Anybody with HOCD/ROCD that can relate? Sometimes when I’m around my girlfriend I get really irritable and anxious cuz I’m so in my head and I feel bad because all I want to do is be away from her in those moments when she doesn’t really understand what’s going on. I have a tendency to focus on her negative attributes and they get so loud in my head that I just can’t function around her sometimes. What can I do? I feel like I can’t escape these thoughts anywhere I go.

rosecoloredgirl

Date posted: 6y

Had the same problem. Thing is I had to “confess” it to my partner and they took as much as they can but it was affecting them so I just had to break it off. I’m not saying you should, I’m just saying don’t let it power over you. They are just thoughts and you have to accept them. Just try to get along with your life and keep them in your head if they wont go away. the fact that you’re having a battle with it means you still wanna be with your girlfriend and you know its wrong. Just be sure to accept and things may be uncertain and thats okay

Em101*

Date posted: 6y

I would be honest with her, I am with my partner. You don’t have to be insensitive and unkind but you can express that this is because you’re not well mentally. It’s very freeing when you’re partner knows and it can make you feel less like you’re battling on your own and keeping it secret. Though the intrusive thoughts/fears are painful to admit, there’s a lot more healing when you open up to loved ones about it. God bless xxx

McSteezzyy

Date posted: 6y

Then I get the thought of me and her are just friends and I feel like I have to change the way I act to make sure I have feelings for her but sometimes I can’t because I’m just so depressed from all of this

McSteezzyy

Date posted: 6y

Thank you both, that was really helpful

anonymous_an...

Date posted: 23w

Advice ROCD

How do you guys get past the anxiety? I feel like my thoughts are the only thing that control my mind. So often I feel like I should just leave my partner even tho I love them so much because I just feel like these thoughts are too much. I over analyze everything. I feel so stuck and defeated. I just want to be normal. I feel so toxic for the thoughts that I have

Relationship OCD

Uypvqcm5

Date posted: 23w

ROCD

For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..

MM311

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 14w

relationship ocd?

for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?

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