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@ocddreams it may seem like it on the surface but in certain situations there’s really nothing else you can do. we don’t know this person’s situation
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My living situation isn’t horrible. It’s not like I live with alcoholics or people who steal etc. it’s more a lack of respect and understanding. I have severe (apparently there are different levels, my therapist explained and mine is bad) Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. And sensory processing disorder. Basically for me this means if my anxiety starts “acting up” I need COMPLETE silence. Because if I don’t it sets off my OCD, which sets off the sensory issues and it just is a cycle over and over. I have tried to explain this to my parents, upon the suggestion of my therapist, but my parents don’t seem to care because they don’t believe me. (They are like a lot of older people in that regard, obviously not all, but most, choose to think things especially regarding mental illness, are “made up” if it isn’t something they can understand). I have tried to talk to them about the noise level (they all talk at insane levels, friends growing up would ask why my parents screamed when they talked) I don’t think they can hear it they’ve been talking this loud for so long ? Not only that but everyone is genuinely loud in this house. It’s just a loud family. I have tried wearing earplugs but because of my sensory issues it does no good. My senses are so strong. I love them they just aren’t the best for me to be by. My therapist just said my issues regarding OCD, SPD and depression are all really bad (I can’t go on antidepressants due to health reasons, plus they never even helped me) and it will be near impossible for me to try and improve my situation and acceptance of things I cannot control, in this living environment.
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Ah, I see.... I do agree moving out is a good thing to look forward too. I’m in sort of the same boat. My therapist knows my financial situation so mostly he just lets me vent and helps me cope with my mom who is less than ideal to live with.
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yeah that’s definitely understandable. You can’t control your family but you can control what environment you create for yourself when you move out, I hope you can make it happen asap!
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That’s interesting..... I would think there’s a better way than to just move out. Seems like that’s avoiding the problem.
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I'm actually in kinda the same boat. I love my family but there's just to much tension because of my OCD (especially with mom). I feel that if I don't move out soon, I never will. I had to stop antidepressants because of health reasons to.
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Lucius, Why does it always seem to be the moms? So many of them have control issues. Idk if it’s because they controlled so much of our lives when we were really young and never learned or thought they needed to stop? My mom I believe is the root of my OCD and the reason it keeps getting worse. She is the least supportive person I know, especially in regards to this. She tries to make me believe I’m making it worse than it is, or even better than that tries to tell me I’m making it up completely and if I “wanted” to be better I would be. Like she thinks I don’t want to be better?? Ahhaha she’s insane honestly
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Here's the thing Cat attack, my mom could not be more supportive if she tried. She's given up hundreds of hours to research doctors and set up appointments, and I'm doing so much better because of the help she got me. But she's too helpful if that makes since? Our personalities are very conflicting and I'm trying to find ways to reduce dependence on her help but right now I'm not in school unfortunately and I'm having physical problems that I need help getting treatment for.
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Yes, I agree!
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Guys I need help. I feel so alone . Basically I have this compulsion where I feel the need to write everything but this stems from me being anxious about EVERYTHING. Like my mom came in my room and I was irritated and snapped, immediately regretted now I keep writing “don’t be mean to mom next time” but I keep thinking about it. Then I think about how I finally left my house today and all the surfaces I touched that could’ve been contaminated and now I’m writing “next time don’t touch this and this”. Then I think about all the things I need to be doing for this week and I’m writing “don’t forget to do this and this” even though I’ve written it 5 times already. This is what happens everyday btw. My brain always thinks about something I need to be doing and making me anxious that I’ll forget it which is why I write it down on my notes app. I’m sooo mentally exhausted I need help pls!! Anyone have any advice ? I used to think I need to stop the writing but really I need to stop the anxious thoughts coming into my head . People say I need to accept the thoughts and let it go but that’s too hard for me
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I feel really scared and worried that the therapist I find on NOCD might not be effective, and instead of getting better, I might end up feeling worse. I’m afraid that if I don’t feel any progress, I’ll want to switch therapists, but my mom might get impatient with me. I worry that she’ll lose faith in therapy, stop paying for it, and think it’s a waste of time and money. I know therapy takes time and it’s not a quick fix, but I’m scared that things won’t go the way I hope. What if I don’t connect with the therapist? What if they don’t understand my OCD as well as I need them to? I’ve already been struggling so much, and the thought of going through another disappointment is exhausting. I’m only 14, and I feel stuck because I can’t manage this on my own. I need help, but I also need my mom to stay patient and supportive through this process. I’m scared that if things don’t improve fast enough, she’ll give up on paying for therapy. I don’t know what to do, and it’s making me feel really anxious. I just want to get better, but what if nothing works out?
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I’m feeling kind of sad cause today was not a really good day in terms of my ocd. I was feeling kind of foggy/numb and that send me to spiraling. I’m 21 years old currently studying but my family has been having trouble with money for the last couple years(we’re just me and my mom) and I kinda want to get a job but everything is far from my home and I wouldn’t be able to return back at night, also it’s either way more expensive to move or the schedule wouldn’t let me take my classes. The point is that because of that every time my mom is stress tends to treat me bad, she speaks to me like I’m stupid or she just screams to nothing cursing all life and everything and that actually makes me feel soo bad and guilty for not doing anything, I know it’s hard for me to get a job that actually helps us without quitting school but that doesn’t stop me from feeling like I’m a burden. I want to help, I want to maybe hug her or something but I know she will be angrier and probably will reject it. So that’s it, I just feel like she punishes me for the stress she’s carrying and I get it but one day is happy and it feels like all love and the next is treating me like that, Idk it’s hard (also I feel like I shouldn’t be saying this cause it’s all my fault) 🫤
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