Do you think that is ok for ROCD to think that your bf enrages you? Sometimes I just don’t feel any emotions toward him, just don’t care I’m afraid of these thoughts

How do you know that it is ROCD? I just don’t know how to be sure about what I have..

I said “omg” because I relate lol. I can tell because I obsess about how I’m feeling and I overthink about whatever he is doing that makes me upset. I definitely recognize that I sort of exaggerate the situation in my head. Like if my bf is being annoying or he says something that I don’t agree with ill freak out internally and sometimes have a thought like “this is why we’re not meant to be together” instead of just being like “I don’t agree and feel upset” and let it pass. but once I come down from the anxiety I can rationalize that everyone has their differences and the aggravation is temporary and it doesn’t have to “mean” that something is terribly wrong (+talking through any annoyances or disagreements openly with your partner could help in a nonjudgemental setting)

I have OCD about my girlfriend cheating on me so these thoughts make me very irritated at her and even angry. Which scares me

Thank you! Just there is a thing that people who don’t love their partner are also annoyed by him/her That is why I’m afraid to have this thoughts Intimacy is also hard for me, though

Omg. I feel like getting annoyed is normal for every human. But my rocd definitely makes it 100x worse or it triggers me to feel I should break up with him because I get so aggravated. I know it’s the rocd but it’s like ugh why

Right?! Like there are articles everywhere talking about what it “means” if you feel a certain way about your partner. We’re always told to look at the signs. (I stopped reading them or I just use them for ERP purposes now) It can be extremely confusing to have these ideas thrown at us while we’re trying to deal with rocd!!!! no existing relationship is perfect, and human emotions are messy!! Hang in there. If you don’t mind me asking, how long have you been dealing with rocd? (No pressure on answering this if you’re not comfortable)

Thank you so much for helping me with this! I suppose around 4-5-6 months in this relationships, but I had ROCD before them twice...what about you? sometimes I have these thoughts, sometimes for a long time I don’t have them fortunately

Of course! It’s so easy to feel crazy and alone (I know that from myself) I’ve had mine for around the same time in my current relationship! My rocd has come up in almost all relationships (except for my first but it was bad haha). Yeah it’s always a blessing when we get a good day or a day where there’s a lot less ocd stress.

Oh God I feel the same thing about my husband!!!!

Sometimes I ask myself “did I do the right thing getting married to him? Do I really like him?”. Sometimes I don’t feel any emotions towards him, I just get bored or idk what this is, and idk what to do about this! Sometimes in my head there’s a thought that is quite constant for me, which is “if I think I don’t like him, would I be able to cheat on him? Omg what if I feel like doing it!?” And I get really sad and upset at me and just wanna be alone. This is happening right now

It seems to me that we are too focused on the feelings we have and whether they are right or wrong, whether they are enough instead of feeling them..