- Date posted
- 3y ago
- Date posted
- 3y ago
This is hard! You are not alone in feeling this way. It’s sounds like a compulsion of yours is to ask him for reassurance- “checking to make sure he still likes you”. Next time, maybe try to see how long you can go without asking for reassurance. Instead, distract yourself by going outside, singing a song, etc. Try to have longer and longer time intervals from feeling the anxiety and the time You ask for reassurance. It’s hard! It makes you feel lonely, worried you might lose him, etc. He has stayed even during the times you thought he was going to leave.
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Thank you! I really appreciate your response. I am starting today about trying to stop asking for reassurance. It is difficult! I did do ERP today, and my ERP exercise was geared more towards it is possible “x” can happen or it is possible “y” can happen and to just be okay with the uncertainty and listening to my recordings over and over again until I feel okay with it. Getting out of the house also helps a lot. Thank you 😊
- Date posted
- 3y ago
If you can, don't try ignore your OCD - challenge it. Tell yourself that yeah, he might find other girls attractive, but he trusts me enough to say so. What's more loyal than that?
- Date posted
- 3y ago
If you've really tried everything, I don't know. It's hard to say. But tbh, you're lucky right now. Now I don't mean what you're going through is good, it's not. We guys says stupid stuff all the time. But honestly if he can admit that to you straight up that he can find other girls attractive and still daybthat he wants to be with you than you must be a prize to him. You need to not worry about something like this, I know it's hard with uncertainty but it doesn't seem like he'll just ditch you.
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Thank you! I appreciate this because I know what you mean, the situation could be much worse. My boyfriend is very loving and supportive of me and I know he would never do anything to hurt me… I don’t know why this bothers me so much, but I’m trying to work and get a handle on it now
Related posts
- Date posted
- 25w ago
I’m really frustrated with myself. I got diagnosed with ROCD about 2 and a half weeks ago and now it’s taken over my life. I was just with my boyfriend who is absolutely amazing and I was obsessed with 2 and a half weeks ago and then a switch flipped and I started questioning everything and have gone numb. I noticed immediately something was wrong and booked an appt with my therapist who sent me to an OCD therapist who I meet with on Wednesday for the first time. I’m frustrated because when I’m with him I know what I should be feeling and can acknowledge how great he is and how good looking he is but I feel this block in my chest keeping me from feeling things. Anyone have any advice or has ever felt this way? I know I’m new to this and haven’t started therapy yet but my god it is so draining and the guilt I feel is insane. Let me know please🙏
- Date posted
- 13w ago
How do you guys get past the anxiety? I feel like my thoughts are the only thing that control my mind. So often I feel like I should just leave my partner even tho I love them so much because I just feel like these thoughts are too much. I over analyze everything. I feel so stuck and defeated. I just want to be normal. I feel so toxic for the thoughts that I have
- Date posted
- 11w ago
I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond