Was watching a show called atypical with my girlfriend the other day and one of the stars has a boyfriend but she starts getting infinite with her best friend who is a girl. Triggered me like crazy. I don’t have a problem with a couple girls getting intimate lol I just got spiked that her sexual orientation was then uncertain as she was sexually active with her boyfriend and still kind of experimenting with a female of the same gender. I’ve never experimented with a male and I don’t want to. I’m aware sexuality can be fluid and that’s scary. Im in love with my girlfriend and am Sexually active as well. I don’t want to leave her for anyone whether that be male or female. My intrusive thoughts always give me great anxiety when I come across situations like those presented in the show. The biggest thing I did was just accept that I can have thoughts and I don’t need to label them or judge them. I have a choice for what I want to do. I know who I am and what I want deep in my heart and I won’t allow intrusive thoughts to manipulate me. Just accept your thoughts as they are without black and white thinking and breathe. Live through your values.

So her sexual orientation was set. But people can sometimes be curious about the same sex, and experimentation doesn’t mean you’re gay. Even thoughts about sex and same sex doesn’t mean you’re gay. Actions matter, thoughts do not

I don’t get your point sorry cat_attack?

Those gay people still know they’re gay they don’t just wake up one day and realise it. They CHOOSE to hide it. Have curious thoughts / experimentation doesn’t mean you’re gay. It means you’re a sexual being. Sexual orientation is much more than sex. It’s to do with romantic connection, emotional connection etc. so I don’t get your point and actually what you said is a trigger so be careful around HOCD. You have POCD. It’s different

You should know that even if you suddenly became attracted to an individual, you have the choice to whether or not you want to act on that. You would have complete control over your actions because OCD does not actually affect our self control (not an impulsive disorder). You would also have the choice over how to label your sexuality. People experimenting with their sexuality generally aren’t disturbed by the thoughts but are actually relieved because they feel they are embracing their most authentic self. The ultimate point is this- yes, a teensy tiny risk exists, but your chances of being a different sexuality than you think you are is no different than that risk for the general population.

Well nicky I wouldn’t exactly agree with that because I’ve made out with girls before and liked it, thought it was sexy and even still I am NOT a lesbian or bisexual (trust me I know, years of pocd to figure it out) and there are tons of gay people who live their lives straight, never touching the same sex, but know in their heart it is what they want.

Oh lord. No I truly don’t know the difference between all the things, Pcod, hcod, whatever that may be. And I don’t look up what they mean because that would be a trigger to me! And what I said was meant to help them. I didn’t want them reading what you wrote then having OCD get the better of them and one day make out with someone they aren’t interested in that way turn into them thinking then they MUST be the sexual orientation they were trying to hide. I’m disagreeing with what you said that actions matter. In regards to this, they don’t.