- Username
- Violet2411
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes, all my OCD themes stem from real life events. As I said yesterday, we all do crazy, questionable and disgusting things when we're young. Most people do and most people forget. We just have to figure out a way to live with it.
Yes, however all those methods are easy to suggest and hard to apply, unfortunately. I haven't figured out how to apply them yet. ?
Same thing happened to me violet I will obsess over past real events and feel a need to confess. I'll go weeks or months not even worried about it and laughing at it and then I'll start giving the thought more power and it comes back
Same here, I had to contact people and apologise for trivial things that were 25 years ago. I had to ring ex girlfriends to see if I treated them badly, (turns out I didn’t). I went through the twelve steps for recovery of this OCD theme (didn’t know it was OCD at the time), and made amends to anyone that I felt I had wronged. The need to do this was of utmost importance and the feeling of urgency/anxiety I had was crazy!
Thanks deputydean. What are the best ways you suggest? Is it the things like mindfulness, meditation and living in the present?
Sorry to hear that ? but think the important word there is ‘yet’. I found this article online about real life events OCD: http://www.ocdspecialists.com/real-event-ocd/ I suppose if you’re already quite clued up on it, perhaps reading it might be a kind of reassurance or compulsion (I’m trying hard not to reread it) - but it reiterates that idea that we have to live with the uncertainty. We may never know if by doing these things we’re actually ‘bad’ people, or if we’ll ever be ‘found out’, we just have to manage that uncertainty. It feels so odd because I got over this and got to a point where I had a year of almost laughing at myself and my former worries, and now it’s back, my brain is almost shocked that I was able to spend a year not worrying about these things or trying to correct them in my head!! I guess it all comes back to the amount of power we give a memory or thought. Nothing has actually changed during the time that’s passed, other than the fact I’m giving that thought more power now...
Sorry to hear that j289l, it’s so hard isn’t it. I just took myself to a workout class, and just kept trying to tell myself ‘I can’t ruminate if I’m struggling to breathe ? and focusing on the next dance step’. Not sure if distraction through exercise is always the best way but I’m hoping the serotonin boost will help things? Thanks for your messages guys, you’re all so inspiring.
Question, does anyone else experience real life event ocd? Like they have a lot of guilt about events that happened in the past and can’t seem to move on from it. It is related to my suicide ocd and I wish I could just move on from the past but I have so much guilt for it even though everyone is telling me to move on! I read that this could be considered real life event ocd but am just wondering if anyone else feels the same.
Hi there! Does anyone else experience real event OCD? My days lately are filled with (sometimes) crippling guilt and shame over real things that have happened in the past. These are all things that are relatively minor in the grand scheme of things. I’ve talked to friends/family/therapists about them and I’m reassured they aren’t “that bad” but my mind can’t seem to let them go. Anyone else dealing with this? Any tips for forward progress? Much love to you all. ❤️
I have Real event ocd about things I did as a kid at 12/13. It’s killing me because it really happened but I feel like a different person now completely. my actions disgust me and it makes me feel like i don’t deserve to be alive. I constantly have flashbacks about the events and it sends me into a state of panic, I feel as if my younger self has traumatized my older self. i’m so scared that things I did make this true, i really am a bad person, even though i’m an adult now and would never never ever do that again. I’m so scared. All I want is to be a good person but I keep remembering gross things I did and now I feel like the biggest fraud to friends and family and everything good in my life.
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