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- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
Had the same problem. Thing is I had to “confess” it to my partner and they took as much as they can but it was affecting them so I just had to break it off. I’m not saying you should, I’m just saying don’t let it power over you. They are just thoughts and you have to accept them. Just try to get along with your life and keep them in your head if they wont go away. the fact that you’re having a battle with it means you still wanna be with your girlfriend and you know its wrong. Just be sure to accept and things may be uncertain and thats okay
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- 6y
I would be honest with her, I am with my partner. You don’t have to be insensitive and unkind but you can express that this is because you’re not well mentally. It’s very freeing when you’re partner knows and it can make you feel less like you’re battling on your own and keeping it secret. Though the intrusive thoughts/fears are painful to admit, there’s a lot more healing when you open up to loved ones about it. God bless xxx
- Date posted
- 6y
Then I get the thought of me and her are just friends and I feel like I have to change the way I act to make sure I have feelings for her but sometimes I can’t because I’m just so depressed from all of this
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- 6y
Thank you both, that was really helpful
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- 16w
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 12w
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
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