My daughter thinks about being gay all day long and it all spurred from a TikTok video and watching two women doing inappropriate things. She just thinks she will turn gay. She has thoughts about getting married to a woman all day long. 4 months prior to this when she hadn’t seen the TikTok video she never had any of these issues. When she talks to her therapist her therapist says “it is ok if you don’t know who you are attracted to. You don’t need to worry about that right now .” I do not think this therapist is trained to handle HOCD patients. I think this is HOCD.I don’t even know how to handle it. In the middle of the day she gets quiet and looks sad and then I ask her what’s wrong and she says the thoughts are bothering her. She thinks about everything. Sexual thoughts , I’m going to turn gay thoughts and other ocd intrusive thoughts. I am not sure how to help her . Should I just leave her alone and let the thoughts take it’s own course? And do people with HOCD turn gay? She is 12 years old.

Get her to an ocd specialist! It’s the best thing you can do for her, especially at such a young age. They can determine if it’s ocd and set up a proper treatment plan if so. If it’s not: that’s one possibility you can tick off and keep searching for the right person to help her. Make sure you get an ocd specialist though. A regular therapist will not be trained in pure ocd themes and won’t be able to diagnose. Go to a specialist from the start or you will just waste a lot of time and money. If it’s ocd (which it sounds like it is) then ERP treatment will be where you start. Luckily, erp is highly effective and once she learns how to do it she will be able to reclaim her life and learn to live happily again.

And might I add prior to this - she had big long and hard crushes on guys . She said the “heterosexual “ side of her is diminishing !please help on how I should help her! I feel so sad for her and want to help her but I feel by asking her everyday about her thoughts I am doing more harm than good !

I am not sure if she is actually gay or HOCD. When she thinks about kissing another girl she says “it made me uncomfortable ... but I don’t know did it make me uncomfortable “. She starts questioning that too

Is the therapist an ocd specialist trained in erp?

Please help!

i think you should talk to her and ask her how she's feeling and if her thought are bothering her. ask her to describe her emotional state and her reactions to these thoughts. by talking this out you'll be able to tell whether she does any compulsions; however i think the fact that she is thinking about it so much probably means she's compulsively ruminating. seeing an ocd specialist would be a good idea as long as she consents

They do bother her . The thoughts , but she said she had a same sex dream and she felt a groinal response and the dream was on her mind the whole day and now she said “I don’t know what I am anymore .. gay or straight” and starts crying. She also said this . She was watching f a tv show where a woman was married to a man and then left her husband because she became gay and my daughter was thinking about that all day “what if that happens to me”

And she uses the sentence “my brain is telling me to be gay and I’m scared I’ll get convinced “

Does HOCD fall under pure ocd category

Today she said to me “my brain made me tell myself that I’m going to marry the same sex “. And then I walked away. She said these thoughts don’t leave her

Thanks I will do that.

Are you also a victim of ocd ? Or HOCD?if you don’t mind me asking.

Got it

She said today that now her brain “wants “ her to be gay and she even wants to be gay but she knows internally she is straight.

Can the HOCD have that much power to convince you

Do they have specialist on rhis app ?