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- Just another OCD guy
- Date posted
- 3y ago
- Username
- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
You could try doing some erp with this!! Try and make it a goal to talk to a woman and instead of doing the compilations ( overthinking how nice you are being) just allow your self to be there and then do some response prevention by saying this in your head “maybe she thinks I’m flirting maybe she doesn’t, but it doesn’t matter” or if you a fear of being attracted to women you could say “maybe I’m attracted to her maybe I’m not, but nobody is ever really sure and it doesn’t matter”
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- Just another OCD guyJust another...
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Thank you this really helps!
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- Jess Jess
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I am convinced that OCD is a party pooper. When I was engaged I went through the same stuff. I agree about doing the ERP exercise where you talk to women, like normal conversation the more you normalize it the compulsion will fade away. Enjoy these special times :-) you guys are planning a wedding! That’s exiciting!
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- Just another OCD guyJust another...
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yeah you’re right it’s just a matter of building up the courage! And yes we’re eloping next month! :) we were supposed to get married last year but COVID kinda postponed it for a little but now we’re here :)
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Compulsions*
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Don’t do it. You have to talk to women like normal. I remember when I went on my 2nd date ever and I was really nervous. When we were at the restaurant I tried my best to not make eye contact with other women cuz I knew how good looking I was and didn’t want other women to look at me cuz I didn’t want her to feel bad or think I’m interested in other women. I just wanted to give her my full attention. If your fiancé is aware of your ocd talk to her about it and just be normal around other women. There’s no way around not flirting with another girl it’s just a natural thing and you have to go with it. You’ve made a choice to be with a particular women so just let it be. You’ll be fine.
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- Maybe,MaybeNotMaybe,MaybeNot
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I am going through this right now. I obsess and obsess over little things I have said and done that I feel like my boyfriend would be upset about or break up with me over and my compulsion is confessing these things to him. But I think sometimes we say and do things that others may not like or be jealous about and that’s just part of being human
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- tiredsoul
- Date posted
- 3y ago
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