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- Elina
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Thanks for sharing too! It’s not as atypical as you might think! - attaching reassurance seeking to a particular person - especially if they are an important person in your life. Is your marriage fairly “new”? In the beginning of mine (due to anxiety related to change) I would drive my husband crazy with reassurance questions out of catastrophic worries regarding whether he was right for me (my ultimate motivation was to “clear my mind in order to eat calmly” though- so this is my extra OCD layer). Ultimately, we had to be on the same team against OCD and recognize it for what it was and find ways to defeat it. I told him to tell me “you know the answer to the question sweetie” and then I would answer my own questions until it slowly dissipated as I got used to being together with him.
Sameee and then ocd tries to make you think that it’s not actually ocd.
Yes - because it’s “different” OCD tries to convince me that it’s not OCD (even though therapists have told me it is OCD) and that therefore I should follow what the irrational part of my mind says because “after all, maybe it’s not OCD, because it’s not ‘textbook example’”
Yes I do.
Thanks for sharing :) I’m not even sure if mine would classify as OCD but it takes over a lot of my life and greatly affects my quality of life. I obsess about my husband and project random attractions and thoughts onto him, and only get relief by asking him for reassurance. It’s to an extreme degree where it’s completely irrational. It’s gotten to the point where we can’t go anywhere together, watch any tv, or even spend time with family because I’m so triggered by any outside stimuli that somehow manages to make my mind run. It’s ruining our marriage ... almost has ended it several times.
I like that solution! Thanks for the understanding and insight. We have been together for over a decade. For the first 6 or so years I was stuck on the “is he right for me” loop. That is still around but has significantly lessened over time. Then after years of some personal trauma and loss of identity, coupled with my husband hiding/lying about certain things for many years, the obsession morphed into this one.
So, is your main compulsion not eating to avoid indigestion?
Seems like OCD likes to take things and run with it to create havoc!! My hubby and I in the end got closer because of the OCD, because we have to not let OCD win. I think you have great insight and your relationship will come out on top of it!
Yes, my main compulsion is not eating to avoid indigestion. Thank you for putting it that way - gives me insight into what’s really going on.
Whenever I have a difficult situation, I get an irrational thought about it that sticks and I can’t get out of my head- and I’m only afraid of the scary thought out fear that it will “give me indigestion if I eat” - so then I fear food and I begin to drastically lose weight. I’m working with a therapist to learn to eat no matter what the thoughts. May I ask how yours is different from others?
When and how did you first discover you may have OCD? I'm beginning to think OCD is one of the most understudied, misunderstood mental health issues ever. I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder about 6 years ago after I started suffering from panic attacks, but only just recently discovered my condition could be much more specific than that. I've been suffering from intrusive thoughts and complusions since I was a teenager with a variety of themes. And honestly this app and amazing community has opened my eyes to it. I'm curious if anyone else has had an experience like mine where they were just thrown into the general diagnosis category of just having anxiety and/or depression and is only just now coming to terms with having OCD? What has been your experience with the therapists on this app? I'm using another popular, pricey app for talk therapy at the moment, but so far 4 therapists have ghosted me on it so my confidence is feeling pretty shot. Has talk therapy and working with a therapist on here been successful for you?
Hi Everyone, I am new to the group and was diagnosed with OCD in December 2021. I struggle with harm and relationship OCD. I have limited social/emotional support from my partner (this is a work in progress) and I am trying to do all I can to heal/recover, so I am posting here on the reccomendation of my NOCD therapist. Although I experienced rumination and obsessive thinking for years, intense anxiety and past trauma brought on intrusive thought symptoms several months ago. This is my first time talking openly in a forum like this about my OCD.
Hello! I am new to this app even though I have struggled with OCD almost all my life. I am a college student, almost twenty years old plagued with intrusive thoughts mostly dealing with sexuality and real events. I am happy that I will get to know people who also has OCD and will not make me feel alone. As a starter, how old are ya’ll and how was your experience with this distressful mental illness? I hope all of ya’ll are having a peaceful day 😊
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