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- 6y ago
- Date posted
- 6y ago
So her sexual orientation was set. But people can sometimes be curious about the same sex, and experimentation doesn’t mean you’re gay. Even thoughts about sex and same sex doesn’t mean you’re gay. Actions matter, thoughts do not
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- 6y ago
I don’t get your point sorry cat_attack?
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- 6y ago
Those gay people still know they’re gay they don’t just wake up one day and realise it. They CHOOSE to hide it. Have curious thoughts / experimentation doesn’t mean you’re gay. It means you’re a sexual being. Sexual orientation is much more than sex. It’s to do with romantic connection, emotional connection etc. so I don’t get your point and actually what you said is a trigger so be careful around HOCD. You have POCD. It’s different
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- 6y ago
You should know that even if you suddenly became attracted to an individual, you have the choice to whether or not you want to act on that. You would have complete control over your actions because OCD does not actually affect our self control (not an impulsive disorder). You would also have the choice over how to label your sexuality. People experimenting with their sexuality generally aren’t disturbed by the thoughts but are actually relieved because they feel they are embracing their most authentic self. The ultimate point is this- yes, a teensy tiny risk exists, but your chances of being a different sexuality than you think you are is no different than that risk for the general population.
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- 6y ago
Well nicky I wouldn’t exactly agree with that because I’ve made out with girls before and liked it, thought it was sexy and even still I am NOT a lesbian or bisexual (trust me I know, years of pocd to figure it out) and there are tons of gay people who live their lives straight, never touching the same sex, but know in their heart it is what they want.
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- 6y ago
Oh lord. No I truly don’t know the difference between all the things, Pcod, hcod, whatever that may be. And I don’t look up what they mean because that would be a trigger to me! And what I said was meant to help them. I didn’t want them reading what you wrote then having OCD get the better of them and one day make out with someone they aren’t interested in that way turn into them thinking then they MUST be the sexual orientation they were trying to hide. I’m disagreeing with what you said that actions matter. In regards to this, they don’t.
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- 25w ago
Ok so I’m a 17 year old female, and I’ve always thought I was straight. But I just really want to know how you would know the difference between so-ocd and actually questioning your sexuality. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community (in fact I am very much a token straight friend, lol) but I saw a video about comp-het recently and it sort of felt like what I was experiencing. I don’t want to be gay, I want to be with men, I want to like men, I’ve always liked men, but now I’m questioning whether or not that’s real? Because people can be gay but not want to be right? I’m single and I always have been. I think women are gorgeous, but when I try to imagine actually having any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman it feels wrong, at least most of the time it does? Sometimes I’m less sure, and I’ve never been particularly boy crazy. I’ve liked maybe 2 or 3 people in my life, (not to say I’ve never found other guys attractive, but it doesn’t seem to be as often as most people) I have no particular reason to be afraid of being gay, very supportive family, safe area ect, but I don’t want to be, does that mean this is ocd, I don’t know what’s going on every time I say I’m straight I feel like I’m lying, but that might just be because I think about it so much. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t feel like something I would want, but is that just because I don’t want to want it? People online say things with so much sureness, if you feel like this it means this. Ect.
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- 23w ago
Lately, I have been able to manage my OCD thoughts kind of. They’re still there but I kind of push them away? I know that pushing them away doesn’t help but it’s been my only way to survive. I get scared often about things like clothes or my voice or how I present myself. I get scared that I want to dress differently or act differently and it scares me. I know for a fact I don’t want boobs or anything like that, but my mind constantly is like “What if?” and it kills me. It has ruined everything for me. Sometimes I can’t even look in the mirror because I get scared that I won’t like what I see. I’ve also been afraid because I find myself relating to many female characters, or I want to act like them. Like Pearl from Steven Universe. I want to be graceful and elegant like her, but I don’t want to be a girl you know? My mind constantly pushes these thoughts of what if and images. Because I am not like most guys. Which I know is okay. It just freaks me out. It makes me question every aspect of my being. I know who I am, but I know that the only way to move forward is to accept that maybe I don’t.. It’s just a lot.
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 11w ago
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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