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You can’t just say that if she has been into men for a long time then all of a sudden she isn’t because of these thoughts the she isn’t, I’m not trying to be rude but that could’ve really triggered her. You can’t just be entitled to her sexuality like that it’s not fair on her
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That's fair, I should've worded that better and I sincerely apologize, especially upon seeing your comment above- I'm sorry! I didn't mean to trigger anyone;;
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And I’m saying this aswell because I struggle with it badly and that has really triggered me, it’s like saying that this isn’t a real thing
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Ah I really apologize for triggering you;; I didn't mean to suggest that in general it isn't a thing! It's perfectly valid to have OCD over such a thing! I just feel like her case is a bit different
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Yeah I’m not sure about saying I’m lgbt. My first ocd diagnosis was sexual orientation ocd. I always identified as straight and then started to get ocd obsessions about being lesbian. It’s gotten to the point where I can’t tell the difference between reality and ocd. So it could very well be ocd. I’m not sure and by the likes it seems that a lot of people feel the same confusion. I will have to figure it out eventually. I could not be interested in men because of my depression my libido is low. Who knows. Mental health issues are very confusing. They make things so complicated.
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Feeling the same thing but the opposite now freedomproject. If it is any consolation, this intense confusion is very common with soocd sufferers. I know I am certainly confused. We could be gay (or the unpreferred orientation whatever that is). I know that is a little bit of a trigger, but accepting that uncertainty is the only way forward. I also feel like I have completely lost my attraction for women (even though I know that isn’t true for reasons I will not mention here for civility’s sake) and it feels like I am attracted to men sometimes even though it is very distressing to think about it and does not sit right at all. Try to stop analyzing so much. It only makes it worse.
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It’s okay I’m just so insecure atm about it I’m like confused at the same time
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I’m just going to add- the fact that you’re trying to “figure it out” sounds OCD to me. You’re “checking” how you feel, asking questions, etc. If you’ve dealt with that theme before, it isn’t uncommon for it to return. Maybe you’re a lesbian maybe you aren’t. Hell maybe you want to marry a lizard. You don’t have to figure it out.
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Same here
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But I know it’s not my truth
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Hello, OCD lesbian here! To be perfectly honest, I didn't even know orientation ocd was a thing until I joined this app today and saw the category, and it freaked me out for a minute because I was like 'oh god, is my lesbianism just my OCD??' No. No, it is not, lmao. I don't like men, and my OCD gives me weird feelings about that sometimes, but my OCD is not the cause of my attraction to women. You say you're not into men, and haven't been for a long time. That's it! You're LGBT! And you may have some OCD as well!
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I really dont know if it is ocd anymore I dont want certain sexual things with my bf anymore that i used to like When i envision it with a girl it is so easy to envision and it feels like i want that , that will give me the satisfaction This feeling is making me really question if i am still into men , desire men sexually Is this still ocd , i really dont know anymore , as it is a feeling it is too real
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I don’t know if it’s SOOCD. I no longer feel anxious in the moment when I think about women, and it’s like my imagination wants me to think about it and get aroused. I don’t want to be gay, but maybe I am after all. In my life I haven’t been so sexually driven before (when I was living with a man, or when being single) but now all I can think about is having sex with a woman. I don’t want to, but somehow my body does and it feels like my mind have changed to accept it to.. feel so sad This all started around 4 weeks ago..
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Hi everyone, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I’ve always felt emotionally close to him — he’s caring, supportive, and we planned a future together, including having a family. I don’t want to leave him. He means so much to me. But for a while now, I’ve been obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction to him anymore. It’s not like I never felt anything — when we first met, there were butterflies, excitement, emotional connection… something real. He was never “just a friend” to me. But the physical side of the relationship feels like it’s slowly faded, and I’m panicking about what that means. I keep thinking things like: – “Maybe I chose the wrong person.” – “You can’t be in love without sexual desire.” – “If I was truly in love, I would still want him.” – “What if I’ve been lying to myself this whole time?” Sometimes my body reacts — I can feel physical closeness or even arousal — but my mind shuts down and says: “no, this isn’t right.” Other times, I feel tension, resistance, or even disgust during intimacy, and I can’t tell if that’s anxiety or if something is fundamentally wrong. What makes this even more confusing is that I truly believe that real love includes sexual attraction. For me, it’s all part of one feeling — not separate. So if the attraction is gone, does that mean the love is too? Is it possible that this is still OCD — that my mind is obsessing and disconnecting me from my real feelings? Has anyone experienced something similar? Any support would mean so much. I feel so stuck between my mind and my heart.
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