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There will always be “other things going on” in life…so don’t procrastinate! I had the same thoughts. It never feels like a “good time” to address ERP, so start now. My sister has very honest conversations with me. I often feel like people get frustrated and angry with me because I have ocd. She explained that my family members are not mad at me for having ocd, but do get frustrated when I do not use the tools I have learned in therapy to help myself get well. Ocd is a treatable disorder if I put in the work…they get frustrated when I give up on myself. So, no, there has not been too much damage done. But I think his attitude will change when he sees you trying hard to get well. I wish thought this way when I was married.
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Yes! It not our fault we have OCD. But it IS our responsibility to start treatment and put in the hard work to recover. No one can do that for us and you can't just wish OCD away.
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Your partner should be willing and open to understand what you’re going through. They shouldn’t make you feel bad for things that you do not ask for and that you can’t control. Even though they can’t fix everything for you and resolve things, they shouldn’t make you feel worse.
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they worded it perfectly^^^ so sorry your partner doesn’t understand. it’s hard. sending you love
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Yes I have contamination ocd and my partner sometimes says things when he is in a bad mood. He says things like get yourself together and your ocd is driving me crazy and more
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Just because he is having a bad day doesn’t allow him to put you down and take his anger out on you. Not acceptable.
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@🌜🌺✨🛼🛸❗️ Exactly and hes apologized for it but it’s sort of a habit now
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No no no no no. I’m sorry but you deserve better. He shouldn’t be doing that to you. That is a problem.
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Do you have a therapist that understands OCD and specializes in ERP? Have you done anything to help your OCD?
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Thank you all so much for your advice, messages, experiences you shared, and nice comments! That means the world to me! I can definitely relate to those experiences shared. My partner in the past once made a comment when he was in a bad mood that I was ruining his life. He later apologized but that’s just the tip of the iceberg. I have told him on multiple occasions that using language like saying how “behind we are in things such as chores” makes me feel completely overwhelmed, discouraged, and feeling down, and it makes it even harder to successfully accomplish things, and it would be infinitely better to phrase things in a more specific, bite-size, uplifting, problem -solving/brainstorming kind of way, yet he keeps using the same negative, overwhelming language and just doesn’t seem to care and can act very cold. If this doesn’t improve, it doesn’t seem worth it to continue things, since kindness/compassion/thoughtful and good communication are the number one things I look for in a partner along with the ability to make me feel emotionally safe and loved, and currently all of this is lacking and has been to some extent or another for awhile. I guess the question is— is it possible or realistic for him to change in this way in a sustainable way and has too much damage already been done. I haven’t yet done ERP with a therapist but I definitely want to do that in the future—at a time that feels a little less crazy with other things going on in my life. I can’t thank you enough for all your messages! I’m sending you all love as well!
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Im having a OCD specifically contamination OCD flare up all month and I don’t want to feel this way going into March, I’ve thrown out clothes, towels, stayed up for hours doing compulsions, washed my hands till they crack and bleed, I have washing pilling up cause I’m so overwhelmed by all the extra things I’ve added cause I thought it was contaminated. It’s completely draining me to the point where I’ve become sleep deprived and are avoiding part of my home because they are deemed contaminated to me…I only moved in a few months ago, I had a roach problem and using baits and insecticides really messed with my ocd too. anyone have any tips or tricks to make this easier? I wasn’t doing this bad in January :( thankyou in advance :)
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Does anyone have any tips on how to handle contamination OCD?
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Hi everyone. I’m having a really hard time today in my relationship. I am just feeling so frustrated by my back-and-forth feelings about my relationship. One day I’ll feel so good, and then the next I don’t at all. I think my biggest trigger in the house is the chores that the two of us have to do in the house. I’m much more of a clean person than my boyfriend is. I’m also thinking that he has ADHD and struggles to remember when to do specific chores and I have to remind him pretty often, but he will usually do it when I ask. Today, I’m on a huge spiral of telling myself that he is never gonna be able to learn to do things on his own, he’s not gonna be able to take care of our kids in the future If we do get married, he’s not gonna be able to help take care of our house when we do have one one day, And I am just exhausted. It’s so hard fighting these thoughts all day and then I feel like I have to sit down and talk to him about chores and obviously that doesn’t go well when I’m not feeling good. Definitely a compulsion… It feels so much better when I can just relax and just let him figure things out on his own, and I can just take care of myself. I also come from a household where I was constantly criticized and controlled in certain ways, so I have that to carry too…I’ve gotten much better at doing that most of the time but today is pretty bad. It always feels a little bit worse as well when I’m on my period and feeling very hormonal as well… Can anyone please shed some light on if they’ve experienced this before and any support they might be able to offer in relation to this? Anything would be helpful and please be kind!
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