Okay. I’m going to probably sound a little crazy. I have had ocd my entire life. Now it’s revolving around my spouse and him possibly doing something bad. Latest obsession and anxiety: I was at my mother in laws house helping her with something on her phone. I noticed that Snapchat was on her device and asked her if she had it. She said it was very weird. She doesn’t use that and didn’t download. My husband and kids were at her house a couple of weeks ago to watch a football game. The thoughts I’m having are that he downloaded it to her phone and used it while he was there. Can anyone help me sort this out? It’s causing me significant distress. Obviously he knows I’m thinking this and thinks it is ridiculous.

He doesn’t have Snapchat. And I asked him if he did it and he says he didn’t. The worries are that he may be using it to talk to other women and he’s hiding it from me

I know. And I know my ocd sees everything as evidence. And it wants answers to all the weird stuff.

Hey Ashley! I have the same types of thoughts as you!

I don’t have advice for you, as I’m still very much in the thick of it myself. But I will say, I have been very wrong about all my accusations of my husband that were in that category. He is more trustworthy than I am, and yet I come up with these elaborate schemes that he has never even thought of. And it’s not just his word I’m taking for the truth, I’ve actually had moments where the truth has presented itself and I’ve realized how far-fetched and off my thoughts were.

@nOCD my third reply is a technique not reassurance.

Honestly, I’m not doing that well. I have since started walking with a friend in the mornings and decided to rally against, only to find myself swallowed up even more in checking than I did before. They say that it’s hard when you decide to fight it. I need to do something drastic for my marriage because he’s so close to just giving up

Oh, I’m so so sorry... That is such a hard position to be in. My marriage is in a terrible place as well. My husband has almost divorced me many times and each time he gets closer and closer to not coming back. The whole reason I got this app is because he is leaving me for certain now if I can’t change this about myself drastically and soon. It is veeery uncomfortable to stop, but the checking in part is what keeps OCD going strong. Something that has helped me is to take out my phone when I’m circling in my mind about a topic and to write down in the notes app the question or topic I need to know about. And I tell myself I’ll ask about it later. It makes me feel like that topic will be taken care of and allows my mind to let go of it for now. I’ve also learned to only ask my husband about a topic when I’m ready to receive his answer, meaning I am ready to accept what he says as truth. Because otherwise, it’s pointless for me to even ask if I’m not going to believe him.

Gosh. Breeze we sound like the same person ?

I know lol (Twilight Zone music) I’m guessing we’re about the same age since you put 85 in your name. I’m ‘86

may b ur husband used snapchat on his mother's phone. So whats the issue with that ?

people who are older...many times they dont remember if they used or downloaded something in there phone... and may b other people also used her phone.. so u never know who downloaded it or who used it. & I was ur husband and I have to chat with another women - - i will not use my mother's phone. - every who's on snapchat they r on fb too, so i will not download another app & highlight a suspicious activity. & if i used snapchat on mom's phone, I will delete the app after use. & the reaction ur husband is giving shows he is not lying. if he had to lie about it then he will do it wisely. he will say something like - - yes, I used snapchat on mom's phone bcos I had to talk with bob...or something... so i think u r all ok. just forget the whole thing.

Ashley, how are you doing now? Has anything resolved for you with this?

Very great ideas breeze. Is your ocd revolves around him doing something bad?

Yes. Many other topics too, though.

How long have you been married? For us it’s 12 years this june

We’ve been together 13 years. Married for 6. I was afraid to commit so kept pushing the marriage off :/

Has your husband ever done anything to trigger this for you? Mine had a long-standing habit of lying about a certain topic and I became more and more obsessed with needing to find out when he being truthful.

Breeze he’s looked at things online and lied about that. but nothing to warrant me going off the deep end like this.

What did your spouse lie to you about?

Same, actually.

You got it! Do you have children?! Gosh I wish there was a way to talk privately on this thing!

I was just thinking that last night! Yes I have one daughter. How about you?

I have three. 2 girls and a boy.