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i relate to this. it’s the worst feeling in the world
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I can relate, of course. OCD isn't like 'oh yeah I worry but I know that it's not true so ok))' OCD makes you feel like crap bc how realistic it is Try to educate your gf on Awaken Into Love, there are videos for partners. I know she may not feel good but all that crying shows that she doesn't fully understand where your hesitancy is coming from and she's taking it personally, when she shouldn't.
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How do I convince myself it's OCD, I have such a hard time believing I have it
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You'll never be convinced because OCD doubts everything. You expect to be like 'now I certainly know this is OCD so I will no longer worry'. But if only people were cured when they got to know their diagnosis.... Sadly no...
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She doesn't make it easier for you two unfortunately so talk to her. It'll be a lot better if you try to live happily with her without focusing so much attention on OCD. It's hard but you have a lot more moments together which you'll truly enjoy.
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i used to feel this exact same way, it was painful for the both of us. i felt extremely guilty and she kept trying to understand my situation and how this was all in my head but naturally me doubting my feelings for her and debating breaking up is gonna hurt her. i wpuld go on and on and ask mysel questions to figure out if i actually still loved her or not. i obsessed over it and whenever i thought something like “she’s not even that pretty” “i didn’t get butterflies in my stomach this time” “she called me beautiful and it didn’t feel good” the guilt got to me and was forced to tell her every single time. and i was just hurting her. in the end, i broke up with her bc as hesitant and painful as it was, i knew that truthfully i was clearly way too mentally unstable to be in a relationship. this can be called relationship ocd. do some research on it i’m sure you’ll relate to most of the stuff. i ended up just pushing myself away from her until i thought i was stable enough to really understand my feelings. but for a good while i completely avoided relationships in fear of gojng through that entire process again. it took me maybe a little more than half a year to really feel better about the situation. and it was hard to get over but i managed after taking time for myself and figuring stuff out with my therapist. just try and find what’s best for you. focus on yourself. as selfish as this might sohnd, unless u ignore her and work on yourself, everything might stay the same as it is right now.
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I’m struggling with something I’m afraid to even admit out loud. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with someone I love deeply. He’s kind, safe, and emotionally close to me — and we’ve built a life together. But I keep obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction anymore. Or maybe… I never truly did? At the beginning, I felt butterflies, excitement, connection — and I assumed that meant I was also attracted to him physically. But now, after reading so much and reflecting more deeply, I’m starting to wonder if I ever truly felt sexual desire in the way I was “supposed to.” Maybe my feelings were more about emotional longing, comfort, and romantic closeness — but not sexual chemistry. And now I don’t know what that means. OCD makes it so much worse. It constantly tells me: – “If you really loved him, you’d want him.” – “You’re leading him on.” – “What if you’re lying to yourself?” – “If you try to fix this and fail, you’ll have to leave.” I feel stuck between wanting to fight for this relationship — and being terrified that trying will just prove it’s hopeless. Has anyone experienced something like this? Can OCD really make you question something so deeply personal? And how do you move forward when even trying feels terrifying? Any thoughts or support would mean the world right now.
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I know it’s long but plz read :( have been having really bad ocd about my relationship and my partner and it has gotten worse and worse over the span of like about nine months I’d say. I do acknowledge there are flaws and legit issues about him and the relationship like there are with anyone but I also know ocd has clouded my judgement and perception by analyzing everything and compulsions. For a while I kept feeling this need to get out which I know was ocd. I was really scared to spend the weekend with him because I thought I would just be annoyed and irritated cause it’s been that way for a while but he also was going through a period of high stress so maybe I was resenting him for that and I also wasn’t communicating how I should have been when I was upset because I’ve done that too much in the past. This weekend I was told in therapy to just be in the moment and not have to worry about trying to answer the question of do I love him or should I break up. It did help but It’s weird cause this weekend ended up better but I also was kind of numb? Like I was enjoying myself but didn’t feel what I always have felt in the past? Anyway, I am really anxious because i feel like if I loved him I would be supportive of when his parents compliment him or when he does well at something when instead all I think of are that I’m not happy or annoyed because of things he does that upset me or make me mad and it’s like that’s the only way my brain wants to see him as a person. Or when he is upset it feels like I don’t care like I used to because I think of how he doesn’t deserve this when he does this or he shouldn’t have this when he is like this etc. Why does my brain automatically go there? That’s horrible! I feel like I should be excited for him, rooting for him. But it also feels like I do care for him? But my thoughts keep changing. I am afraid I only am with him because I love that he loves me and how he treats me. This makes me feel selfish cause I can’t do that. I notice I still like when he cuddles me and is sweet to me and does fun things watching movies etc. And that’s not how it used to feeel which scares me because I don’t want to be without him. I also love his parents am I only with him cause of how his parents treat me? I feel so selfish and like I have to tell him and break up with him cause it’s the right thing to do. I never used to feel like this. I’m scared. Is it possible I’m just I’ve been mad and resenting how it’s been cause he’s been stressed mix with my ocd? My therapist said relationships can go through phases. Can I fall back in love with him again? I feel like I have to try to start with someone else like this is too far gone. I don’t want to stay in something where I don’t feel toward him the way I want to but I really don’t want to leave him. I feel like such an awful person cause he doesn’t deserve this and is so caring and loving despite everything the major thing that bugs me is how he gets irritable a lot which is an imperfection that makes me get anxious and question him😭 trying not to read into this and just follow what the therapist said but this is scaring me because I feel like if I loved him I wouldn’t think like this or feel like this.
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