Do people with False Memory ever get to a point in treatment that they remember if the event actually happened or not?

Anyone else struggle with real event type OCD (OCD latches on to a real life situation you’ve experienced)? How can we know the difference between what actually happened and if it’s just my OCD making me feel like a horrible person? Specifically with harm/pedophile OCD. Anyone ever experienced this before?

Can someone tell me if you can get used to depersonalization/derealization? I don't remember what normal feels like so I doubt Ill ever feel like that again.

Real event OCD comes with an insane amount of pain and suffering. For me it felt like the worst pain,guilt and anxiety and not one moment of relief for months on end. Feeling hopeless and like ending your life was the only way out. Feeling like my belief in my “goodness” was no longer true if I had done something wrong as a child. Fear of having done something horrible because your memories are blurry and grey. Fear that people will ruin your life and your future because of it. It turned me into someone no longer wanting to leave my house or put myself anywhere where I would receive attention. A deep fear of being a bad person and being rejected by society and made to be something I am not. Understanding OCD - it’s the doubting disorder so whenever your doing compulsions that you think will make things better, remember that no matter what you do, your brain will still doubt it. - It is like having a monster in your brain that knows what you care about the most, and it will attack that relentlessly, it DOES NOT mean anything about you - If OCD is saying “you need to apologize, if you don’t you’re a fraud and a bad person and you’re not doing enough” and even if you give into the compulsion, it will give you the same doubt again and again, leading to you wanting to apologize over and over. IMPORTANT- If you’re scared of a thought NEVER show you’re brain you’re scared- pretend you don’t care, say “maybe that happened maybe it didn’t” or “I don’t really know” or make fun of the thought. If your OCD knows you’re afraid of something, it’s evil and it will give you more of it. Doing compulsions to get rid of fear shows your brain “oh she’s trying to cope and feel better, that means this is something she’s afraid of” by acting like you don’t care, accepting the anxiety and uncertainty, you’re teaching you’re brain that you’re not afraid of these thoughts, and they WILL reduce. Identify your compulsions- I was doing so many mentally that I didn’t realize. - I kept planning out an “apology” or how I would fix a future catastrophe as a result of my real event - Mentally reviewing past events - Trying to figure out “what exactly happened” I kept writing it out in my notes - Compulsively googling and looking on Reddit for answers regarding my real event (I used to google “real event ocd” and obsess over all the symptoms as a way to feel better. I also googled and read Reddit posts related to my real event) - Reaching out to people from the past and apologizing -DO NOT DO in most cases, you will just regret it after and never feel like it’s enough- if you do it only do it ONCE (I apologized across 6 years and never felt like it was enough) - Confessing - I felt like a fraud or like I was lying if I didn’t keep trying to confess or apologize or if I tried to “let it go” it meant I didn’t care (not true) - Self reassurance (don’t worry about it, you’re not a bad person, look at who you are today and have been for the last 15 years, etc.) - Rumination and giving the thoughts continual attention in my mind. Practice exposure and response prevention - start small but expose yourself to the things you find triggering and avoid - Make sure to let the anxiety in and don’t resist it and don’t try to force it out - Most importantly don’t do any compulsions, just face the fear Ans let the anxiety and guilt in and say “I notice I’m feeling this way” Ans keep practicing, over time it will get easier Practice unconditional acceptance - Real event false memory is especially difficult because there is a real event it’s often tied to that is the source of unbearable guilt and anxiety. - Learn that there is no such thing as a “good” or “bad” person and having done something wrong doesn’t make you “bad” . - We are all humans who are growing and learning, and the most important thing to show your brain ( even if you don’t believe it) is that you love and accept yourself no matter what. - Question all or nothing thinking “my life will be over” “everyone would hate me forever” “I’m a horrible person”. None of these things are true no matter what and life changes with time Hormones - As someone with a menstrual cycle I noticed that my symptoms got SIGNIFICANTLY worse and I had only a few days a month I felt better and those dates lined up every month. This told me that my symptoms were definitely hormonally exacerbated. - If you notice this, I would recommend trying to regulate your hormones - Birth control and acupuncture have helped me Summary - ERP therapy- NO COMPULSIONS! - Meditation - Releasing my past and future to the universe, what is meant for me will be - Understanding that the problem isn’t the event, it’s the OCD and learning to trick your brain into knowing you’re not afraid. - Self Care and relaxation - Establishing a routine - EFT Tapping- do not do compulsively to relieve anxiety - supplements like Ashwagandha, and magnesium (I’ve also heard of inositol but would verify) - Consider medication (I didn’t take any but definitely consider it and would consider it in the future) All this being said, I have a much better quality of life at this point in time and have recovered significantly over the last 6 months. I’m able to find joy in my life again and look to the future with less fear. I still have a long way to go and anxiety and these intrusive thoughts do bother me, but the degree to which they do is far less. Im not longer plagues by guilt and anxiety24/7 but I still have bad days where I struggle. I’m still working on my fears around posting on social media or becoming a public figure, or returning to the locations I’m afraid of. Hope this helps!