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i relate to this. it’s the worst feeling in the world
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I can relate, of course. OCD isn't like 'oh yeah I worry but I know that it's not true so ok))' OCD makes you feel like crap bc how realistic it is Try to educate your gf on Awaken Into Love, there are videos for partners. I know she may not feel good but all that crying shows that she doesn't fully understand where your hesitancy is coming from and she's taking it personally, when she shouldn't.
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How do I convince myself it's OCD, I have such a hard time believing I have it
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You'll never be convinced because OCD doubts everything. You expect to be like 'now I certainly know this is OCD so I will no longer worry'. But if only people were cured when they got to know their diagnosis.... Sadly no...
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She doesn't make it easier for you two unfortunately so talk to her. It'll be a lot better if you try to live happily with her without focusing so much attention on OCD. It's hard but you have a lot more moments together which you'll truly enjoy.
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i used to feel this exact same way, it was painful for the both of us. i felt extremely guilty and she kept trying to understand my situation and how this was all in my head but naturally me doubting my feelings for her and debating breaking up is gonna hurt her. i wpuld go on and on and ask mysel questions to figure out if i actually still loved her or not. i obsessed over it and whenever i thought something like “she’s not even that pretty” “i didn’t get butterflies in my stomach this time” “she called me beautiful and it didn’t feel good” the guilt got to me and was forced to tell her every single time. and i was just hurting her. in the end, i broke up with her bc as hesitant and painful as it was, i knew that truthfully i was clearly way too mentally unstable to be in a relationship. this can be called relationship ocd. do some research on it i’m sure you’ll relate to most of the stuff. i ended up just pushing myself away from her until i thought i was stable enough to really understand my feelings. but for a good while i completely avoided relationships in fear of gojng through that entire process again. it took me maybe a little more than half a year to really feel better about the situation. and it was hard to get over but i managed after taking time for myself and figuring stuff out with my therapist. just try and find what’s best for you. focus on yourself. as selfish as this might sohnd, unless u ignore her and work on yourself, everything might stay the same as it is right now.
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- 25w
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- 19w
Hi everyone, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I’ve always felt emotionally close to him — he’s caring, supportive, and we planned a future together, including having a family. I don’t want to leave him. He means so much to me. But for a while now, I’ve been obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction to him anymore. It’s not like I never felt anything — when we first met, there were butterflies, excitement, emotional connection… something real. He was never “just a friend” to me. But the physical side of the relationship feels like it’s slowly faded, and I’m panicking about what that means. I keep thinking things like: – “Maybe I chose the wrong person.” – “You can’t be in love without sexual desire.” – “If I was truly in love, I would still want him.” – “What if I’ve been lying to myself this whole time?” Sometimes my body reacts — I can feel physical closeness or even arousal — but my mind shuts down and says: “no, this isn’t right.” Other times, I feel tension, resistance, or even disgust during intimacy, and I can’t tell if that’s anxiety or if something is fundamentally wrong. What makes this even more confusing is that I truly believe that real love includes sexual attraction. For me, it’s all part of one feeling — not separate. So if the attraction is gone, does that mean the love is too? Is it possible that this is still OCD — that my mind is obsessing and disconnecting me from my real feelings? Has anyone experienced something similar? Any support would mean so much. I feel so stuck between my mind and my heart.
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- 19w
I’m struggling with something I’m afraid to even admit out loud. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with someone I love deeply. He’s kind, safe, and emotionally close to me — and we’ve built a life together. But I keep obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction anymore. Or maybe… I never truly did? At the beginning, I felt butterflies, excitement, connection — and I assumed that meant I was also attracted to him physically. But now, after reading so much and reflecting more deeply, I’m starting to wonder if I ever truly felt sexual desire in the way I was “supposed to.” Maybe my feelings were more about emotional longing, comfort, and romantic closeness — but not sexual chemistry. And now I don’t know what that means. OCD makes it so much worse. It constantly tells me: – “If you really loved him, you’d want him.” – “You’re leading him on.” – “What if you’re lying to yourself?” – “If you try to fix this and fail, you’ll have to leave.” I feel stuck between wanting to fight for this relationship — and being terrified that trying will just prove it’s hopeless. Has anyone experienced something like this? Can OCD really make you question something so deeply personal? And how do you move forward when even trying feels terrifying? Any thoughts or support would mean the world right now.
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