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hey! so first off, the fact that you're distressed over these thoughts is a clear sign that you would never go through with them/that they aren't your true intentions. everyone gets intrusive thoughts, intrusive thoughts about harm are some of the most common. don't try and "figure out" why you're having these thoughts, because that will lead them to become more frequent and darker. intrusive thoughts don't necessarily mean OCD, they're also very common with anxiety. also just because you have them doesn't mean you have a mental illness, but if the thoughts become deabilitating towards your everyday life (ex: avoiding certain things because of it) then i would suggest seeing a therapist (one that specializes in ocd) :) there's also some great books to buy (brain lock , books on mindfulness) that can help you to understand intrusive thoughts and ocd more! it's just important to remember that you are not your thoughts!!
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also i'm not sure how old your son is, but post partum ocd / intrusive thoughts are common!
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Thank you it has debilitated me for months on end I just started to feel better than it’s got to me today I just randomly get them and they don’t go away until I stopped crying 😣
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@Anonymous know that you're not alone! so many people deal with this. try to not beat yourself up over the thoughts, we aren't our thoughts and we can't control them! just because we think a thought doesn't mean it's more likely to happen. also, sitting with the anxiety and uncertainty that these thoughts give is the best way for them to eventually get better (they will come again once you get better because everyone gets intrusive thoughts - but once you get them once you've developed a new relationship with them, you'll realize they don't need a reaction and you'll let them just flow. because they're just thoughts).
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oh also when you don't have anxiety over a thought that means nothing!! that's actually good lol. intrusive thoughts want you to pay attention to them so that you can go down a rabbit hole of "what if these make me a bad person" etc. people without anxiety or ocd that get intrusive thoughts, they don't get anxiety over them but instead just brush them off. the thought isn't what's the problem it's the overreaction to it (ex: thinking you're a bad person for having them, wondering what they mean about you).
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I don’t get anxiety with it as much or at all most of the time but I constantly wonder why I’m not having anxiety and if I’m gonna act on it and I’m not finding it as disturbing etc feel normal and if I acted on it I wouldn’t feel consequences but I ruminate consequences like prison etc
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@Anonymous yup that's how ocd or anxiety will trap u in the cycle! the thing is that there's no way to be certain about anything, so there's no reason to ruminate or mental check by thinking "i wouldn't do this" "i'm not a bad person" etc. it's hard but once you notice yourself ruminating or mental checking it's best to stop! :)
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@coucou and worrying about not getting anxiety is the back door spike! there's tons of articles on it
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@coucou https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com/how-to-stop-ruminating/ (this is an article about ruminating)
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@coucou http://www.ashleyannestedtlcsw.com/blog/49brp9t86das7a5jjxcg6ewdzg4mtw (an article on the back door spike - being anxious about not being anxious about thoughts)
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It is normal imo. OCD has the tendency to make you believe things that aren't real, which results in your body reacting to the belief.
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- 4y ago
A therapist is soooo important to getting better. Get a therapist. You don't have to explain or justify to anyone why you want a therapist. This is a country to where if you're willing to pay for a service, you'll get it
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I live in the UK it’s 12 month wait for therapy
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@Anonymous wow that's shitty I'm sorry. Alot of u. s services are virtual right now, maybe you could pay a online therapist from the US?
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@whatadooo I got an assessment Wednesday with a therapist from here
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- 4y ago
I get harm thoughts toward myself. It is such a horrible feeling and it feels so real. What you have to remember is that thoughts are not actions. It is scary when they happen and scary that we could feel this sensation to actually want to do something, but it doesn’t mean it is going to happen in real life. I think sometimes “oh I’m not anxious, so it has to mean that it’s real”. But I think our brains play tricks on us to make it feel like it could be real.
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Yes definitely Iv never had any past history of criminal stuff or anything only been since I was put on medication after medication for few months i had them in December and now I come off my meds wanting to do this on my own it’s getting crappy again
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- 4y ago
@Anonymous I would speak to your doctor about the meds! Did you go off your meds completely by yourself?
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- 18w ago
I’m having a very bad evening with my intrusive thoughts. I was doing really good dealing with them but tonight one hit me hard. I’ve been having a lot of different intrusive thoughts but I’ll have one occasionally about hurting my mom or my dog who I love and they’re the only family I have in my life. They’re my world. I was helping my mom put away the dishes and I had the big kitchen knife in my hand and my intrusive thought was you could stab your mom. And then my brain said I had a twitch in my hand and that meant I wanted to do it. Let me just say that I wouldn’t hurt a fly. I actually caught a fly in a glass and put it outside instead of killing it this evening before this intrusive thought happened. I’m such a gentle and compassionate and caring person and these thoughts instantly cause me to have a panic attack. And I have no one to talk to them about. I know they’re hard for my mom to hear and I don’t want to be any more of a burden than I already am. I do desperately want to tell her and have her reassure me that I’m not crazy or a psycho. Then my thoughts wander to if your hand did flinch could you be a psychopath. Is hurting someone in you. I know it’s not but I feel like my mind is out to get me and hurt me. I’m working so hard and I thought I was doing so good but I need to know why I have these thoughts. They’re not ok. I need someone to help me make sense of why. I know we aren’t supposed to ruminate but I shouldn’t have thoughts like this about people I love and care about the most in the world.
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This might be asking for reassurance but I’m at a point I’m not sure if this is ocd and who better to ask than you guys. Also want to mention I have been to a psychologist who diagnosed me with ocd and I’ve tried to seek therapy through NOCD but had a bad experience so I’m just looking for an opinion I’ll take with a grain of salt. I’ve been through bouts of pocd that I got through but now it’s morphed into something that feels so different. It’s like harm ocd and pocd together and it revolves around my daughter. Before this happened I was a loving mother who valued my kid more than anything. Now this is happening and it feels so sinister. I’m getting urges to do something bad and I get these feelings like I want to do that and it’s like my brain gets foggy and my values slip away and I feel like I could do it. But then I get a moment of clarity and I’m like wait a minute I’ve never hurt anyone in my life nor have I ever thought about it and this is my child what is happening. But then I get that foggy brain again and it’s like I can’t see her as my child. I try to sit with it and it’s like I get this adrenaline rush and feel like I have to do it. But I know I don’t want to do that, but then it’s like trying to make me want to want to. I’m not sure if I’m just lacking insight and clarity because I’m overwhelmed with the groinals, urges, thoughts and feelings but I just keep obsessing over the fact that death is my only way out. I don’t understand what happened to me. It feels like this demonic oppression and I don’t know how to get through this one or if this is still something I can get through because it might not be ocd. I try to go with the thoughts and feelings and say yeah maybe, maybe not, or yeah I’m going to do that but it seems to fuel the feelings. I feel like I’m teetering between the person I was and this evil awful person who has no regard for others. I don’t want to be around my daughter and I’m just angry all the time. The fear and anxiety used to be something I relied on and I feel none of that now. I used to be able to say “well no matter what I feel or think I can control my actions” and now it feels like I cannot control my actions but I’ve never hurt anyone before. Someone please give it to me straight and tell me if you think this might not be ocd.
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- 29d ago
Please comment. Just say if follows along the OCD pattern or not. I don't need reassurance per se! My daughter was laying across me and every time I breathed a certain way I was getting a groinal sensation. I kept breathing like that anyways (ugh idk why), and then my mind told me I had hurt/a**aulted her that I might as well do something else to hurt because what's more. So idk why or what overcame me other than the thought of doing it because my mind told me I had hurt her already ("my mind literally made me question what to do and I guess the only thing I could come up with was using my elbow) and causing another feeling but it came across my mind to elbow her, and I elbowed her crotch or side/thigh area. Which caused another very unwanted groinal sensation. Then I began FREAKING smooth out. And I've been stressing since. I feel like as a mom I don't deserve to be hers anymore. Idk what overcame me but my therapist says it's all OCD. I was doing SO well! Is this really OCD? This has all caused me a great amount of anxiety. I feel like a terrible person and mom. I just need help knowing if this is OCD. Not wanting reassurance. Just wanting to know if this lines up with the POCD I've been diagnosed with by my current therapist.
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