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Get her to an ocd specialist! It’s the best thing you can do for her, especially at such a young age. They can determine if it’s ocd and set up a proper treatment plan if so. If it’s not: that’s one possibility you can tick off and keep searching for the right person to help her. Make sure you get an ocd specialist though. A regular therapist will not be trained in pure ocd themes and won’t be able to diagnose. Go to a specialist from the start or you will just waste a lot of time and money. If it’s ocd (which it sounds like it is) then ERP treatment will be where you start. Luckily, erp is highly effective and once she learns how to do it she will be able to reclaim her life and learn to live happily again.
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And might I add prior to this - she had big long and hard crushes on guys . She said the “heterosexual “ side of her is diminishing !please help on how I should help her! I feel so sad for her and want to help her but I feel by asking her everyday about her thoughts I am doing more harm than good !
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I am not sure if she is actually gay or HOCD. When she thinks about kissing another girl she says “it made me uncomfortable ... but I don’t know did it make me uncomfortable “. She starts questioning that too
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Is the therapist an ocd specialist trained in erp?
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Please help!
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i think you should talk to her and ask her how she's feeling and if her thought are bothering her. ask her to describe her emotional state and her reactions to these thoughts. by talking this out you'll be able to tell whether she does any compulsions; however i think the fact that she is thinking about it so much probably means she's compulsively ruminating. seeing an ocd specialist would be a good idea as long as she consents
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They do bother her . The thoughts , but she said she had a same sex dream and she felt a groinal response and the dream was on her mind the whole day and now she said “I don’t know what I am anymore .. gay or straight” and starts crying. She also said this . She was watching f a tv show where a woman was married to a man and then left her husband because she became gay and my daughter was thinking about that all day “what if that happens to me”
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And she uses the sentence “my brain is telling me to be gay and I’m scared I’ll get convinced “
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Does HOCD fall under pure ocd category
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Yup! It’s all ocd though. This one tends to have more mental than physical compulsions which is usually how we delineate pure o from regular ocd.
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Today she said to me “my brain made me tell myself that I’m going to marry the same sex “. And then I walked away. She said these thoughts don’t leave her
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They likely won’t leave or stop torturing her until you get her the proper help she needs from an ocd specialist.
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Thanks I will do that.
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Are you also a victim of ocd ? Or HOCD?if you don’t mind me asking.
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I have ocd and yes I’ve had this theme. Treatment from a specialist is crucial.
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Got it
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She said today that now her brain “wants “ her to be gay and she even wants to be gay but she knows internally she is straight.
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Can the HOCD have that much power to convince you
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Yes. She needs to see a specialist. The fact that she’s obsessing about this every day is the problem. An ocd specialist can help get her out of the obsessive cycle.
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Do they have specialist on rhis app ?
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If you’re in the US they have specialists available through the app. Just click the “therapy” button on the bottom menu. Otherwise: https://iocdf.org/ocd-finding-help/find-help/
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- 25w ago
I’m so tired of my OCD changing “themes.” And no matter what it changes to, it’s always directed towards a specific person - my mom. My mom and I are very close. I consider her my best friend and we live together. I can share anything with her and she’s very supportive. I’m 32 now, but harm ocd started when I was 15 and she was the main target back then as well. I had a bad flare up this year and the harm thoughts came back, but about a week ago they turned into sexual thoughts. Graphic thoughts and images about incest. These thoughts typically make me feel panic and dread, and just an overall depressed feeling. It has made me uncomfortable to be around my mom, since I can’t even look at her without a sexual thought or image popping up. Even watching a romantic scene in a show, listening a romantic song, etc. My brain wants to put an image of her in my head. Even me fantasizing about a man that I’m attracted to will replace the man with my mom. They just keep popping up. So this of course makes me think I actually want these things, and are actually fantasies. I have started to wonder if I’m in actual denial or that these are my true feelings. I have never been a relationship before due to not having much interest in it plus my mental health issues started as a teen, but someday I would like to get married. But now I’m thinking maybe I’ve never pursued a relationship with someone else because I’m actually in love with my mom and want to be with her, but I can’t so I’m just suppressing my feelings. And I do love my mom, but I question myself is this just platonic or familial love? Also questioning our relationship in general now - is it unhealthy or too dependent? It makes me feel doubt, since I have never really been in love before with someone else so I have nothing to compare it to. Always just crushes or finding a man attractive, and I identify as straight. But I also have not thought of my mom in a sexual way before, so I’m hoping this is just my OCD acting up. Even thinking about a future relationship with a man is making me feel nervous, since I think if I have feelings for my mom, will I ever be able to be in a serious relationship someday? If I’m with someone will I actually just picture her? It makes me feel hopeless, like I can’t help how I feel and what if these things are true? Would I act on them? My brain even made me think, “you want to ask your mom to be in a sexual relationship with you and/or want her to ask you.” I feel like such a pervert for writing that, like a truly disgusting person. I know I don’t want these things to be true, but what if they are and I can’t help how I feel? Again just feel doubt and uncertainty, that I’m in denial, and not to mention just feeling like a very sick individual.
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- 12w ago
Sometimes I think " do I like kids?" "Would i get aroused if I saw content with kids?""What if I'm a pedo and cant accept it?" "What if I'm ok with these thoughts?" "What if I'm not distressed enough " "What if I enjoy these thoughts?" , i avoid kids as much as i can, i cant look at them bc I'm scared I'm gonna have some groin like response. I keep testing if I'd get turned on or if I'd have some groinal response to sexual scenarios with kids. Sometimes I think that if I took my life this would be over and i wouldn't have to think about this and i wish i doubted something else instead of things like this. I had similar situations just with different topics such as if i loved or found sexually appealing a guy while in a relationship and i kept asking myself those questions for months and i avoided going to school for weeks and when I went I'd cry and have anxiety attacks. I had it with past actions i obessed over and felt the need to exploit every detail and be honest because otherwise i was being a fraud. I had it for sexual things that happened when i was a child. Im not diagnosed with ocd but should i tell this to my local counselor? Can someone help? Give me advice or tell me anything?
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- 9w ago
This is so extremely difficult, i’ve never experienced having thoughts of being a different gender. i’ve always been comfortable being a girl. i’ve always been a girly girl. this all started a couple months ago and it’s increasingly getting worse. i’ve had times where i didn’t like my body but i always thought i could just go to the gym and fix it, never did i think i wanted to be a man. ever since these thoughts started i hate looking at myself in the mirror, i hate looking at my body, i’m aware of my breasts all day everyday, i can’t look at pictures/ videos of myself. from the moment i wake up to the second i go to sleep i have these thoughts. i’m in a panic EVERYDAY. i don’t want to be trans but my thoughts are convincing me i do. i’ve never bat an eye when someone calls me a girl but now it’s like i’m aware of it which i hate. i hate that i’m having these thoughts & it’s convincing me that i want them & that i have to just come out and change. i want to be able to go back to being comfortable as a girl. this has left me feeling so hopeless and depressed, i can’t help but cry every day. has anyone else felt like their whole world was turned upside down?
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