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You could try doing some erp with this!! Try and make it a goal to talk to a woman and instead of doing the compilations ( overthinking how nice you are being) just allow your self to be there and then do some response prevention by saying this in your head “maybe she thinks I’m flirting maybe she doesn’t, but it doesn’t matter” or if you a fear of being attracted to women you could say “maybe I’m attracted to her maybe I’m not, but nobody is ever really sure and it doesn’t matter”
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Thank you this really helps!
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I am convinced that OCD is a party pooper. When I was engaged I went through the same stuff. I agree about doing the ERP exercise where you talk to women, like normal conversation the more you normalize it the compulsion will fade away. Enjoy these special times :-) you guys are planning a wedding! That’s exiciting!
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Yeah you’re right it’s just a matter of building up the courage! And yes we’re eloping next month! :) we were supposed to get married last year but COVID kinda postponed it for a little but now we’re here :)
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Don’t do it. You have to talk to women like normal. I remember when I went on my 2nd date ever and I was really nervous. When we were at the restaurant I tried my best to not make eye contact with other women cuz I knew how good looking I was and didn’t want other women to look at me cuz I didn’t want her to feel bad or think I’m interested in other women. I just wanted to give her my full attention. If your fiancé is aware of your ocd talk to her about it and just be normal around other women. There’s no way around not flirting with another girl it’s just a natural thing and you have to go with it. You’ve made a choice to be with a particular women so just let it be. You’ll be fine.
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I am going through this right now. I obsess and obsess over little things I have said and done that I feel like my boyfriend would be upset about or break up with me over and my compulsion is confessing these things to him. But I think sometimes we say and do things that others may not like or be jealous about and that’s just part of being human
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When I talk about how terrible I used to be to my girlfriend it makes me feel like I’m gonna do it again which I don’t wanna do and it scares me and then I get intrusive thoughts and feelings about it doing it but I don’t want to, weird I know.
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Every 30 minutes I spiral about something different. It’s exhausting. Right now I’m freaking out because I was finally feeling a little calmer, got on TikTok, and saw a post saying that comforting a guy or giving advice to a guy is considered cheating. Or “microcheating.” And so many people in the comments were agreeing. My OCD already gives me so much crap about having guy friends and comforting them during hard moments. Another post said that even giving advice when a guy texts you his problems is wrong, and like, I give advice so often. That one really struck me, because how on earth is that unacceptable? There was also a part about how hanging out with a guy is cheating too. I don’t really agree with that one either, but I guess I can understand that perspective a little more, especially if your partner feels uncomfortable with it. Still, it just added more fuel to the fire. I already doubt myself constantly, and then I read a comment that said, “*If you do any of that, all I’m hearing is ‘I’m a microcheater and proud.’*” I just started crying. I haven’t been able to sit with the uncertainty of whether I’ve been unfaithful or disrespectful to my boyfriend for months. Especially since my guy friend has given me comfort and advice too. Everything I do feels like cheating. ***Everything***. And seeing that just made it all feel so much worse.
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I have this deep fear I’ll accidentally cheat on my long term partner. This fear was initially triggered a couple years ago after being at a bar with my friends where I enjoyed the attention of being flirted with by a stranger. Because of my enjoyment of receiving verbal attention, I began spiraling about what if I accidentally cheat. Since then I have made multiple confessions to my partner to seek reassurance, replayed events over and over in my head, spent hours googling/looking at reddit threads, and now I dread “bar like” situations where I know my partner won’t be around. Today I was triggered and have wasted about 4-5 hours of my day ruminating. Does anyone else with relationship ocd struggle with this fear and have any tips?
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