My daughter thinks about being gay all day long and it all spurred from a TikTok video and watching two women doing inappropriate things. She just thinks she will turn gay. She has thoughts about getting married to a woman all day long. 4 months prior to this when she hadn’t seen the TikTok video she never had any of these issues. When she talks to her therapist her therapist says “it is ok if you don’t know who you are attracted to. You don’t need to worry about that right now .” I do not think this therapist is trained to handle HOCD patients. I think this is HOCD.I don’t even know how to handle it. In the middle of the day she gets quiet and looks sad and then I ask her what’s wrong and she says the thoughts are bothering her. She thinks about everything. Sexual thoughts , I’m going to turn gay thoughts and other ocd intrusive thoughts. I am not sure how to help her . Should I just leave her alone and let the thoughts take it’s own course? And do people with HOCD turn gay? She is 12 years old.

Hi - my daughter for the past 3 months has had thoughts she is becoming gay. She was completely straight before then and she has had active crushes on guys. She currently obsesses on being gay all day and she feels like the thoughts are so real. She is 12 going on 13. She has even started questioning her crushes by saying “did I even like them”. She looks at girls and wonders if she will kiss them or she thinks they are pretty and then gets worried she might act upon her thoughts. I am just not sure how to help her . I think this is HOCD

Hey guys. i’m a 14 year old female and i think i may be struggling from HOCD. My reason for this is because i really struggle setting aside thoughts about my sexual orientation. Growing up i always wanted to marry a man and have kids but up untill now there’s something in my head telling me that i don’t want to do that and i’m making it up. i have all kinds of intrusive thoughts about s€xual intercourse with girls and even just being in a relationship with a girl and they have become that common it’s like in my head that i’ve accepted it and my head is tricking me into the fact i like it, when in reality i don’t! there’s so much more to this but all i want to know is is this HOCD and i’m not in denial? pls it’s causing me so much distress, i’d appreciate any help! <3

So my hocd started over 2 years ago (I’m 20 yrs old now), when I was having a conversation with one of my friends and the thought popped into the back of my head what if the reason I don’t have a crush on any guys at my high school is because I’m a lesbian. Since then my sexuality has been on my mind 24/7 I didn’t know this was ocd until about a year ago but i’m only seeking treatment now. The hocd ramped up when I felt super aroused watching a movie with topless women, something that had never happened when watching men. Thing is I genuinely think I’m gay now, I’ve had this for so long that at first the thoughts disgusted me and caused me anxiety but now they don’t anymore. I saw so many tiktok videos about “pipelines” of certain interests gay people have that triggered me and read the comphet masterdoc which made me cry when I read it because I related to so much of it. When I was a child I was never boy crazy, I never really crushed on boys in my class (to be fair there were only 7) however I do remember writing a love note to a boy in first grade and having an immense celebrity crush on a disney channel star. I remember to certain things I did as a child that lead me to think I am gay and they keep replaying over and over in my head. Thing is over the past year I’ve had crushes on 3 guys I’ve met through dating apps. The last one I actually hung out with and I had my first kiss/makeout session 2 months ago. After that my hocd calmed down I enjoyed kissing him it felt euphoric the whole drive home just replaying our dates in my head. But now I can’t get the thought out of my head what if I didn’t like it enough? I didn’t get butterflies when we kissed (i do when I think back about it though) and didnt feel super aroused like that time I watched that movie. I feel nothing when I look at pictures and videos of men but with women I started getting this warm feeling in my chest which stressed me out even more. Idk what I am anymore and it is driving me insane. Does anyone relate?