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Get her to an ocd specialist! It’s the best thing you can do for her, especially at such a young age. They can determine if it’s ocd and set up a proper treatment plan if so. If it’s not: that’s one possibility you can tick off and keep searching for the right person to help her. Make sure you get an ocd specialist though. A regular therapist will not be trained in pure ocd themes and won’t be able to diagnose. Go to a specialist from the start or you will just waste a lot of time and money. If it’s ocd (which it sounds like it is) then ERP treatment will be where you start. Luckily, erp is highly effective and once she learns how to do it she will be able to reclaim her life and learn to live happily again.
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And might I add prior to this - she had big long and hard crushes on guys . She said the “heterosexual “ side of her is diminishing !please help on how I should help her! I feel so sad for her and want to help her but I feel by asking her everyday about her thoughts I am doing more harm than good !
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I am not sure if she is actually gay or HOCD. When she thinks about kissing another girl she says “it made me uncomfortable ... but I don’t know did it make me uncomfortable “. She starts questioning that too
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Is the therapist an ocd specialist trained in erp?
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Please help!
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i think you should talk to her and ask her how she's feeling and if her thought are bothering her. ask her to describe her emotional state and her reactions to these thoughts. by talking this out you'll be able to tell whether she does any compulsions; however i think the fact that she is thinking about it so much probably means she's compulsively ruminating. seeing an ocd specialist would be a good idea as long as she consents
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They do bother her . The thoughts , but she said she had a same sex dream and she felt a groinal response and the dream was on her mind the whole day and now she said “I don’t know what I am anymore .. gay or straight” and starts crying. She also said this . She was watching f a tv show where a woman was married to a man and then left her husband because she became gay and my daughter was thinking about that all day “what if that happens to me”
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And she uses the sentence “my brain is telling me to be gay and I’m scared I’ll get convinced “
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Does HOCD fall under pure ocd category
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Yup! It’s all ocd though. This one tends to have more mental than physical compulsions which is usually how we delineate pure o from regular ocd.
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Today she said to me “my brain made me tell myself that I’m going to marry the same sex “. And then I walked away. She said these thoughts don’t leave her
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They likely won’t leave or stop torturing her until you get her the proper help she needs from an ocd specialist.
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Thanks I will do that.
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Are you also a victim of ocd ? Or HOCD?if you don’t mind me asking.
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I have ocd and yes I’ve had this theme. Treatment from a specialist is crucial.
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Got it
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She said today that now her brain “wants “ her to be gay and she even wants to be gay but she knows internally she is straight.
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Can the HOCD have that much power to convince you
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Yes. She needs to see a specialist. The fact that she’s obsessing about this every day is the problem. An ocd specialist can help get her out of the obsessive cycle.
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Do they have specialist on rhis app ?
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If you’re in the US they have specialists available through the app. Just click the “therapy” button on the bottom menu. Otherwise: https://iocdf.org/ocd-finding-help/find-help/
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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I am a 18 year old masc lesbian with a loving girlfriend for 1 year, and I have been lesbian for almost my whole life and I have never been attracted to men in any way. flash to my past, My ex girlfriend who used to identify as a lesbian had cheated on me with a man. Recently I saw this tiktok of this masc lesbian turn straight and my friends and girlfriend made jokes I am going to turn straight for my male best friend. My male best friend came over and he’s a great guy but I do not want him in any way. when him and i were hanging out my mind threw in a thought it was “What if i like him”, i came back home and i had the worst panic attack and i felt so sick, i cried and i cried. ever since that day I have been struggling with intrusive thoughts, i don’t want a man in any way, and i feel comfortable as a lesbian but these thoughts won’t stop and they become worse when i see people say being lesbian is a phase or that i haven’t met the right guy or i’ll change in the future. i just want these thoughts to stop, i don’t want to stop being a lesbian ever, i love women so much and i just want all of this to be over with. i do not want a man in any way and im tired of my thoughts doubting myself and i hate the “what ifs”, I just want to be my old self, I want to be happy with my girlfriend.
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As I’ve posted before, my friends has developed TOUGH hocd and has hit rock bottom :// She told me to ask y’all here if any of you have had a similar experience NOT reassurance (she doesn’t have NOCD). “Hi NOCD community. When I was like 5 I had this distant female cousin whom I played with and grew up. She had super short hair like a boy, but we low key had same interests in toys/tv series etc. and then at THAT age I got a very weird though which said: do you like her? And I remember getting a lot of anxiety and my stomach hurting cause why tf would I have that kind of thought about my female cousin? I remember ruminating about it the whole day, and the next day that thought disappeared and I never had that thought again. We grew up and obviously she’s my family like my sister. But now that I have HOCD, I keep thinking about that memory and I have so much anxiety about it and cry often about it. While growing up I’ve only had crushes on tons of boys at school etc. has anyone had a similar experience?” Thanks for reading if u did! We need support 😭🙏🏻
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