Okay so just wanted to share that I’ve stopped acting on my ocd compulsions as I can honestly say that I feel like myself again. Yes I may still get triggered but it’s nothing as bad as before. I feel confident and like I don’t really care as much if my fear were to happen. It’s life and I am accepting that I have no control anymore and that I am simply a vulnerable person who can be hurt ☺️

Yay! 👏🏻

Absolutely true, thanks, and that’s what I was thinking if someone is gona cheat they will and it will come out, I have to trust him and whatever happens happens .. thanks ❤️

Wat was your biggest compulsion before you stopped if you don’t mind me asking ?

I hear ya ! Mine is analyzing everything, what he says or how he acts-I’m like that’s proof! I will ruminate on it to reassure myself that he’s not “cheating”. And if I ask him about something and he says watever I will think he’s lying to me. So I totally understand. It’s a nightmare but I’m trying to just go with trust Bc either way he will do watever. I can’t control it. How did you stop Bc I find it soo hard not to ruminate.

Trust me it’s really f*cking difficult to stop, i’ve found myself doing it again, it creeps in, it’s like an addiction, I just don’t want to trust him. Not trusting him is where I feel most safe. It’s my comfort blanket and ripping that comfort blanket off would mean full trust, full trust is too scary because I don’t want to feel hurt, even tho full trust can lead to happiness, I don’t want to take the risk. End of the day, relationships are risky and you must take risk every day being with them, if not then you aren’t ready for a relationship. Hence why I need to just trust and accept that i’m already vulnerable and already susceptible to being hurt because i’ve already committed, my feelings already run so deep, there’s no turning back now and either way, pain is inevitable in life, we can’t run from it but we can certainly perpetuate it and cause it to ourselves out of fear from it.

So agree!!! We’ve been together for going on 9 years and plan to get marry - trying for a baby next year... and just past couple of years this has become my obsession, but yes I have to trust what he says, does, etc Bc if not I’m causing so much pain to myself and him when I have a bad episode and interrogate him.. Anyway I’m here for you 🙏 thanks for responding! It is so hard to stop but we can!

I’ve been with my bf 4 years now and I still question his motives all the time, you’d think it would go away after such long commitment but this only proves that rocd will occur no matter what, even if you are planning to get married and have a child together 🤷‍♀️

Omg that’s amazing!! I’m having a terrible spiral today, how did you over your compulsions ? I know we share the same rocd about our partner cheating

‘Overcome

The best was was to ask myself, would I rather lose him from doubting him all the time and so he leaves because he’s sick of it or would I rather trust and he cheats and lose him that way? Either way, always worrying or always trusting, if someone wants to cheat they will. No matter how good looking you are, they will do it. If someone wants to cheat they are gonna do it regardless, some people actually don’t want to cheat and don’t. Just accepting that you’re completely powerless, you have flaws, you’re vulnerable, accepting it all and being okay with it. How did I get here you ask? You just stop. Just like quitting cigarettes or any other kind of addiction, you just stop

My greatest compulsion was to distrust him in any way I could, it could be a simple text message he sent me and I would find a way to turn it against him, it was me making a fake social media account to track his every move