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exactly how i feel š
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It's hard but we've got this! šŖ
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Itās interesting you say this, because I am always super focused on my interactions with other people, whether itās in person or texting!!! Am I saying something wrong, am I doing something wrong, weāre any past messages wrong? Everything is about the fear of if I ever cheated on my husband... Even is an interaction is innocent, my mind can doubt it and make it guilty..... Iām trying to use the methods from Dr.Michael Greenburg regarding rumination.... I have never had this issue before having OCD!
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Wow just hearing this makes me realise a lot about myself and how I have been feeling!! Thank you for sharing š¤
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I can massively relate to this I have always had a fear of being abandoned due to parental abandonment as a child. And since the start of my relationship I had always been scared they may leave and as soon as I accepted they wouldnāt the OCD started
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Glad to know I'm not alone! Thanks for sharing.
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Interestingly enough when I look back at previous relationships I always left because I felt like they were getting to close and therefore may leave. Whereas this time Iāve made an active effort to stay and not get scared which I think has brought up this servere episode of OCD. Because my brain is trying to convince me that Iām in danger of being abandoned so I should therefore leave.
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Exactly. It's our brain's way of trying to protect us from potential hurt.
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@Anonymous My problem is I feel almost scared by the amount of time Iāve spent in my head. I have looked back so deeply on my past that things have come up that I wish I hadnāt found but find it impossible to ignore.
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@allienease I was left by my ex boyfriend and after that I have had the worst rocd and hocd came back so bad when I found myself in a healthy relationship.
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@Anonymous exactly how i feel. itās just so scary cus iām afraid itās real sometimes, even though itās nott
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Iāve got to a point where Iāve gone through my past memories so much to find evidence of being gay. And obviously if anyone went that deep they could find āsomeā evidence. And my brain has just stuck to it and said Iāve got no choice but to be gay. Like I will have intercourse with my girlfriend and the moment I enjoy it the āwhat Ifā questions kick in and then it just makes the whole thing feel weird. Because surely I shouldnāt be thinking that? I donāt know how long I can go on like this because I feel like Iām leading her on even contemplating being gay?
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Thatās the problem for people with OCD! If we go and ruminate and look for evidence, yes we may find something that we end up taking and making it into a big deal but any other normal person would find no problem with it.... But for us, the more we go looking the more we overanalyze and just make stuff up and keep asking more and more questions over things that probabaly arenāt a big deal!!!
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I understand so much! I am even scared of looking good or to dress up a little more, because If someone happens to like me i would feel like it's my fault, for my behaviour and for my appearance, making me feel like a cheater. I always feel like it's my fault when i see someone having even the slightest interest in me, like i'm the one who is hitting on them.
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I just donāt know how I can go back from this now? Does that make sense? Like how can I make myself content in my relationship like I was before hand. Because before this OCD episode I didnāt question any of this at all.
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I understand what you mean! I have ROCD as well as many other themes... We have to try to practice stopping rumination! It sucks because things I use to do previously I never found a big deal, and now I consider it a big deal or cheating.... OCD is so stupid itās rediculous
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I am in a relationship but I cannot stop getting thoughts about this new coworker I met, my mind convinces me they are so attractive and so great and I hate it so much. My current relationship has its imperfections (as every one does) but I am so happy with her and have always been so loyal. Would OCD target those imperfections and exploit this situation? Additionally I believe Iām feeling ROCD fears of cheating but I know in every opportunity Iāve talked with other women I am loyal to my partner by bringing her up. Does anyone experience the same thing? Is this really OCD or other subconscious intrusive thinking?
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Hi everyone, Iāve already been diagnosed with OCD, and I strongly suspect that Iāve developed a ROCD pattern. I wanted to share a specific situation that just wonāt leave me alone ā even though itās objectively been cleared up. Iām in a relationship with a man who is, by nature, a very transparent, honest, and loyal person. Rationally, I know I can trust him. Recently, he got a phone call while I was with him. I asked him to check who it was. He hesitated briefly and then checked kind of slowly ā the number wasnāt saved. To me, the whole thing just felt a bit strange. It didnāt seem like āopen behavior,ā even though he told me afterward that he simply didnāt have the energy to deal with it, since he had generally had a bad day. The problem is: Even after this explanation ā which makes sense ā the thoughts wonāt go away. I keep replaying the situation in my head, analyzing his reaction, wondering if that hesitation meant something ā even though I know he didnāt do anything wrong. I feel like I need to bring it up again to feel at ease. But I also know that would only bring temporary relief, and then the cycle would start all over again. It feels just like other OCD loops ā only this time, itās centered around my relationship. Have any of you experienced something like this? How do you stop yourself from falling into the reassurance trap over and over again? I donāt want to overwhelm or hurt my partner unnecessarily ā I just want to learn how to manage this inner tension better. did it sound like ocd?? Rocd?? Thanks for reading. It really helps to know Iām not alone. (edited)
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Hi I'm new to all of this so I hope I'm doing this right. 5 years ago my 34 year marriage ended. My ex husband was a mentally and financially abusive, covert narcissist. All that is behind me now and I'm finally remembering who I am again. I'm in a relationship with a really great guy but the problem I'm having is relationship OCD. This has taken me by surprise really as I've had OCD from a very young age but never has it been about my relationship. I constantly check messages and go over and over conversations and convince myself my partner will eventually cheat. Almost every single person in his life I can feel threatened by and I hate this for him and also for me as I don't have any peace of mind. This is ruining the lovely relationship I know I could have so I really need to get a handle on it. Has anybody else experienced this and managed to control it?
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