Guilt/ confessing compulsions: anyone else hate this theme? It seems like I have to tell every detail of things to my partner or I won’t be able to live w myself or it makes it “inauthentic” very frustrated

WHAT I DEAL WITH ON A DAILY BASIS!! I have severe ROCD. My partner and I just broke up again for like the 4th time this year, because my anxiety is so bad and I am always so worried that I cheated or did something wrong and shouldn’t flirt with someone else. I hate it. And then I have to confess and it just hurts her feelings

Yes I do this as well. Especially with religion

Extremely distressful :( I feel for you

I complete understand though. I’m starting to accept looking at someone attractive but still feel terrible for talking to them.

Yeah I feel stuff from the past all the time. It will usually be when I don’t have something new to worry about. An old memory will come up and turn into a problem even though I didn’t worry about it at the time. The most positive way I can think about this is that people with OCD have very great and enhanced memories. And I try to think of it is a gift, even when it feels like pure torture and I just want to forget

Yeah this one had me pretty bad. My confession ocd has to do with the fact I been with girls who have had hpv. So now I think any girl I have sex with will get hpv and get cancer and die. I been to my primary and a specialist and they tell me the same thing there’s no way to test me for it and it’s so ubiquitous that almost everyone has had it by now so I am not mandated to tell casual sexual partners. Im okay with telling serious partners but I don’t want to tell any casual partner I might have something that prob is all cleared up by now. The urge to confesss to all my past partners was so strong before but I’m okay now. I use to confess about all sorts of things but now I’m way better. My therapist says it’s a compulsion and confessing just relieves anxiety for a little then ur mind will focus on something else. Need to lead to live with uncertainty and imperfection.

Hahaa seriously the more I read these posts about what people’s OCD obsessions and or compulsions are I realize I have soooo many I didn’t even realize I had.

Lol I'm pretty sure ive just given up on relationships due to OCD. It literally feels like a huge weight is on my shoulders whenever I was in one. Mentally exhausting.

Aah man, I had the same, but you wouldn't believe the stuff I thought. I actually would drive from my parents house and a thought would come up that I hurt my mom or dad while I was there, and I know it's not true, they are fine, but my brain wouldn't let it go.

this is me 24/7, i always have to tell my thoughts even if they are intrusive

I do it with past choices that I feel shame for- I feel like whatever he doesn’t know about my past means I’m lying. Even small stuff like not calling someone back or ditching plans (years ago) it’s so ass

That’s a better way of looking at it, it’s really about just dismissing the obsession when it surfaces at this point. Which can be so hard