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- Rob12
- Date posted
- 4y ago
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- FathomableFathomable
- Date posted
- 4y ago
It was a real event, and you have OCD about it. The event happened, and you're experiencing OCD symptoms about it. Therefore, you have real event OCD. You could be literally Hitler and still have real event OCD and your real event OCD would be legitimately OCD. Even if you feel the guilt and rumination are appropriate to the mistake (which I'd argue is prob down to a lack of self compassion and black and white thinking), symptoms like not being able to stop, wanting to confess, the fact that it's only started bothering you now, it interfering with your ability to live your life, comparing your event to others' and seeking reassurance that it's not as bad as it feels, and any other behaviours you've noticed, are OCD symptoms.
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- Mila19Mila19
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I think everyone with real event ocd thinks their real event is so much worse than everyone else’s. That’s a part of the ocd as well. It’s really sucky but you have to do erp with that thought as well until you habituate to the discomfort- for example “you’re maybe right ocd, maybe my real event was a lot worse than everyone else’s.” It’s so much easier said than done, but erp really helps! It doesn’t make it go away in my experience, but it helps lower the intensity.
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- Rob12Rob12
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Thanks for the reply! Yeah, that makes sense. It’s something I’m going to have to face eventually.
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- TCVM6TCVM6
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I have OCD about a real event as well and I am here for you! You are not alone! It’s possible your actions as well as my own make you an immoral person or maybe they don’t! We all must accept uncertainty and refocus. We are all in this together and we will get joy back in our lives!
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- ocdillustratedocdillustrated
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I hear you. For what it's worth, I've heard many, many people say the same thing. I don't know whether the guilt is reasonable or not-and confessing what you did won't change that. You say that you see behaviors that fit the OCD cycle. How willing are you to respond as if it's ocd, despite not being sure?
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- Rob12Rob12
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Thanks for replying! I guess it’s just thought accepting that I did it and I really can’t wrap my head around why I did it. I know that it doesn’t align with my values now, but why did I do it then? Those are the types of questions that I ask myself. I just feel a lot of shame about it.
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- ocdillustratedocdillustrated
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@Rob12 Have you found satisfactory answers to the questions so far?
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- Rob12Rob12
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@NOCD Advocate - Katie No, I’ve never been able to come up with a solid reason as to why I did it.
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- ocdillustratedocdillustrated
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@Rob12 So what's the likelihood continued searching will get you an answer, based on your previous experience? Is the potential benefit worth the current cost to your well-being and functioning?
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- Rob12Rob12
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@NOCD Advocate - Katie No, I suppose not. That does sort of put it into perspective. Thanks for that :)
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- ocdillustratedocdillustrated
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@Rob12 Anything to help :)
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- Anonymous
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I keep thinking about something I did when I was a little girl,and wonder if I’m a twisted piece of shit,I feel like this event has marked me for ever,and determines the kind of person I am now,I am at a loss,I’m 50 years old and I’ve had this my whole life,and it never gets easier.Just putting it out there,I think this is real event ocd,has anyone out there experienced this?
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- Ocdislame
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Can real event ocd, or ocd in general make you feel bad for something you did that was actually wrong? I keep thinking about things I’ve done in the past that are defiantly wrong and shitty things. But I’ve never really thought of them before. I knew they were terrible things, and I’ve not gone back since. Maybe 10+ years ago (when I was 19-21). I thought real event ocd was your brain taking things that are trivial and twisting them to make you seem bad. In these cases I’ve grown as a person l, I’m really not proud of myself and hope to never go back to that place. Is this ocd, or am I suddenly just feeling remorse for being a terrible person? I just feel the need to confess to my wife again, even though she knows most of it.
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- ghost
- Date posted
- 18w ago
Real Event OCD, Regret, and POCD
Hi everyone, I am 20 years old with ADHD and i need some help. Recently, i got diagnosed with OCD; and i am dealing with Real event OCD/intrusive thoughts. When i was 16, i said something out loud (i think that was impulsive/intrusive) that was immorally wrong and against my morals. I was aware of my wrong doing, yet i still said it because i announced it in a “jokingly way” i completely regret it and ashamed of it. i don’t want to go into detail on what i said, because i don’t feel comfortable. But anyways, at the time i didn’t think what i said was “bad” and i just brushed it off to the side. then 1-2 months later, i came to the realization, that what i said was wrong. Since then, i have been fixated on the event as i feel like a “bad person”. What is wrong with me? Why would i say that? I feel like i don’t deserve pity or forgiveness. I don’t know what to do. I am not trying to find reassurance. I just want to find people who share similar experiences.
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