- Username
- worryqueen
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I know the feeling I’ve been stuck feeling guilty about something that happened over 5 years ago. Right now I’m focusing on my plan of not engaging in reassurance and googling my worries. It’s really hard when the anxiety hits but hoping to work through it
I've been trying to do that as well but it hasn't been going too good, it's terrible to work through
@worryqueen Yeah it’s really hard
I know exactly how you feel. Not only do I feel terrible guilt I know if I don't continue checking, which is my main compulsion, something even more horrible would happen and I'd not be able to live with myself. All because of my ptsd and anxiety and ocd. But if I live like that for the rest of my life I would be punishing myself. We're all humans and this is what I tell others and I should and have been trying to take this advice; it's easier to forgive others than yourself but you deserve to be loved by you and the first step is learning to forgive yourself. What would you tell your friend if he/she was feeling how you are feeling? You learn from your past and not let it happen. From what you wrote you're only reliving that feeling. Maybe you can write a letter to yourself for forgiveness. Remember forgiving is not condoning what has happened but rather taking it in and learning from it. If someone hurt you, you're not forgiving them but doing it for yourself. I doubt you did anything that's a crime. Maybe if you try to feel that pain in a safe place with a therapist?
Everyone makes mistakes. Don't be hard on yourself. Yes easier said than done because I'm saying from experience but it's a useless feeling. You know how I try to right the wrong for me that makes me happy? Donating to animal rescue groups and being an advocate for the animals. Maybe you can help others? Tale it easy, loving yourself is hard thing to do. I struggle with it but you deserve to be kind towards yourself. ❤
Thann you, it's incredibly hard to forgive myself for what I did and I feel like some sort of abuser because of it. Like I'm a criminal who got away with a crime. But I'll take your suggestions and try to work on it more.
Hi, I think your best bet is acceptance. It’s an incredibly hard thing to do, but if you just try and accept that what happened in the past can’t be changed, and you acknowledge that you made a mistake but realize that mistakes don’t make you a bad person, then you can try to move on from it. I hope that helps.
I will try to accept myself but it feels like I need to do more, tell more people so I can get the reassurance that I'm not some sort of criminal. That's what it feels like. Thank you, though.
@worryqueen I know exactly how you feel I felt like some sort of criminal too. I asked friends all the time if I did anything wrong and they continued to reassure me that I didn’t. But I always needed more reassurance but this is my main compulsion and I stopped asking and I encourage you to try and do the same
@Tmbc2740 Thank you, I will try. It's nice to know I'm not the only one.
Question, does anyone else experience real life event ocd? Like they have a lot of guilt about events that happened in the past and can’t seem to move on from it. It is related to my suicide ocd and I wish I could just move on from the past but I have so much guilt for it even though everyone is telling me to move on! I read that this could be considered real life event ocd but am just wondering if anyone else feels the same.
Hi there! Does anyone else experience real event OCD? My days lately are filled with (sometimes) crippling guilt and shame over real things that have happened in the past. These are all things that are relatively minor in the grand scheme of things. I’ve talked to friends/family/therapists about them and I’m reassured they aren’t “that bad” but my mind can’t seem to let them go. Anyone else dealing with this? Any tips for forward progress? Much love to you all. ❤️
For the longest time I let go of my past mistakes and it didn’t bother me for a while and then all of a sudden it’s like my mind won’t shut up about it and I feel an intense amount of guilt again . Talked to my mom about it a long time ago and also my first therapist (haven’t talked to my current one about it yet) and I asked my mom today if anything that I brought up about my past that I should worry about and she pretty much gave me a lecture that I need to let it go and stop obsessing over it which is easier said than done when you have ocd but hey I can’t expect her to completely understand. I just don’t understand why one day I don’t think about it one bit and then the next I’m having a panic attack and can’t forgive myself because of my past. It’s so frustrating. Any advice? Anyone gone through Real Event Ocd and gotten through it?
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