- Date posted
- 3y
- Date posted
- 3y
I think a big part of OCD is we are extremely empathetic, almost to a fault. We feel things much deeper than other people. You heard about something tragic and you immediately felt the need to soothe yourself and now you’re stuck in rumination
- Date posted
- 3y
Ya exactly. :(
- Date posted
- 3y
This sounds awful and I’m sorry you have to go through that. One of the most important lessons at the OCD Institute was the concept of “unhealthy guilt” and how to spot it. A rule of thumb is to ask yourself the question - is this issue out of my control? In this case, it is out of your control, so you know it’s unhealthy guilt. You may still feel terrible, but the best thing to do is to sit with that anxiety and try to focus on something else. Hopefully this helps
- Date posted
- 3y
Yes thank you I did my best at that but every time I go by the memorial for the person who sadly passed away I feel sick :( I just hope that each family and person in the situation is able to one day find comfort
- Date posted
- 3y
I think that actually shows a lot of quality about your character, having understanding for the perpetrator. It was probably and extremely traumatic and horrifying experience for her. Maybe you can pray for her if you are a spiritual person. And your control in this situation is to try to not figure it out. You won’t be able to figure it out, and if you stop trying you’ll be able to see it more logically in the future. But even if it was you that actually did it, you should give yourself the same compassion you have for that girl. People make mistakes. It doesn’t mean we are horrible human beings. Unfortunately our society tends to make us believe otherwise a lot of the times because people jump to conclusions and are harsh and judgemental.
- Date posted
- 3y
Thank you. I’m working towards that :) it’s a goal every day <3
Related posts
- Date posted
- 20w
i’m a new user on this app, I downloaded it just cause I was curious, I don’t really know if I have OCD. Because in school all I learned about OCD is things being out of place and having it to be perfect almost like perfectionism, but I’ve just recently realized there’s a whole kind of different types of OCD, some things I struggle with daily is a fear of bad things happening or almost like an impending doom of when is it gonna happen? I’m always in my head thinking feels like I’m having multiple conversations at once. Sometimes it doesn’t even feel like I’m having a conversation with myself. I have horrendous anxiety about everything and anything talking to people being around people. It just feels like it consumes my everyday life and I don’t know what to do. I can’t clearly remember anything from my childhood and some things I feel like I may be imagining I just don’t really feel like a person. I’m always thinking the worst in my relationship over analyzing and stressing out thinking of scenarios or thinking, my boyfriend‘s cheating on me. It almost all feels out of my control.
- Date posted
- 19w
Hey so a couple months ago (7-8) I remember being upset at my family member. Like she was talking too much while I was annoyed and remember wanting her to be quiet. I got an intrusive thought like a really bad image of doing something really bad to her, and my hand twitched to the side a little? Like it felt like I was about to?! And I remembered thinking "if I do this, I'll get in trouble". I got up and left to the bathroom and felt horrified! I was thinking "did I want to act out? Did the only reason I didn't act out was because of getting in trouble? If there was no consequences, would have I done it?! Does this mean this whole time I've been using OCD as an excuse?" I remember I couldn't sleep for 3 nights because of how bad the anxiety was, I was crying and I felt very guilty like I should turn myself in to a mental hospital. I couldn't eat for many days or be near her because of that thought and twitch I had! I'm worried it was an impulse or I actually wanted to hurt her. And even to this day I still ruminanate about this. Like last night I couldn't sleep well I kept waking up every two hours and asking myself "am I capable?" I couldn't eat last night. Sometimes I move on from it like I forget that happened but when I remember, I feel distressed about it! I don't want to be an evil person or do bad actions towards anyone! I'm even scared to be angry because of this because I'm scared I have more "chance" of acting out due to anger. Like was it an impulse and I held back? Is this even OCD? Please help, I'm really scared!
- Date posted
- 11w
i haven’t been diagnosed with ocd but I have anxiety about harming other people/family members and it’s like urges and im scared I actually want to do it? I don’t think I’ve ever been violent as a kid (im 21 now) and the intrusive thoughts don’t go away so im just stuck all day everyday for the past few weeks just thinking and being scared about it and im having all these weird emotions like being irritated and angry I don’t want to hurt people I don’t think idk why my mind is making me think I do I’ve had intrusive thoughts before that I could brush away sure it took like a day or two but this one is different it doesn’t go away and leaves me with the worst fear imaginable and nothing I look up that should be giving me relief is giving me relief + I feel like im not in control of my body and that im just gonna lose it and act on these thoughts it’s just all on a loop and im not sure how im supposed to live the rest of my life when im in constant fear of my self
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond