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I just moved in with my boyfriend and that triggered my rocd episode. I’ll be honest I didn’t cope well. Not until I got strict with myself and got back on my medication (which is helpful for me but may not be for you) and stopped my compulsions. It’s hard but once you get into the routine it isn’t that hard any more. Having self compassion while also being strict with yourself has really helped me
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What medication r u on?
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@hirokilledme I’m on Zoloft. But what works for me might not work for you! So definitely consult with your doctor if you are thinking about getting on medication and they’ll try to find a good fit for you :)
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That just happened to me last week, I don't know how to cope yet but I relate
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I don’t know how to cope yet either but I’ve been stuck in a bad episode for a bout a week. It started coming in waves about 3 weeks ago now it’s full-on bad again. If I find anything that works I’ll let you know. I’m always here if you wanna talk. Stay strong ❤️
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Been dealing with that with Covid and the recent surge in cases. My condition has worsened that that’s why I’m here.
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a major breakup triggered my ocd, and it’s been hard to go back to before that 🥺
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i think that’s how my OCD got triggered as well and i can 100% agree with you it’s been hard to return to how it was before that
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Me too! It’s so difficult. If you wanna talk, I’m here.
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Same here. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago and about 3 weeks ago my OCD started getting really bad again. I hope you find something that works. I’m always here if you wanna talk about anything.
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Yes moving to a new city with my partner triggered my ocd initially, then again this summer, the death of a close loved one triggered my ocd again along with new themes from all the stress I was under
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Same thing happened to me! 2 years ago I moved across the country with my then boyfriend. Everything shut down a couple months after we got there and being alone away from my family and friends and working from home all the time really made my OCD unbearable. After moving back home and doing therapy through NOCD it got a million times better. Then 2 months ago I broke up with him, and now it’s just sort of setting in that I probably won’t ever see him again. And my OCD has been horrible. I’m so sorry for your loss! The whole community is always here for you if you need to talk about anything.
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I never used to have a hard time making friends. Then I went into high school and had a terrible year socially. It made me start to wonder if something was genuinely wrong with me, because suddenly I couldn't seem to strike up a conversation with anyone. I transferred schools, but by that point my confidence was already through the floor. Tenth grade was Act I, but ninth grade definitely set the stage.
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Anyone have any good coping strategies when they have an ocd flare up or attack?
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Looking back, my introverted nature and struggles to find belonging in high school may have set the stage for how OCD would later impact my relationships. I had my first relationship in high school, but OCD wasn’t a major factor then. It wasn’t until my longest relationship—six years from age 18 to 24—that OCD really took hold. The relationship itself wasn’t the issue; it was what happened after. When it ended, I became obsessed with confessing past mistakes, convinced I had to be completely transparent. Even when my partner was willing to work past them, I couldn’t let go of the intrusive thoughts, and that obsession landed me in the hospital. From there, my struggle with ROCD (Relationship OCD) fully emerged. For years, every time I tried to move forward in dating, doubts consumed me. I would start seeing someone and feel fine, but then the questions would creep in: Do I really like her? Do I find her attractive? Is she getting on my nerves? What if I’m with the wrong person? I’d break things off, thinking I was following my true feelings. But then I’d question: Was that really how I felt, or was it just OCD? I tried again and again, each time hoping I could “withstand it this time,” only to fall back into the same cycle. The back and forth hurt both me and the person I was with. By the time I realized it was ROCD, the damage had been done, and I still hadn’t built the tools to manage it. Now, at 28, I know I need to approach dating differently. I recently talked to someone from a dating app, and my OCD still showed up—questioning my every move, making me doubt my own decisions. I haven’t yet done ERP specifically for ROCD, but I know that’s my next step. Just like I’ve learned tools for managing my other OCD subtypes, I need a set of strategies for when intrusive doubts hit in relationships. My goal this year is to stop letting uncertainty control me—to learn how to sit with doubt instead of trying to “figure it out.” I want to break the cycle and be able to build something healthy without my OCD sabotaging it. I know I’m not alone in this, and I know healing is possible. I’m hopeful that working with a therapist will help me develop exposures and thought loops to practice. I don’t expect to eliminate doubt entirely—after all, doubt is a part of every relationship—but I want to reach a place where it doesn’t paralyze me. Where I can move forward without constantly questioning whether I should. And where I can be in a relationship without feeling like OCD is pulling the strings. I would appreciate hearing about your experiences with ROCD. Please share your thoughts or any questions in the comments below. I’d love to connect and offer my perspective. Thanks!
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Does anyone Else’s ocd flare up bad when in stressful life situations? I was doing amazing and now that I’m having some drama with my life it seems to have come back with a vengeance. Anyone else?
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