NOT me. It all stemmed from my mental health declining a couple years back, I was never this way before. So I get worried that it almost happened or might happen with my pocd cuz I could never live with myself if it did.
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Hi Everyone! I hope whoever is reading this is having a good day so far :) So for years now I’ve had very bad intrusive thoughts about things that I have done or embarrassing things that I’ve said or have happened and it’s mortifying and debilitating on a daily basis. Specifically these thoughts are mainly things that have occurred from 2018-2020 and some are more simple just as a stupid joke I made or being way too loud on calls while my family was trying to sleep and others being way more complex such as past relationships and how I’ve hurt some of the people I care the most about and when I have acted on intrusive thoughts and these thoughts will appear with no triggers at all I’ll just wake up and already have something I did just nagging me. I don’t want to live like this anymore and I’ve tried working through it with self compassion but sometimes the things I said or did back then it’s very hard to forgive myself for and I’ll reminisce on it for hours on hours, gaslight myself into believing that’s not how it happened and try to change the memory itself, or just suppress it entirely. I know those habits aren’t healthy and truly I want to get better but I don’t know how to overcome some of these thoughts. I have talked to my fiancé about this a few times and even today we talked about it and he fully supports me and is helping me work through it. I might also contact my sister too, I don’t talk to her overly too much but ever since I was little she’s thought I’ve had ocd and was one of the people who made me consider that I might have it (I’m still undiagnosed but I’ll try to when I have the money and time) and I know she could maybe provide some insight. Another thing that is troublesome about the situation is my other family members specifically my mom aren’t the most helpful and can trigger thoughts. To put it in perspective on how her thought process is and some background info she is an ER nurse and has been for 30 years due to this she believes she knows mainly everything there is about mental health and she gets extremely upset when I don’t take her advice or set boundaries. She’ll force me to talk to her about my problems and when I don’t want to she’ll pin me in a corner where I’m forced to and last summer I had a really bad episode and was really overstimulated and I just finished taking a shower and due to the water on me, my hair being wet (my hair is naturally curly and it takes forever to dry and it’s very draining taking care of even with a keratin treatment) and all the intrusive thoughts I was having and she forced me to talk to her and I did open up for the first time about my thoughts and brought up how sometimes I have thoughts of hurting my animals and it makes me physically sick. Her response to this was threatening to call the cops on me saying it was a behavioral thing and I was doing it for attention. I have never hurt any of my animals but later that day my cat came into my room and a few minutes later she comes up just gives me the death stare and after a few seconds just asks me “are you going to go kill snickers?” In the most condescending tone and she’s always like this daily where she’ll force advice onto me or get upset and yell and then reinforce thoughts I’m having. I just want to know first how to stop the thoughts from so frequently and how to heal in an environmental where it keeps reopening wounds despite trying to place boundaries? I’m sorry this is really long I usually do go really in detail about things and it’s just how I’ve always been. If anyone has any questions feel free to ask and I’ll answer them to the best of my ability. I really appreciate the time you took to read this and thank you for your help! 🥰
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