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- 6y
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- 6y
It's alright.. it was all in the past and what matters is that you want to be good and don't want to bully
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- 6y
I don’t think you did anything wrong. Even if you were a bully it doesn’t mean anything about who you are today
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- 6y
all of it is over now and no matter how much you try, you can’t change what happened. but, you’re intentions were good because you thought you were doing right by trying to save animals which is a good thing. a bully is someone who thrives by making others hurt, and obviously you don’t seem to be happy with what happened between you and the kid. so in my opinion, i don’t think that makes you a bully.
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- 6y
It totally matters if you had a younger mind. Kids do things they later regret because their thinking changes.
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- 6y
I believe your intention was good. Bullies don’t have good intentions.
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- 6y
Definitely reassurance. I too will keep asking til my mind accept the “correct” answer. No you weren’t bullying him, you just needed to know for sure to calm your mind. He was probably upset because you kept asking him because I’m pretty sure you asked many times. I experience this many times and people get annoyed. Then after I get my correct answer I’m okay. Reassuring does make everything worse because you will try and use it every time.
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- 6y
I didn’t mean it in a bad way, @Tum98. I just thought I’d tell you because seeking reassurance that you’re not actually a bully will make your problem worse. That’s giving in to the compulsion. We all do that every once in a while and it’s normal (we’re just human), but the more you can just accept those terrible feelings without looking for reassurance, the faster you’ll recover.
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- 6y
Okay, I get it. Sometimes it’s hard not to look for reassurance. I’ve been there. I wish you the best ?
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- 6y
Yeah it is hard I definitely understand what your saying I’m not trying to come across mean or what ever sorry if you felt that way and thankyou
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- 6y
Dude no you’re 100% justified in yelling at someone if you know they mistreat animals. That doesn’t make you a bully at all!
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- 6y
I just feel so bad I would never want to be a bully ?
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- 6y
But does it mean I was a bully
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So it didn’t make me a bully
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- 6y
I think I just feel bad incase he felt like I was being a bully I think he just got sick of me asking him questions and it’s making me think did he go home and cry and then I’m thinking did he run home it’s all just in my head
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- 6y
Thankyou I’m not known to be a horrible nasty person I’m known to be loving caring and always put others first I think that’s why it bothers me so much
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- 6y
You’re looking for reassurance. That will make your ocd worse.
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- 6y
I needed help so I reached out.
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- 6y
I understand where your both coming from but it’s like it never goes it will then badger me for months I just needed some help I know about reassurance and how it’s not helpful in the long run but sometimes I just need a bit of help
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