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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Rumination was my main compulsion. I stopped ruminating using the "worry period"/"maybe later" method. I start by telling my brain I'll do it later when I get the urge to ruminate. I literally promise that I'll do it later that day just not RIGHT THAT MOMENT. Then I have a worry period later in the day where I'm allowed to worry. Sometimes when it's time for the worry period, I don't feel anxious at that time and don't need to worry. So I don't. And if I get more worries that day, I tell my brain "I'll worry about that during my next worry period". Over time, I don't even need to promise anymore. I just say "maybe later" and don't do it. This is a really good method. First it proves to your brain that the worry isn't as urgent as it felt. Then it proves to your brain that not worrying doesn't make bad things happen. Then it proves to YOU that you have the power and ability to choose when and where and how much to worry based on what is appropriate. Right from the start of using this method, you start to get your time and your life back.
I loooove this method! Another thing about this method is to set a specific time where you worry for say 30 minutes. And do everything you can to fill that 30 minutes, even if you feel like you’ve run out of things to worry about! It’s such a good method to start cutting out compulsions, I love it
Mindfulness: Allows you to stay here and now and let the train of thoughts travel without getting fixated over it. Acceptance: Let go of your struggle and exhaustion that you have while trying to change the present/future and let the past events flow. Balancing your thoughts: There are certain thinking traps that you sometimes get caught in and balancing them enables you to think about other things. Example, I don't know what will be the result of my actions, but most of the things turn out okay. I know I've tried the best I can in the given situations.
Mindfulness and meditation. Build a practice. Try the Headspace app, all meditations are free currently with the global crisis.
I wish I knew!!!!! If anyone has any techniques please let us know.
One of the few things I did helped were telling urself the past is NEVER gonna come back so no matter how much u think about it it will ALWAYS be in the past. Like no if ands or buts about it, so instead of realizing that later realizing it now will save so much time and energy and u will be able to live without worrying about the past. Just be like the past is the past and nothing I say or do will change it. Like nothing. And the for the future I would say and I struggle with this too tho so I'm not 100% deadset confident about this one but I reckon what worked a bit for me was that the future Is uncertain and we can only do limited things in our power to control it. But the thing is the only thing we have 100000% control over is the present, the now. And how and what we make of it will MAKE the FUTURE. so If u focus on the now by just thinking of these mindsets of the past and future Im sure it should help as it helped me. Good luck!! ??
Thank you so much!!!!! I will try this!!!! Much appreciated.
All good!!! ??
Mindfulness is a great tool! Can recommend Jon Hershfields books about mindfulness and OCD treatment, they are great. Nithing you learn in a moment, you have to practice it over and ovar again.
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Any tips for dealing with guilt and shame about your past? I know I’ll never live my present if I keep letting old memories weigh me down.
What are some strategies you use to keep intrusive thoughts at bay between therapy sessions?
I should probably give a bit of a back story 1st: I am a 41 y/o Momma of 4 absolutely beautiful kiddos ages 22(g), 18(b), 7(b), and 6(g) sadly that's going through a separation/divorce from their dad, and after 24 years together & 23 years married (2 separations of 2½years each in there which ended 10 years ago) I am having the worst time dealing with this. I need to find a way to make these days of watching me live out my entire life inmy head. I'm going over all the good and bad moments, mistakes & regrets replaying everything, even the life without him for years before we met & then during separations previously. So I've made a lot of bad choices and surprisingly have lived a very full life in such a short amount of time. I want all of the thoughts to stop and I need help. I have done meditation and all I can think of but now I'm in such a bad state of mind and my depression is so bad, my overthinking is so so so bad and i can't make it stop.
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