BritD
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- 3y
BritDBritD
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- 3y
I just joined here a few days ago and I’m finding it helpful as well as the groups. It’s nice to see other people are there with me and also to see the people who are further on the path to a better life
Jeffrey Jeffrey
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Reassurance, although it will feel better in the short term, it will only make OCD stronger in the long term. The OCD will always find a way to question a professional opinion. Are you doing ERP therapy ?
BritDBritD
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- 3y
I did my intake appointment last week. I think this next appointment is lots of info and background about ocd. Then we get into doing the actual exposures
Jeffrey Jeffrey
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
@BritD As hard as it is, try not to seek reassurance. But if you do seek it don’t be harsh on yourself. You are at the beginning of the ERP so you will learn the skills. Please know that you are ok. OCD wants you to think you are not.
BritDBritD
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- 3y
@Jeffrey Thank you for the kind words
Jeffrey Jeffrey
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
@BritD You’re welcome. Let me know how you are doing. I think we can chat through this app. I find it helpful to chat with others going through the same thing.
WormiezWormiez
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- 3y
If you're on the brink of suicide or in a really awful place, sometimes you need to do what you need to do to get by. CBT therapists will pretty much give you all the reassurance you want. OCD specialists and those who know how to properly handle patients with OCD won't feed into your requests for reassurance.
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