My bf of 6 years accidentally said I have big beautiful brown eyes, while on the phone with me, but I have green eyes. He said it was just a mistake, instead of say big beautiful eyes and brown hair he mixed them it it just slipped out and felt really bad about it but I’m really triggered now. we had a long talk and I feel I trust him but anyone else in the world would say it’s a red flag. And I get why. So I keep thinking about what others may think and that they are right even though I know him more than others. And I have no one to talk to about this.

I’m the same way in my rel too with a lot of things and I’m trying so hard not to ruminate but it’s so hard. I finished my ocd therapy but it’s expansive for me to go back but I feel like I need some type of ERP for this And I don’t want to do it wrong. I know things slip accidentally but a random incorrect color doesn’t just slip if he’s thinking of someone with completely different colored eyes. Idk I’m just feeling so upset

Oh my God this is my life every day. We are married, living in the same house really loving each other and yet I DOUBT all the time. I analyse everything he says making a total fool of myself. I feel so embarrassed for behaving like that as if i am a worthless person with zero self confidence. Ocd's job is to make you doubt every little aspect of your life just to make you miserable and lonely. I have spent a hundred hours crying after anxiety episodes because of ocd and have made my husband sad watching me totally collapsed. Ocd is an everyday fight. We try to analyse everything just to believe we have n of our lives and we'll never get hurt. Wrong!!! No one and most of all ocd can make us feel sure and secure.Danger is always out there and we cannot make anyone be good, honest and faithful. It's their job as long as they love and respect us. It's just so exhausting trying to make sure all the time that others are perfect and nice to you.

@zoed I am the same exact way! Ocd has always targeted my relationship so severely it’s awful. I don’t wish this on anyone and everyone else just seems to function so well in their rel without ocd. I had NOCD therapy and it helped wonders and I was in remission for 7 months and then had a small spike so went back for a follow up which was nice but now it’s bubbling up again and it’s hard for me to afford NOCD :( it’s just so hard to deal with on ur own yakno?

You lay out how you feel and the knowledge you have versus others!

@Coul.C This is very true

I wasn’t diagnosed with personality disorder during my intakes But I have a lot of insecurities all my life from being bullied badly growing up ages 10-20. So I feel like really triggered easily about these things lkke oh he’s thinking of someone else. I feel like his girl type is brown eyes brown hair and I have brown hair green eyes so my thought goes to he’s thinking of me with brown eyes or someone else clearly. And who and why. I keep thinking in my head over and over again

@Ocd_andme I'm exactly the same hun x

I understand your worries as I suffer from ocd. You know better who your partner is and try to listen to your heart and feelings than to your thoughts and mind. People often make mistakes while speaking and men are usually more distracted than we are. You know his character, you know this person a long time do you feel deep down that there's something wrong with him? Have you noticed something alarming in his usual behaviour? If not try to take it as easy as you can and do not focus on your thoughts. Thoughts are wrong many times but our heart knows the truth! We are here with you as I have the same issues with you!

@zoed Thanks for all your feedback💜💙 and honestly I know in my heart and who he is as a person I can trust him so i shouldn’t have my insecurities ruin more of this. I’m trying to push past this

@Ocd_andme I am happy you are trying to get over this difficult issue. Today it was a hard day for me as I gave many fights inside my head in ordee not to give in Ocd's challenges. It started from early morning and lasted until some hours ago. If someone has not gone through this they certainly cannot understand our fight and terrifying worries. We as ocd people understand each other's pain and can help just be saying "I can understand you and you are not alone"! Keep trying, we try with baby steps every single day 🙂🙂🙂

@zoed I feel the same way, every time I talk to someone else who has ocd, I feel so much more relieved because they understand me more. I get you. I go through challenges like that all the time in my head and I try to not give in my ocd. It definitely is difficult at times but we just have to keep pushing through