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Happy thanksgiving! Gender has nothing to do with themes. Any gender could get any theme. You’re not the only guy ROCD, that’s for sure. I’m sorry you’re struggling with OCD. It can be hard sometimes. Do you practice ERP and ACT? It does help a lot. Maybe your girlfriend isn’t the one. The best thing you can do is expose yourself to the thoughts and accept the uncertainty.
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I used to but since I’m no longer in the relationship all I do now is think about her and still go through the whole I still love her one moment and a few hours later I start to think I hate that bitch smh. It is what it is though bro.
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I definitely had ROCD in my last relationship and I didn’t know it was a thing until I downloaded this app today. I used to cry at least once or twice a day about how distraught I was being with my boyfriend because I was stressing out thinking that he wasn’t the one. It took me over a year to stop constantly worrying about my relationship and tbh it didn’t stop until we broke up. I don’t want to bring you down, especially because I know you can overcome this in your relationship if that’s what you want. I understand how hard this can be and I’m hoping you find strength here ❤️
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Well you can be rest assured that OCD does not discriminate. ? it’s a fair opportunity work place. Lol I had ROCD and slightly do with my ex. But I’m trying to push him out of my life.
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Yo.
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...and all this is very frustrating :( I am feeling like it is the only option to brake up one day and stop struggling, however there is a thing that worries me the most - I was married 4 years ago and we divorced after 6 months of being a couple, the feeling was exactly the same. When this time I started feeling EXACTLY THE SAME I decided to fight
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I’m a guy who has a type of ROCD, if I choose to categorize it like that. (I’m learning that OCD is just OCD, and it will latch on to anything one cares about.) My OCD has latched onto the fear that something sexual might occur between my girlfriend and another man. Even like walking down the street, my OCD thinks she might bump into, or brush against, someone, and something sexual might happen. It is sooooooo annoying. Beyond annoying, really. But with ERP, it’s starting to be just annoying, and not like an intense heart-break feeling every time. Ug, OCD.
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Yeah, I understand what you feel. It happens sometimes to me as well. Interesting thing is that sometimes my brain is not so active generating OCD symptoms and I get into the remission for couple days.Also, I have noticed when my mom starts missing me (she is currently in Ukraine and I am living in Portugal) I am getting upset and this is causing new wave of OCD stress
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Yeah, other stressful things in life definitely tend to make OCD symptoms increase. The only positive spin I can put on it is to say, okay, this is an opportunity to resist doing compulsions, in the face of anxiety, and thus put a little dent in my OCD. Sending good wishes to everyone on this thread, and everyone with OCD!
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I just saw my boyfriend, and even though everything was okay on the outside, inside my mind it was a storm. I kept having thoughts like: “You don’t like him.” “You’re not feeling anything.” “You’re pretending.” “You don’t care.” And then, he said something sweet — something that should’ve made me feel happy: “We should marry.” And instead of warmth, I felt anxiety. A pit in my stomach. A voice in my head saying: “You don’t want that.” “You’ll never stay with him.” “If you really loved him, you’d feel joy.” And I hate it. I hate that I’m in this state. I don’t feel connected. I don’t feel clarity. I don’t even know what I feel anymore. I just feel… numb. And the worst part? It feels like I don’t even care. But I know I do. Somewhere, beneath all the noise and panic and obsessive thoughts, I care. I want to feel close to him. I want to stop second-guessing every word, every touch, every thought. This is ROCD. It makes me question everything. It makes me feel like I’m lying — even when I’m not. It steals the moments that should feel warm and turns them into confusion. If anyone else feels this awful mix of numbness, fear, and guilt — please tell me I’m not alone.
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Hi everyone. I’ve been struggling for a long time with what I believe is ROCD. I constantly have doubts about my feelings toward my boyfriend. I feel numb, disconnected, unsure if I ever truly loved him, and sometimes I fear that I’m just pretending or lying to myself. I don’t feel happy when I think of him, I don’t miss him, and when I imagine doing things together, I feel nothing. And that terrifies me. But what hurts me even more right now is that my psychologist told me she doesn’t think I have OCD. She said I just believe it’s wrong not to like my boyfriend, and that’s why I’m stuck — because I can’t accept that I don’t like him. This only made my fears worse. Now I keep thinking: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m writing all this because I want it to be ROCD so I can feel better about not loving him?” But deep down, I’m suffering. I feel trapped in a fog of anxiety and detachment. I’ve had obsessive thoughts since I was little — especially intrusive ones, like inappropriate words or thoughts that made me feel really guilty. I would even tell my mom about them. So now I’m wondering… was this OCD all along? Why does it feel like my pain is invisible? And the worst part is… he loves me so much. He shows it in so many ways. He truly cares. But I don’t feel connected to him. I look at him and I feel nothing. Sometimes I feel like I’m acting — like I’m just going through the motions. And that makes me feel like the worst person in the world. I feel like no one else has ROCD like mine. That maybe I’m the exception. That maybe I’m not really struggling with OCD — maybe I’m just lying to myself. But I don’t want to lie. I want peace. I want to feel love again. I want to feel like myself again. If anyone has gone through this, or has felt the same after being dismissed by a therapist, please let me know. I feel so scared and alone. Thank you for reading.
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it started when i simply worried about my partner losing feelings because she was being a bit distant and so i obviously spiraled and started thinking “oh yeah she has to be losing feelings of some sort” she was only being distant because she was preparing for her confirmation party (this is important) and me and my friend hung out the same day and ended up walking to her house to say hello to her as a joke. but i was already way too deep in my spiral. right after that interaction with her, she literally reassured me right then and there that i was “cute” and that “she really likes me” but i was so caught up in the idea that shes losing feelings for me that i couldnt accept the reassurance and kept having intrusive thoughts that shes lying to me and that she doesnt mean it. but whatever, i wasnt THAT worried because her confirmation is coming up and she wouldnt lose feelings for me before something like that right? a couple days pass by and im at her confirmation party, shes being a little distant but only because shes tired (evidently too) and so i was still in a spiral. but then i met her family, and her mom let me have her number (in case i wanna schedule something with my gf) and that sparked a whole episode. i talked to her mom a couple times and started worrying about if what it would be like it i left my gf and how it would affect me and her family and quickly a thought followed up with all her physical imperfections and how much i dont like specific ones. and then another one came up. i saw one photo pf my partner and swore it looked like someone in my math class who isnt attractive. i managed to get rid of that thought the first time, and had to deal with the imperfections idea thing for a whole month. recently tho, the unattractive girl from my math class is popping up in my head again. i cannot get it out of my head, any advice? what is this phenomenon and also im pretty sure im the only person who has dealt with all of these thoughts.
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