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I just moved in with my boyfriend and that triggered my rocd episode. I’ll be honest I didn’t cope well. Not until I got strict with myself and got back on my medication (which is helpful for me but may not be for you) and stopped my compulsions. It’s hard but once you get into the routine it isn’t that hard any more. Having self compassion while also being strict with yourself has really helped me
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What medication r u on?
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@hirokilledme I’m on Zoloft. But what works for me might not work for you! So definitely consult with your doctor if you are thinking about getting on medication and they’ll try to find a good fit for you :)
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That just happened to me last week, I don't know how to cope yet but I relate
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I don’t know how to cope yet either but I’ve been stuck in a bad episode for a bout a week. It started coming in waves about 3 weeks ago now it’s full-on bad again. If I find anything that works I’ll let you know. I’m always here if you wanna talk. Stay strong ❤️
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Been dealing with that with Covid and the recent surge in cases. My condition has worsened that that’s why I’m here.
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a major breakup triggered my ocd, and it’s been hard to go back to before that 🥺
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i think that’s how my OCD got triggered as well and i can 100% agree with you it’s been hard to return to how it was before that
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Me too! It’s so difficult. If you wanna talk, I’m here.
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Same here. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago and about 3 weeks ago my OCD started getting really bad again. I hope you find something that works. I’m always here if you wanna talk about anything.
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Yes moving to a new city with my partner triggered my ocd initially, then again this summer, the death of a close loved one triggered my ocd again along with new themes from all the stress I was under
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Same thing happened to me! 2 years ago I moved across the country with my then boyfriend. Everything shut down a couple months after we got there and being alone away from my family and friends and working from home all the time really made my OCD unbearable. After moving back home and doing therapy through NOCD it got a million times better. Then 2 months ago I broke up with him, and now it’s just sort of setting in that I probably won’t ever see him again. And my OCD has been horrible. I’m so sorry for your loss! The whole community is always here for you if you need to talk about anything.
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I never used to have a hard time making friends. Then I went into high school and had a terrible year socially. It made me start to wonder if something was genuinely wrong with me, because suddenly I couldn't seem to strike up a conversation with anyone. I transferred schools, but by that point my confidence was already through the floor. Tenth grade was Act I, but ninth grade definitely set the stage.
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Looking back, I realize I’ve had OCD since I was 7. though I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 30. As a kid, I was consumed by fears I couldn’t explain: "What if God isn’t real? What happens when we die? How do I know I’m real?" These existential thoughts terrified me, and while everyone has them from time to time, I felt like they were consuming my life. By 12, I was having daily panic attacks about death and war, feeling untethered from reality as depersonalization and derealization set in. At 15, I turned to drinking, spending the next 15 years drunk, trying to escape my mind. I hated myself, struggled with my body, and my intrusive thoughts. Sobriety forced me to face it all head-on. In May 2022, I finally learned I had OCD. I remember the exact date: May 10th. Reading about it, I thought, "Oh my God, this is it. This explains everything." My main themes were existential OCD and self-harm intrusive thoughts. The self-harm fears were the hardest: "What if I kill myself? What if I lose control?" These thoughts terrified me because I didn’t want to die. ERP changed everything. At first, I thought, "You want me to confront my worst fears? Are you kidding me?" But ERP is gradual and done at your pace. My therapist taught me to lean into uncertainty instead of fighting it. She’d say, "Maybe you’ll kill yourself—who knows?" At first, it felt scary, but for OCD, it was freeing. Slowly, I realized my thoughts were just thoughts. ERP gave me my life back. I’m working again, I’m sober, and for the first time, I can imagine a future. If you’re scared to try ERP, I get it. But if you’re already living in fear, why not try a set of tools that can give you hope?
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People who went from a really bad time with OCD to a better time now. Is it really possible? What was your theme? Did you take medication?
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So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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