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- 6y
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How do you know that it is ROCD? I just don’t know how to be sure about what I have..
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I said “omg” because I relate lol. I can tell because I obsess about how I’m feeling and I overthink about whatever he is doing that makes me upset. I definitely recognize that I sort of exaggerate the situation in my head. Like if my bf is being annoying or he says something that I don’t agree with ill freak out internally and sometimes have a thought like “this is why we’re not meant to be together” instead of just being like “I don’t agree and feel upset” and let it pass. but once I come down from the anxiety I can rationalize that everyone has their differences and the aggravation is temporary and it doesn’t have to “mean” that something is terribly wrong (+talking through any annoyances or disagreements openly with your partner could help in a nonjudgemental setting)
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- 6y
I have OCD about my girlfriend cheating on me so these thoughts make me very irritated at her and even angry. Which scares me
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Thank you! Just there is a thing that people who don’t love their partner are also annoyed by him/her That is why I’m afraid to have this thoughts Intimacy is also hard for me, though
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Omg. I feel like getting annoyed is normal for every human. But my rocd definitely makes it 100x worse or it triggers me to feel I should break up with him because I get so aggravated. I know it’s the rocd but it’s like ugh why
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Right?! Like there are articles everywhere talking about what it “means” if you feel a certain way about your partner. We’re always told to look at the signs. (I stopped reading them or I just use them for ERP purposes now) It can be extremely confusing to have these ideas thrown at us while we’re trying to deal with rocd!!!! no existing relationship is perfect, and human emotions are messy!! Hang in there. If you don’t mind me asking, how long have you been dealing with rocd? (No pressure on answering this if you’re not comfortable)
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Thank you so much for helping me with this! I suppose around 4-5-6 months in this relationships, but I had ROCD before them twice...what about you? sometimes I have these thoughts, sometimes for a long time I don’t have them fortunately
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Of course! It’s so easy to feel crazy and alone (I know that from myself) I’ve had mine for around the same time in my current relationship! My rocd has come up in almost all relationships (except for my first but it was bad haha). Yeah it’s always a blessing when we get a good day or a day where there’s a lot less ocd stress.
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- 6y
Oh God I feel the same thing about my husband!!!!
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Sometimes I ask myself “did I do the right thing getting married to him? Do I really like him?”. Sometimes I don’t feel any emotions towards him, I just get bored or idk what this is, and idk what to do about this! Sometimes in my head there’s a thought that is quite constant for me, which is “if I think I don’t like him, would I be able to cheat on him? Omg what if I feel like doing it!?” And I get really sad and upset at me and just wanna be alone. This is happening right now
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- 6y
It seems to me that we are too focused on the feelings we have and whether they are right or wrong, whether they are enough instead of feeling them..
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- 23w
I don’t understand why I don’t feel happy, why my mind keeps making me think so negatively about him. Nothing makes me feel joy anymore. I keep thinking that he’s stupid, that I don’t like him, and when he speaks kindly to me, I feel nothing. The worst part is that I feel completely numb, like I have no emotions at all. And that makes me think that maybe I really don’t like him, that I will eventually reach a point where I realize my worst fear is true. I keep fighting with him because of my attitude. I treat him badly, and I know it’s because of my thoughts. I can’t see the good in anything. Today, he told me that I would be better off without him because I always seem so sad. He moved to my city for university just to be with me, and instead of making his life better, I feel like I’m making it worse. The thoughts don’t stop, even when I’m with him. I see people posting about how they feel calm when they’re with their partners, but I don’t. I can’t look at him without having intrusive thoughts, and I can’t even kiss him. Today, he told me that he doesn’t feel loved by me anymore, that I treat him poorly. I am constantly afraid because I feel nothing when he says things to me, because I don’t feel like I care. When I look at pictures of us from when I was in a better place, I feel like I was a completely different person. I start thinking that I’ve “matured” and that’s why I don’t feel anything anymore—like maybe I only liked him because I was young and naïve. Everything he does and says irritates me, but he loves me. What if I’m only with him because I don’t want to hurt him? What if I’m just used to him? I feel scared all the time. I don’t understand what’s happening. He keeps trying to apply logic, but it doesn’t work on me. So many times, he has tried to make me feel better, to tell me that I still care about him and that I don’t need to feel love all the time. But my heart breaks when I see how attached he is to me while I feel like I don’t feel the same way. I feel like I’m hurting him, and I don’t know how to get out of this dark place . He keeps trying to apply logic, but it doesn’t work on me. So many times, he has tried to make me feel better, to tell me that I still care about him and that I don’t need to feel love all the time. But my heart breaks when I see how attached he is to me while I feel like I don’t feel the same way. I feel like I’m hurting him, and I don’t know how to get out of this dark place
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- 21w
anyone else have ROCD that has no desire to kiss their boyfriend, I almost feel like an ick when I do, I'm scared. Help!
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- 20w
Lately, I’ve been feeling so disconnected from my boyfriend, and I don’t understand why. When I look at him, it feels like I’m looking at a stranger, and my mind keeps telling me that I don’t like him, that I never really loved him, or that I was just attached and comfortable. It feels real, and that terrifies me. I know logically that ROCD makes me overanalyze every little feeling, but it doesn’t make this any easier. I keep waiting to feel something—love, excitement, even relief—but instead, I just feel numb and distant. When we talk, I feel weird. When he kisses me, I don’t feel much. I keep thinking, ‘If I really loved him, wouldn’t I feel something?’ And the fact that I don’t just fuels my anxiety even more. It scares me that I can’t remember how I felt before ROCD took over. I look at old pictures, and my brain tells me, ‘That wasn’t real, you were just excited to have a relationship.’ And because I can’t access those feelings right now, it makes me doubt everything even more. I also feel guilty because my boyfriend is so loving and patient, but I feel like I’m hurting him. He tells me he doesn’t feel loved by me anymore, and I hate that I can’t just snap out of this and be the way I was before. It’s exhausting. I don’t know what’s real anymore. I keep checking how I feel every second, and it just makes me feel worse. I know that’s a compulsion, but it’s so hard to stop. I keep searching for certainty, but no answer satisfies me. Even when I try to accept the uncertainty, my mind screams, ‘But what if you don’t love him? What if you’re just lying to yourself?’ I want to be present with him. I want to feel love naturally again. But I don’t know how to get there, and it’s terrifying.”
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