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Thank you for this. How did you fix it? š„ŗ
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A lot of therapy (ERP) and my medication (Zoloft) helped with the intensity of those intrusive thoughts. In my opinion, the thoughts are more manageable and Iām able to push them away. This goes to say it hasnāt gone away completely but I can live a life thatās not debilitating.
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@Mindful11 Also if anyone just needs someone to talk to Iām here!
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For the past 3 months ish Iāve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I canāt imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and Iām scared itās going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and itās so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. Weāve been together for a while so i know thereās periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. Itās just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. Heās very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / Iām also just starting new meds as well ..
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Looking back, my introverted nature and struggles to find belonging in high school may have set the stage for how OCD would later impact my relationships. I had my first relationship in high school, but OCD wasnāt a major factor then. It wasnāt until my longest relationshipāsix years from age 18 to 24āthat OCD really took hold. The relationship itself wasnāt the issue; it was what happened after. When it ended, I became obsessed with confessing past mistakes, convinced I had to be completely transparent. Even when my partner was willing to work past them, I couldnāt let go of the intrusive thoughts, and that obsession landed me in the hospital. From there, my struggle with ROCD (Relationship OCD) fully emerged. For years, every time I tried to move forward in dating, doubts consumed me. I would start seeing someone and feel fine, but then the questions would creep in: Do I really like her? Do I find her attractive? Is she getting on my nerves? What if Iām with the wrong person? Iād break things off, thinking I was following my true feelings. But then Iād question: Was that really how I felt, or was it just OCD? I tried again and again, each time hoping I could āwithstand it this time,ā only to fall back into the same cycle. The back and forth hurt both me and the person I was with. By the time I realized it was ROCD, the damage had been done, and I still hadnāt built the tools to manage it. Now, at 28, I know I need to approach dating differently. I recently talked to someone from a dating app, and my OCD still showed upāquestioning my every move, making me doubt my own decisions. I havenāt yet done ERP specifically for ROCD, but I know thatās my next step. Just like Iāve learned tools for managing my other OCD subtypes, I need a set of strategies for when intrusive doubts hit in relationships. My goal this year is to stop letting uncertainty control meāto learn how to sit with doubt instead of trying to āfigure it out.ā I want to break the cycle and be able to build something healthy without my OCD sabotaging it. I know Iām not alone in this, and I know healing is possible. Iām hopeful that working with a therapist will help me develop exposures and thought loops to practice. I donāt expect to eliminate doubt entirelyāafter all, doubt is a part of every relationshipābut I want to reach a place where it doesnāt paralyze me. Where I can move forward without constantly questioning whether I should. And where I can be in a relationship without feeling like OCD is pulling the strings. I would appreciate hearing about your experiences with ROCD. Please share your thoughts or any questions in the comments below. Iād love to connect and offer my perspective. Thanks!
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Hello, I unknowingly have lived with ROCD or OCD (not sure what one. Iām new to this). It has ruined so many amazing romantic and platonic relationships and I am so sad that just now I am finding out what the hell is wrong with me. Maybe life would be different if I have known. My OCD and anxiety is at an all time high (ATH) due to some horrible events that have happened in the recent months. I am at the point where paranoia has taken over my life now. I had my first panic attack a few weeks ago where I fainted. My anxiety attacks are so extreme I go thought cognitive distortion that has lasted days. My girlfriend of 3 years is my emotional guardian and she no long has the energy to be that and honestly itās not her responsibility to be that. She is bi and wanted to have an open relationship and for someone who has OCD this has not been good for me. She also was assaulted in my own home by a good friend of ours when I was out of town but itās not a clear situation because it sounded consensual at first. I just left my very high paying job. I am financially secure but the job was emotionally abusive and looking back made my OCD worse. I am taking some time off to get my head rightā¦but now, all I have to do during the day is live in my OCD. Iām very happy I finally figured out why I act the way I do but I donāt know if I can get better quick enough to save my relationship. I have never been so worried about myself (M 28 years old). I am a confident young professional and never thought I would be writing on a page like this. Anywayā¦I hope it gets better.
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