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- sams07
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- KyNeumKyNeum
- Date posted
- 5y ago
It can last a long time, I experience this with my girlfriend more often than I care to admit. Communication helps a lot, letting your boyfriend know that you’re not asking for reassurance to be annoying, but because your OCD makes you worry for the health of your relationship. If he knows this than he should be more patient with you, he has to understand that you’re not trying to be overly sensitive. At the same time, try to resist the compulsion to ask for reassurance, because then you’re just reinforcing that compulsion. I hope this helps!
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- sams07sams07
- Date posted
- 5y ago
KyNeum- thank you! This does help. We will get through this :)
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- amandarinamandarin
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I have ROCD. I try to remind myself I have nothing to worry about and this is my ocd. It’s very hard because my brain tells me maybe it’s not. But it’s important to try to label it as what it is and then deal with the uneasyness. I look for reassurance too. I’m trying what was suggested and dealing with that uncertainty. As hard as that is, I think it’s for the best.
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- m9m9
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Try to do an exposure instead of a compulsion, when you can. Doing compulsions will only feed your OCD and makes you feel better for a second before triggering you again. Recognizing it is just your OCD (not real threats to your relationship), and that means you need to face the obsession and expose yourself to it (instead of reassuring/checking), it will actually make you feel better longer term. Much easier said than done, but i promise it helps! Hang in there you’re doing great :)
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- sams07
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Advice please! I have OCD, and it’s wormed it’s way to my relationship. It particularly revolves around social media, trust and the security of being together “forever”. I whole heartedly trust my partner. However, we all know that OCD causes doubt in the most rational things. Lately, if I get an irrational thought, I ask my partner if it’s true or not true, I get the affirmation I need, and then I feel intense guilt. The cycle begins again because I feel insecure for asking such questions, How do I work through these nagging thoughts and not bring my boyfriend into it? I get super impulsive and just ask him to reassure me. When I don’t ask him and challenge the thought, I’m really moody with him. I’ve had OCD my entire life and have “cured” other obsessions/rituals but for some reason, this one is tough, since another person is involved. Any advice?!
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- lissy
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I keep obsessing that my boyfriend is disappointed in me / annoyed for a situation that happened and I keep asking for reassurance which he keeps providing. I know I shouldn’t ask as the ocd wants that, and it’s going in circles. Does anyone have any advice on what to do to get over the discomfort ? My ocd literally anytime there is an awkward moment or argument gives me the thought see things are ruined you ruined them and now they’ll never ever be the same. But my partner moves on quickly and says it was no big deal. Sitting with the anxiety and doing nothing isn’t working , I keep giving into reassurance seeking....I have tried distract skills like tv , internet , music, but then without fail by the end of the day it’s back on my mind. Ugh ?
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- Cassie:)
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Posting for accountability
What I did today: 1. ROCD spiked, worried my relationship had no passion 2. Called my boyfriend for reassurance and checking 3. Tried to pick a fight about it as a compulsion 4. Now engaging in checking behaviors that he isn’t mad at me, double texting, worrying 5. Feeling like I’m an awful girlfriend Ugh. When will this get easier?
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