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So her sexual orientation was set. But people can sometimes be curious about the same sex, and experimentation doesn’t mean you’re gay. Even thoughts about sex and same sex doesn’t mean you’re gay. Actions matter, thoughts do not
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I don’t get your point sorry cat_attack?
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Those gay people still know they’re gay they don’t just wake up one day and realise it. They CHOOSE to hide it. Have curious thoughts / experimentation doesn’t mean you’re gay. It means you’re a sexual being. Sexual orientation is much more than sex. It’s to do with romantic connection, emotional connection etc. so I don’t get your point and actually what you said is a trigger so be careful around HOCD. You have POCD. It’s different
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You should know that even if you suddenly became attracted to an individual, you have the choice to whether or not you want to act on that. You would have complete control over your actions because OCD does not actually affect our self control (not an impulsive disorder). You would also have the choice over how to label your sexuality. People experimenting with their sexuality generally aren’t disturbed by the thoughts but are actually relieved because they feel they are embracing their most authentic self. The ultimate point is this- yes, a teensy tiny risk exists, but your chances of being a different sexuality than you think you are is no different than that risk for the general population.
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Well nicky I wouldn’t exactly agree with that because I’ve made out with girls before and liked it, thought it was sexy and even still I am NOT a lesbian or bisexual (trust me I know, years of pocd to figure it out) and there are tons of gay people who live their lives straight, never touching the same sex, but know in their heart it is what they want.
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Oh lord. No I truly don’t know the difference between all the things, Pcod, hcod, whatever that may be. And I don’t look up what they mean because that would be a trigger to me! And what I said was meant to help them. I didn’t want them reading what you wrote then having OCD get the better of them and one day make out with someone they aren’t interested in that way turn into them thinking then they MUST be the sexual orientation they were trying to hide. I’m disagreeing with what you said that actions matter. In regards to this, they don’t.
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i had recently been triggered to have so-ocd. its been on my mind non-stop. (i am a heterosexual female) and my mind has been all over the place questioning if i have been in denial the entire time. ive always had people tell me they sort of got that vibe it it never really affected me until my own mother had her suspicions. so i would constantly get triggered un public around the same gender, while knowing my true sexuality. ive always been attracted to men but as of recently ive been having super bad anxiety to where i cannot eat or sleep and feel weak all the time. it was like that for a week or so. now im in the calm where i have been trying accept the uncertainty but it still isnt fair as im getting triggered. im a little worried because it feels like i have been lying to my parents the entire time although ive never had the desire to be with the same gender. and i keep getting intrusive thoguhts that make me feel anxious and uncomfortable. its all starting to affect my friendships as im constantly getting triggered with the intrusive thoguhts. i feel a little less anxious compared to how i was a couple days ago. im really scared on why im having these thoughts now when i have been having romantic feelings for a guy the past year or so. ive also been struggling with false attraction and loss attraction to men. it makes me feel uncertain of my life the entire time
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I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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