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Thanks for sharing too! It’s not as atypical as you might think! - attaching reassurance seeking to a particular person - especially if they are an important person in your life. Is your marriage fairly “new”? In the beginning of mine (due to anxiety related to change) I would drive my husband crazy with reassurance questions out of catastrophic worries regarding whether he was right for me (my ultimate motivation was to “clear my mind in order to eat calmly” though- so this is my extra OCD layer). Ultimately, we had to be on the same team against OCD and recognize it for what it was and find ways to defeat it. I told him to tell me “you know the answer to the question sweetie” and then I would answer my own questions until it slowly dissipated as I got used to being together with him.
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Sameee and then ocd tries to make you think that it’s not actually ocd.
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Yes - because it’s “different” OCD tries to convince me that it’s not OCD (even though therapists have told me it is OCD) and that therefore I should follow what the irrational part of my mind says because “after all, maybe it’s not OCD, because it’s not ‘textbook example’”
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Yes I do.
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Thanks for sharing :) I’m not even sure if mine would classify as OCD but it takes over a lot of my life and greatly affects my quality of life. I obsess about my husband and project random attractions and thoughts onto him, and only get relief by asking him for reassurance. It’s to an extreme degree where it’s completely irrational. It’s gotten to the point where we can’t go anywhere together, watch any tv, or even spend time with family because I’m so triggered by any outside stimuli that somehow manages to make my mind run. It’s ruining our marriage ... almost has ended it several times.
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I like that solution! Thanks for the understanding and insight. We have been together for over a decade. For the first 6 or so years I was stuck on the “is he right for me” loop. That is still around but has significantly lessened over time. Then after years of some personal trauma and loss of identity, coupled with my husband hiding/lying about certain things for many years, the obsession morphed into this one.
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So, is your main compulsion not eating to avoid indigestion?
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Seems like OCD likes to take things and run with it to create havoc!! My hubby and I in the end got closer because of the OCD, because we have to not let OCD win. I think you have great insight and your relationship will come out on top of it!
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Yes, my main compulsion is not eating to avoid indigestion. Thank you for putting it that way - gives me insight into what’s really going on.
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Whenever I have a difficult situation, I get an irrational thought about it that sticks and I can’t get out of my head- and I’m only afraid of the scary thought out fear that it will “give me indigestion if I eat” - so then I fear food and I begin to drastically lose weight. I’m working with a therapist to learn to eat no matter what the thoughts. May I ask how yours is different from others?
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