- Username
- qtwr
- Date posted
- 3y ago
It’s totally & completely up to you if you want to tell others about your OCD or not. Personally, I wanted to tell my best friend, boyfriend, and others close to me bc I felt like it helped them better understand me and my habits. However, that doesn’t mean that’s the best option for everyone! If you’d rather keep it to yourself, that’s totally fine.
@qtwr Try not to think of it as a secret and more so as privacy. You are entitled to your own privacy and don’t have to tell anything you don’t want to. If you feel it would help them to understand you or you’d like to speak about past events and that this has made you who you are today, then that’s ok. If you want to keep it private and put the past in the past, then that’s ok too.
asking if you're a bad person for this is reassurance seeking, and i don't want to enable that. instead, i'm gonna tell you this: while your medical diagnosis is your business and only your business, you don't have to decide who you do or don't want to tell today. you havent even met this supposed significant other yet, so don't sit here and be anxious about whether or not youre going to tell them. accept the fact that you don't know what you're going to do when the conversation comes up and move on
@qtwr i can't answer that for you. if your best friend had a mental illness and decided to never tell you, would you think they were a bad person?
@qtwr so if you dont think they'd be a bad person, why would you be a bad person?
Congratulations on feeling better! I don’t have any experience yet because I am still struggling pretty bad with ocd but I think about this a lot. I worry that I’ll never find a SO because I won’t want to tell him about the horrible things I have thought. Perhaps just letting them know we have ocd and aren’t really comfortable going into it further is enough? 🤷🏼♀️ I don’t think there is anything wrong with not wanting to share something so personal but I do think not revealing something that is such a big part of our life might be complicated and you might be stressed about not accidentally revealing it. It’s a tough decision to make. Honestly, right now I can’t imagine finding a man that could ever accept my issues and thoughts so I am battling with the notion of being alone forever. Sorry I couldn’t give any personal advice. Do you mind me asking if you have any advice on how you stopped ruminating and got your ocd to a manageable level?
It would say I stopped caring about my OCD. Whenever I get a thought I breath in and breath out, then I would say maybe maybe not, and let the thought be uncertain and try to not figure it out. It feels hard at first but later it gets better. Just forget everything so far , think today as a new beginning and you are only what you do and what your intentions are. A thought is just a thought you wouldn't want to do it so why bother finding it out if it's true or not, so why bother ruminating about it. Also be mindful, meditate daily, journal, eat your meals (atleast 3 meals a day) , have a consistent sleep pattern, read something daily.
@qtwr Thanks for the advice!
You are allowed to do whatever you want. Sharing it or keeping it to yourself is not good or bad. It’s your personal day preference. People don’t need to know every single thing about us.
Anyone have tips on Relationship OCD, and do you share the intrusive thoughts and tell your girlfriend you are dealing with this? Or keep it to yourself.
The one thing I don’t know how to do is if I date, how would I let my significant other know about my POCD? I wouldn’t want to keep secrets but I don’t feel like it would be the easiest conversation. Does anyone have advice for how they did so with their significant others?
You may be thinking that you should or shouldn't tell your significant other the specifics of what your OCD thoughts are. With this, there is no right answer and the choice on whether to share or not remains with you and you alone. Personally, I did not feel the need to share my thoughts with my significant other and how some of them involved them. Another person may decide that they would like to share those details with their significant other. Whatever you decide to do is okay as long as your partner is supportive and understanding on this journey. Have you shared details about your intrusive thoughts with your partner?
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