35d ago
  • Relationship OCD

Hey there, I often seek reassurance through my partner after we have any slight disagreement or if I let my ocd get in the way of our relationship and cause issues... Often times, we will fight at night and then we are apart at work and I get urges to text him and apologize. I have not yet explained my ocd to my partner as I just realized that I have it a few months ago. We've been together for 2.5 years and we are in a serious relationship. I'm very comfortable with him but I just panic about the thought of telling him because I feel crazy. He has dealt with my meltdowns and he doesn't understand them, neither did I. I guess my question is, is this common? How do you handle the urge to speak reassurance? And how did you talk to your partner?

35d ago
I used to ask my ex for reassurance, but I realized that didn't always help. If you find that you need reassurance for something specific pertaining to them, that's okay and you can do that if it will help! Also realizing your thoughts and anxieties may not be as important as you think they are. Personally, I'd suggest talking to your partner about your OCD and explaining it. I did so with my current bf and he's been very helpful and understanding, even going as far as helping inform other people if I am doing a compulsion. Communicating it is key! :)