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Okay Ive struggled a lot with the harm and sexual stuff. Something that helped me is when my therapist told me that "your thoughts aren't facts". She meant that the obsessive thoughts ur having about harm and sexual stuff aren't your own true thoughts u believe, tho in the moment they do definitely seem like it. So when u r having those thoughts in the moment start to think that those obsessive thoughts r just your ocd and arent a reflection of ur true thoughts. Even if u cant convince urself this, even thinking or saying that can help u to differentiate the two. This takes practice so dont feel rushed or overwhelmed by it not working right away:) Also another major thing I learned that helped me so much is to NOT focus so hard on NOT having obsessive thought on those sexual or harmful thoughts bc as we know that will only make them come more. When those thoughts come, acknowledge that "yes they are there at the moment, these thoughts are not a true reflection of me though it may feel like they are". Then try and do something or focus on something else. The thoughts might still try to come back but try not to give them power and repeat the aknowledgaknowledging and move through them. ---Move through the thoughts, dont let them paralyze you. I hope this helped a little. Also, you need to be patient with yourself. U are going to mess up and that it perfectly okay and expected so dont be mad at urself ever! U need to have patience with urself when these obsessive thoughts come. IIf u need any more advice or just somebody to talk to or talk u through it im here for you:)
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Well said! Thank you for sharing and thanks for the advice!!
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Very well said! Thank you!
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Thank you for that post its really calming my thoughts right now haha
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I use to struggle with violent or sexual thoughts and i know for a fact that i would never do any of them but thats what ocd does. It could help to remember that even tho in the moment u feel you might hurt or even purposely hurt babies, in reality that isnt true amd those are just ocd thoughts, those thoughts that you have in the moment arent a reflection of you.
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I am with you on Harm thoughts. They used to consume my life. I still remember it as my first theme and my first stuck/ocd thought that lead me into discovering that I might possibly have pure ocd. I remember being completely terrified. I really don’t struggle with those anymore. I think for me, getting pets helped me overcome it. As silly as it sounds, I was so afraid to have a pet and that I might hurt it. When I got my first cat, I was so afraid I’d stab her or something, but I let the thoughts be there and I was successful in allowing the thoughts and they only for quieter and smaller. Now I I have three pets and I love them all to death. I still get the harm thoughts sometimes but they don’t have power over me. My biggest theme to date was fear of psychosis or schizophrenia. That one was a really REALLY bad one for me. It was probably the darkest time of my life. My complusions were the worst in that time. And I climbed out of that obsession to by quitting my compulsions and accepting the possibility that it could happen someday and no amount of worrying could change the result of that.
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Ive been afraid of the scitzefrania too! I thought i was the only one
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@g432 It’s really common in the ocd is world. I had it so so terribly.
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@ruminating_redhead Wow that must've been so stressful for u:(
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Happy for you! Glad you are comfortable with loving your cats! Also I completely forgot that I dealt with the schizophrenia stuff too lol it was once upon a time. It mustve not had that much of an impact on me of I forgot about it.
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@g432 It was when I was going through it. I hope you are dealing with yours okay.
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@Hylian Isn’t is funny how we can totally forget about themes that were at one point the end of the world in our eyes? It feels good to look back and see that you were able to get yourself out of that mess because it means that you can do it with other themes too!
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Yeah harm and sexual stuff. I still struggle most with responsibility OCDs in various formats.
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Yes I can totally relate! Its ok! We will overcome!!
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I’ve had many, one particular problem I still deal with is taking objects from my own property and thinking they lose value if I do this. I can’t take books on vacation with me, or anywhere from my own private collection, as I sometimes think my collection will lose its value and people would recognise that a great book would be missing. It’s such a shameful thing to admit to, but this is OCD for you.
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Yep. From what i have experienced and read, OCD will attach itself to just about anything. Its so frustrating and annoying but this little thread proves that things eventually get better. Take care
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I have had the same experience as you and many people on this post, mine began with health then POCD then harm and now it’s worrying about schizophrenia,existential and psychosis, I do look back and thank God that I am out of the POCD part especially but this is difficult too, with everything in the moment and living in the UK on lockdown my thoughts are bothering me more but I just have to say these things may or may not be happening let it go (I have an interesting combo but i deal with it day by day knowing I will have better times to come) xx
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Usually the violent intrusive thoughts come in tense situations. Like I’m gonna “snap” or something. I do get fidgety around babies though. I can’t hold them without getting super anxious most the time. Not sure how to handle them I’m new to all this! You’re not alone bro!
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How do yall handle intrusive thoughts !? I never realized that was a thing I think I’ve been dealing with this sense I was in elementary school I remember getting on the bus and had the the worry my mom was gonna get in an accident and it’s just gone from there
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Has anyone had this fear that they were abused in childhood and just don’t remember? And that’s why you have harm related thoughts? Like, I kept thinking if my mom abused me in childhood even though I had not ever thought or felt that way before, it came up a few months ago when my therapist was talking about complex PTSD which then freaked me out thinking something super horrific happened in my childhood and I just don’t remember it. My mom and I are super close, always have been. My mom was protective of me, but never in an abusive sense. She would just worry whenever I went out with friends and such, and wanted me to text her every now and again to let me know what was going on. Even in adulthood she sometimes wants to check in on me if I go out somewhere (even though we live together) and she even tells me to not worry about it and she knows it’s just her anxiety that gets the best of her, thinking something bad happened or what not. Anyway, I kept thinking about this and I thought is this abusive behavior? My mom wanting to check in on me? And I think of course not, it shows she cares and loves me. It’s not like she’s a hounding my phone every second or what not, just a text or a call to see what’s up. But my mind takes it further and thinks this is controlling behavior or something. So it goes back to the was I abused in childhood and I just have repressed memories, and that’s why I get harm thoughts towards my mom. I’m always thinking there is a deeper meaning. I never even thought that before in my life, about the abuse part, but it has become stuck in my mind and I’m scared it will ruin my relationship with my mom.
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This may upset some people reading so here is just a warning that these are disturbing I don’t know what to do to make the bad thoughts stop. My mom recently had a baby, my little brother. I wasn’t exactly happy about this pregnancy, but I have nothing against my brother. He’s adorable and silly. Nothing against him. But I feel like these thoughts bug me because what if deep down I do resent him because I didn’t want my mom to have another kid? What if I did act on these things because I hate him? What if I just lose it and do something? It’s all so illogical, I know. Never would I ever want to do that. But there’s times I’m watching him for a few minutes for my mom and my brain just shows me an awful scene of me brutally hurting him or killing him. Or I’ll be holding him and my brain shows me a scene where I purposefully drop him or I just hurt him so badly. I’ll be walking near him and my brain tells me I’m going to stomp on him. It shows me such bad things. I have intrusive thoughts all the time, but this is different because there’s a semi good reason I “could” do it. That being, I wasn’t happy about the pregnancy. And it scares me. I’ve started crying because I was so scared it was going to happen. I have to back up away from him or sit down so there’s no way I can do anything. I feel horrible. I don’t want to hurt him. And I’m so scared I will. But I won’t. I’m hoping this makes sense to others who struggle with this. Because to anyone else who’s never gone through these things I’ll sound insane. And sound like a psychopath. Thanks for reading. Any help would be appreciated.
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