MustacheUA?
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- 6y
axolotlaxolotl
- Date posted
- 6y
It sounds like your family is not enabling your compulsions which is ultimately a good thing - even tho right now it probably feels really frustrating! My partner won’t follow my rules for cleanliness and order either, and while it stresses me out, now that I’m in therapy I understand he’s actually helping me get healthier since I need to fight these compulsive desires. Maybe try to see these moments as opportunities to try ERP - reframing it as an opportunity might help with the anger. Also re: anger, have you tried ACT exercises? I do square breathing (a kind of deep breathing) to calm down. One thing too is to let your partner know that while you’re fighting these compulsions you may feel distressed - and that distress is definitely real! So while my partner won’t enable my compulsive behavior, he has learned to empathize with me (saying he understands I’m upset, giving hugs, engaging me in conversation, going for a walk together, etc). I’m sorry you’re struggling with this and hope you feel better soon
Brian1234Brian1234
- Date posted
- 6y
What have you been doing to control your OCD? Counceling Medication Therapy (look at this website for info) Try some or all of these ideas. OCD and marriage are both full time jobs. You have to work with them
CatladyCatlady
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- 6y
@MustacheUA It’s okay, I get what you’re saying. Remember that this is OCD and not you. If you haven’t explained it that way to your spouse yet, I believe you should. It may clear up a lot of issues. Think of OCD as a bully constantly shouting criticism. The bully’s goal is to hurt you, but he/she is discouraged if you ignore him/her. Cleanliness, tidiness, and organization are all good but, as you know, OCD loves to use them to agitate us. When you start feeling anxious about about these things, try to remember the bully and treat it likewise.
Stephen SmithStephen Smith
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- 6y
@axolotl is 100% right one of the best answers ever seen for a response like this.
CatladyCatlady
- Date posted
- 6y
I won’t pressure you if you don’t want to, but do you mind going into further detail about your OCD? I might be able to give you more specific tips.
MustacheUA?MustacheUA?
- Date posted
- 6y
Mine is I have a obsess with cleaning and keeping things in Ofer 100% of the time. As my daughter plays and stops playing with a toy I have to put it away. Or when something is not put away right away seems to trigger it. Then when I begin to fix it or ask for help my family just tells me to calm down they will witch makes it worse. I know that’s a bad description but that the best I really can do.
MustacheUA?MustacheUA?
- Date posted
- 6y
Thank you all very much. This helps so much!!
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Willing to do anything.
What is a common family joke. OCD is hereditary on my father's side. However I also live with complex PTSD, and ADHD. I didn't learn till recently how severe my OCD is and the intensity gets amplified if the though goes to either of the other two. It's a loop I've identified recently... just little too late. I've lived with OCD for years not really addressing it till I see that's the very reason I cause damage to loved ones. I'm married, 33, a vet. My marriage is not in the best place now. I have a son who's 4 and already showing signs of OCD. Currently my marriage is at a point where we are working on ourselves. It's discovered that my wife's issues are reflections of my own. I understand fully now that I am the center of the issues but also the solution. I need help for me. What happens with my relationships depends on me showing that I am better and able to process thoughts and emotions better. Journaling helps alot. Trying to do hobbies or this that and 3rd but. I'm willing to try anything. Things are on a line. I'm open to any and all POV and ideas. I'm not out crying. I'm taking a big step for me. Something 25 years over due. Thank you for reading this. As I tell myself now. You'll best this and be better
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