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- 6y ago
- Date posted
- 6y ago
So her sexual orientation was set. But people can sometimes be curious about the same sex, and experimentation doesn’t mean you’re gay. Even thoughts about sex and same sex doesn’t mean you’re gay. Actions matter, thoughts do not
- Date posted
- 6y ago
I don’t get your point sorry cat_attack?
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- 6y ago
Those gay people still know they’re gay they don’t just wake up one day and realise it. They CHOOSE to hide it. Have curious thoughts / experimentation doesn’t mean you’re gay. It means you’re a sexual being. Sexual orientation is much more than sex. It’s to do with romantic connection, emotional connection etc. so I don’t get your point and actually what you said is a trigger so be careful around HOCD. You have POCD. It’s different
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- 6y ago
You should know that even if you suddenly became attracted to an individual, you have the choice to whether or not you want to act on that. You would have complete control over your actions because OCD does not actually affect our self control (not an impulsive disorder). You would also have the choice over how to label your sexuality. People experimenting with their sexuality generally aren’t disturbed by the thoughts but are actually relieved because they feel they are embracing their most authentic self. The ultimate point is this- yes, a teensy tiny risk exists, but your chances of being a different sexuality than you think you are is no different than that risk for the general population.
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Well nicky I wouldn’t exactly agree with that because I’ve made out with girls before and liked it, thought it was sexy and even still I am NOT a lesbian or bisexual (trust me I know, years of pocd to figure it out) and there are tons of gay people who live their lives straight, never touching the same sex, but know in their heart it is what they want.
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- 6y ago
Oh lord. No I truly don’t know the difference between all the things, Pcod, hcod, whatever that may be. And I don’t look up what they mean because that would be a trigger to me! And what I said was meant to help them. I didn’t want them reading what you wrote then having OCD get the better of them and one day make out with someone they aren’t interested in that way turn into them thinking then they MUST be the sexual orientation they were trying to hide. I’m disagreeing with what you said that actions matter. In regards to this, they don’t.
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- Date posted
- 24w ago
The thoughts still exist. For the last couple months I’ve been able to say I don’t care and lean into the comfort of being uncertain. Im having a tough time with some things personally right now and guess what decides to show up… Anyways, I’ve been trying to get used to the fact that maybe I’m bisexual with a romantic preference for men (I’m married and love my husband) but when you start going through your compulsions it’s soooo easy for everything to blur out. To my knowledge I’ve never had a crush on a woman but I’ve most definitely watched same sex porn and have thought women are hot and beautiful, then come the thoughts about comp het and how I’ve never been an overly sexual person so that MUST mean something. Ugh idk, just looking for someone to chat with I guess!
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- 21w ago
Lately, I have been able to manage my OCD thoughts kind of. They’re still there but I kind of push them away? I know that pushing them away doesn’t help but it’s been my only way to survive. I get scared often about things like clothes or my voice or how I present myself. I get scared that I want to dress differently or act differently and it scares me. I know for a fact I don’t want boobs or anything like that, but my mind constantly is like “What if?” and it kills me. It has ruined everything for me. Sometimes I can’t even look in the mirror because I get scared that I won’t like what I see. I’ve also been afraid because I find myself relating to many female characters, or I want to act like them. Like Pearl from Steven Universe. I want to be graceful and elegant like her, but I don’t want to be a girl you know? My mind constantly pushes these thoughts of what if and images. Because I am not like most guys. Which I know is okay. It just freaks me out. It makes me question every aspect of my being. I know who I am, but I know that the only way to move forward is to accept that maybe I don’t.. It’s just a lot.
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- 11w ago
I went to a therapist, I told her about the doubts I was having related to my orientation and the continuous compulsion to check again and again and the thoughts. I told her about my resources -podcasts by Ali Greymond, Chrissie Hodges 's videos, and the books I read to overcome and control myself. She said a couple of things that confused me: 1> Her daughter once asked her "what if she liked girls?" As a mom my therapist said, "Start exploring", and the daughter said naahh. I wonder if the daughter had a thought or was it a chain of intrusive thoughts that plagued her day and night like in my case. 2> She said my sources are right, but I should forget that and not think that I have ocd. 3> She also said if there is any chance I am straight, I should walk on that path- because she has seen lesbians and gays have no feelings for the opposite sex. She said she could see that I was not gay or lesbian in any way. 4> She was interested in my education and masters degrees wasted a lot of time talking about that. 5> She said all these thoughts are causing me anxiety disorders (but I don't have ocd, doc?) 6> She pointed out that being happy and in the present removes these thoughts totally but I am causing myself unnecessary distress. I was doing well before this talk with the therapist now I am triggered a bit. Please share your thoughts.
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