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I’ve been scared of that too. I have one son and when I like to remind myself that if he does have ocd or any kind of anxiety, at least I am intimately familiar with the symptoms and can help guide him through it, get help early, and so on. He won’t have to suffer for years on end before somebody thinks to take him to a doctor. Any kid is going to have their struggles, but if he inherits mine, at least he’ll have a mum who gets it and is there for him no matter what.
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This is a great answer!
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I’m the same as well. I don’t want to get married and have kids due to my ocd.
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Our minds are storytelling machines. Sometimes, those stories it tells are about the future. It wonders how someone might react in a conversation we’re going to have. Maybe it visualizes that trip to the grocery store later on. And sometimes, like what you’re doing here, it tries to make projections about the future. In a strange way, if you can look at it as such, this projecting is an act of self-love. It’s your mind saying, hey, take it easy here because there might be danger! We have to be safe! The feeling of fear has something to teach us at times. Sometimes those lessons are useful and sometimes not. Truth is, you can’t possibly know how the future will play out. You just try and make choices with the best information you have at the time, but it’s no guarantee. If having a spouse and children is something you believe necessary to fulfill you, are you really going to let the possibility, however remote, that something painful might happen prevent you from doing that? Do you want to be in old age saying, wow, I’m glad I played it safe and never had that family I wanted?
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Please read this. I’ve had ocd pretty much a lot of my life but never knew what it was until my senior year of highschool. I’m 21 with 2 kids and i believe i’ve had pocd a little bit before my daughter was born (which was 8 months ago). It made me start looking at all kids differently and i hate it. But it really started triggering me about 3 months ago. I’ve been thinking if i’d intentionally touched or harmed my kids the wrong way, or any kids for that matter. This started giving me false memories (or at least hope they are). I’ve been having panic attacks, yelling at myself, punching walls, praying, and even thoughts of ending my own life. I grew up in a severe toxic household throughout my childhood and teenage life. I’ve never wished that on my kids since i became a dad. I wanna give them the life i never got. I look back my photos of my children and i feel like i’m a complete fraud of a dad. I cannot look at my kids or be around them a lot of times. I can’t hold my daughter right. I can’t change their diaper when they need it. Even my son came and was hugging on me the other night while i was watching tv and i acted like a stranger to him. I can very little do this stuff sometimes because it’s either i get relief or i push my thoughts as far back as i can. I get scared if i did something to not just my kids, but any other kids in the past. I have such a a great life and such a beautiful family. It was hard and stressful at first being young with a family but i couldn’t be more thankful at all for them. I’m just so lost and stressed right now that i just don’t know what to do anymore
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So I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and I’m freaking out rn I’ve been getting thoughts like “I’ll be a bad mum” and overthinking everything & my OCD is convincing me that I’ll act on my thoughts because of my hormones and stuff. I’ve also got a fear of being sick & I’m stressing over that too. Anyone else who has harm OCD pregnant or a Mum can give me some advice pls😭
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I have to be alone with my children tomorrow and I'm scared. Harm OCD has me panicking and ruminating. I don't want to hurt my babies they mean everything to me. I keep fighting for them, I got a better job for them and I want to create a better life for them. I'm so afraid that I might hurt them so I need to be away from them but I also don't want to be away from them. The thoughts and images are so much. I'd rather die before I hurt them. Accepting the uncertainty of possibly hurting them is not something I can accept or live with. And it doesn't help having existential ocd because that says none of it matters anyway. I just want to be the old me, I hate this disorder I hate this disease I hate me for having these thoughts. I'm sorry for ranting. I just need to get it out. I hate this worry disorder!
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