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Okay Ive struggled a lot with the harm and sexual stuff. Something that helped me is when my therapist told me that "your thoughts aren't facts". She meant that the obsessive thoughts ur having about harm and sexual stuff aren't your own true thoughts u believe, tho in the moment they do definitely seem like it. So when u r having those thoughts in the moment start to think that those obsessive thoughts r just your ocd and arent a reflection of ur true thoughts. Even if u cant convince urself this, even thinking or saying that can help u to differentiate the two. This takes practice so dont feel rushed or overwhelmed by it not working right away:) Also another major thing I learned that helped me so much is to NOT focus so hard on NOT having obsessive thought on those sexual or harmful thoughts bc as we know that will only make them come more. When those thoughts come, acknowledge that "yes they are there at the moment, these thoughts are not a true reflection of me though it may feel like they are". Then try and do something or focus on something else. The thoughts might still try to come back but try not to give them power and repeat the aknowledgaknowledging and move through them. ---Move through the thoughts, dont let them paralyze you. I hope this helped a little. Also, you need to be patient with yourself. U are going to mess up and that it perfectly okay and expected so dont be mad at urself ever! U need to have patience with urself when these obsessive thoughts come. IIf u need any more advice or just somebody to talk to or talk u through it im here for you:)
Well said! Thank you for sharing and thanks for the advice!!
Very well said! Thank you!
Thank you for that post its really calming my thoughts right now haha
I use to struggle with violent or sexual thoughts and i know for a fact that i would never do any of them but thats what ocd does. It could help to remember that even tho in the moment u feel you might hurt or even purposely hurt babies, in reality that isnt true amd those are just ocd thoughts, those thoughts that you have in the moment arent a reflection of you.
I am with you on Harm thoughts. They used to consume my life. I still remember it as my first theme and my first stuck/ocd thought that lead me into discovering that I might possibly have pure ocd. I remember being completely terrified. I really don’t struggle with those anymore. I think for me, getting pets helped me overcome it. As silly as it sounds, I was so afraid to have a pet and that I might hurt it. When I got my first cat, I was so afraid I’d stab her or something, but I let the thoughts be there and I was successful in allowing the thoughts and they only for quieter and smaller. Now I I have three pets and I love them all to death. I still get the harm thoughts sometimes but they don’t have power over me. My biggest theme to date was fear of psychosis or schizophrenia. That one was a really REALLY bad one for me. It was probably the darkest time of my life. My complusions were the worst in that time. And I climbed out of that obsession to by quitting my compulsions and accepting the possibility that it could happen someday and no amount of worrying could change the result of that.
Ive been afraid of the scitzefrania too! I thought i was the only one
@g432 It’s really common in the ocd is world. I had it so so terribly.
@ruminating_redhead Wow that must've been so stressful for u:(
Happy for you! Glad you are comfortable with loving your cats! Also I completely forgot that I dealt with the schizophrenia stuff too lol it was once upon a time. It mustve not had that much of an impact on me of I forgot about it.
@g432 It was when I was going through it. I hope you are dealing with yours okay.
@Hylian Isn’t is funny how we can totally forget about themes that were at one point the end of the world in our eyes? It feels good to look back and see that you were able to get yourself out of that mess because it means that you can do it with other themes too!
Yeah harm and sexual stuff. I still struggle most with responsibility OCDs in various formats.
Yes I can totally relate! Its ok! We will overcome!!
I’ve had many, one particular problem I still deal with is taking objects from my own property and thinking they lose value if I do this. I can’t take books on vacation with me, or anywhere from my own private collection, as I sometimes think my collection will lose its value and people would recognise that a great book would be missing. It’s such a shameful thing to admit to, but this is OCD for you.
Yep. From what i have experienced and read, OCD will attach itself to just about anything. Its so frustrating and annoying but this little thread proves that things eventually get better. Take care
I have had the same experience as you and many people on this post, mine began with health then POCD then harm and now it’s worrying about schizophrenia,existential and psychosis, I do look back and thank God that I am out of the POCD part especially but this is difficult too, with everything in the moment and living in the UK on lockdown my thoughts are bothering me more but I just have to say these things may or may not be happening let it go (I have an interesting combo but i deal with it day by day knowing I will have better times to come) xx
Usually the violent intrusive thoughts come in tense situations. Like I’m gonna “snap” or something. I do get fidgety around babies though. I can’t hold them without getting super anxious most the time. Not sure how to handle them I’m new to all this! You’re not alone bro!
How do you deal with the intrusive thoughts around babies about you doing something bad to them? I'm constantly getting these thoughts while babysitting my cousin even though I wouldn't do bad things these thoughts bother me so much
I have been dealing with intrusive thoughts for a long time, and while most of them don’t affect me anymore, there are ones that really concern me and make me feel panic. They make me feel like I could actually act on the intrusive thought and I’m just holding myself back from it. It’s really scary and I don’t know who I am anymore.
Recently I’ve been having scary intrusive thoughts about hurting myself or others. I’m so scared, what do I do?? I wouldn’t hurt a fly.
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