Hey everyone. Need some advise. My bf told me that he thinks I use my OCD as an excuse to get out of things. Like riding his four wheeler through the mud and watching horror movies. I am terrified of catching some sort of infection from the muddy water surrounding his property and the images from horror movies fuel my religious ocd and also make their way into my intrusive thoughts. Any suggestions on what to say to him to explain how I’m feeling? We have been together forever and I really want him to understand so we can work together to lesson my fears. Thanks :)

Recently i got stuck in a loop with a terrible intrusive thought about my boyfriend. it’s been rattling in my mind and i feel disgusted and scared and like an evil horrible person. i keep saying things like “intrusive thoughts attack who/what you care about the most” but i think my compulsion (researching; looking up ocd intrusive thoughts and watching others experiencing the same thing) had made it hard to believe that. Im not super concerned about the harm portion because im beating it but now its turned me numb towards my boyfriend after feeling so guilty and scared and everything. i just don’t know what to do its like my body and brain is trying to push me away. we also spend every single day together so im wondering if maybe thats why its so bad? like i feel AWFUL. and i cant stop crying and i havent told him any of this because i don’t want to scare him or make him think im crazy. any tips or words would be appreciated.

I’ve always struggled a lot with confessing. It’s my worst compulsion. My bf has always been really understanding and can usually see the OCD in it more than I can. He’s always grounded me and helped me see the distortion or the OCD. Lately it hasn’t been that way, he takes my confessions out of the context of the OCD. Takes offense. Gets upset, and angry. He’ll say things like “Who says something like that? Why would you say that?” I can’t ask him not to react, that’s not fair, but I’m feeling like a monster is this is only making me want to confess more because every time I do I get a terrible reaction from him and it feels like it just confirms whatever it was was awful. It doesn’t feel like I’m overthinking or getting stuck on a technical truth or just having ocd distort something. It feels like I’m truly a monster. I can’t even defend myself because I can’t tell if it’s really OCD or just me having a bad thought I agree with. I feel scared. He’s never reacted badly like this and it’s happened multiple times now. I know it’s not fair to keep confessing but I’m genuinely struggling and scared. I don’t know what to do, I can’t just write it down or something. That makes it more real. Materializing the confession makes me more likely to confess.

Hey guys, I was hoping to get some guidance on what to do in this frustrating situation: My boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex with me and refuses all advances because of my OCD (flashbacks and intrusive thoughts sometimes lead me to dissociate or panic). I’ve only now started to get help so I’m new to NOCD, but my boyfriend thinks it’s best to completely cut off sex until I get better. He’s an angel for wanting to put me first and having self control, but I have been frustrated with this because I desire to have sex even if I have to practice my exposures. My therapist is unsure at the moment as well and is asking a trauma therapist what to do about this situation, but I was wondering if anyone can give me some advice. I want to convince him that it’s okay to have sex with OCD and even if I panic I’m confident I can push through it and get better with practice. I’ve never felt more unwanted and rejected. I know he’s doing this for me, but it seems like he’s completely uninterested now and I’m starting to think he doesn’t want to deal with me panicking because he already has so much else going on in his life. He makes me feel like having sex with him would make his day worse because he’d have to “take care” of me. I’ve expressed this to him (we have a super healthy communication dynamic), but he says we should just keep waiting. PLEASE give any advice possible for this situation!! I can’t even do things on my own because I start thinking about how rejected I feel by him. Thanks in advance!