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I think a big part of OCD is we are extremely empathetic, almost to a fault. We feel things much deeper than other people. You heard about something tragic and you immediately felt the need to soothe yourself and now you’re stuck in rumination
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Ya exactly. :(
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This sounds awful and I’m sorry you have to go through that. One of the most important lessons at the OCD Institute was the concept of “unhealthy guilt” and how to spot it. A rule of thumb is to ask yourself the question - is this issue out of my control? In this case, it is out of your control, so you know it’s unhealthy guilt. You may still feel terrible, but the best thing to do is to sit with that anxiety and try to focus on something else. Hopefully this helps
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Yes thank you I did my best at that but every time I go by the memorial for the person who sadly passed away I feel sick :( I just hope that each family and person in the situation is able to one day find comfort
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I think that actually shows a lot of quality about your character, having understanding for the perpetrator. It was probably and extremely traumatic and horrifying experience for her. Maybe you can pray for her if you are a spiritual person. And your control in this situation is to try to not figure it out. You won’t be able to figure it out, and if you stop trying you’ll be able to see it more logically in the future. But even if it was you that actually did it, you should give yourself the same compassion you have for that girl. People make mistakes. It doesn’t mean we are horrible human beings. Unfortunately our society tends to make us believe otherwise a lot of the times because people jump to conclusions and are harsh and judgemental.
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Thank you. I’m working towards that :) it’s a goal every day <3
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Never feels like I can fully put my mind to rest. The problem with OCD for me is once I'm over one worry there's another buried deep into my mind that I'm not fully over. The two events I'm not completely over is when I tried to help a 17 year old with POCD when I was 19 and the topics unfortunately were detailed and even then I explained to them I wasn't comfortable with talking to them. I guess I just had a hard time saying no to someone needing help but it eventually made me so uncomfortable that I stopped talking with them altogether at some point. Then the other thing is being so worried that I committed a crime because my elbow touched someone's behind when I didn't want that to happen at all. I didn't want to listen to my OCD by saying move my arm or something horrible is going to happen so I didn't and then something bad actually did happen. I thought it would just be a light touch while zipping a bag up but then it was worse than I ever wanted it to be and it was so awkward and I hated it. I feel like I just won't be able to get back to the way I was before OCD started all of this. Aside from that I've just had extreme health anxiety but am too afraid to reach out to a PCP even though I need to. Something deep down is telling me I should do this but I'm just so anxious and embarrassed about sharing things to them. I can't even enjoy the things I used to do because this is constantly just messing up my life. I'm hoping I get a start of positivity next time I see my therapist. This just sucks. Feels like others around me are doing so much better than I am and I'm just kind of stuck on these same problems and feeling absolute shame and guilt from the past over and over again. I'm just so sick of dealing with this every single day so I just use escape whenever I can. Even that doesn't really work. I just wish I could go back in time.
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Hey everyone, I’m going through something that really shook me up and triggered my OCD. Today I was talking to my mom about how people in our family have been talking badly about my cousin, who’s 17 and pregnant. I haven’t told my cousin anything about what they’re saying, because I don’t want to add any stress to her. I’ve honestly tried to protect her from all the drama. But then my mom told me to be careful about what I say to her, because she’s really worried my cousin could have a miscarriage from stress. She said if that happened and I had told my cousin anything, it would be my fault. I think my mom meant it out of concern, like she just wants to protect my cousin—but the way she said it came off as really harsh and it hurt me. Especially because I’ve never said anything to my cousin and I would never want to cause her any stress. Now my OCD is grabbing onto that fear. Even though I haven’t done anything wrong, it’s making me feel like, “What if something happens to the baby and it somehow ends up being your fault?” Logically, I know that doesn’t make sense. But the guilt and anxiety feel so real, and it’s hard to shake.
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I feel so horrible and guilty, I've been pretty depressed lately and I don't know if i'm doing something wrong or not but my mom keeps getting mad at me, and I keep getting snappy with her. The other day she tried to take a selfie with me and I kinda got mad at her because it was in front of everyone and I didn't want to get anyone uncomfortable if they were accidently in the background so I told her stop in a kind of mean way. She stopped talking to me for the rest of the night and she keeps bringing up how disrespectful I am. I tried to explain to her I didn't mean anything mean by it?? It's triggering my OCD so bad and tonight i'm going to see a band I really wanted to see, and i'm super afraid shes gonna start bringing up how mean i've been lately. I've been really depressed and upset because of school and how much work their giving me, and I've been in my room for mostly more than 10 hours a day doing nothing but watching TV because I can't bring myself out of it, I don't know what to do anymore and the guilt of me possibly being a mean and aggressive person is haunting me.
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