Is this normal? I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months and he makes me so happy and is the best boyfriend i’ve ever had. He literally worships the ground l walk however i can’t help but doubt my own feelings for him. I obsess over everything to do with him and it’s making me depressed. I keep asking my friends and mum if I love him when deep down i know i do it just feels stuck somewhere. I feel like i’m stuck in a bubble. Is this just relationship anxiety and ocd?

I am in a relatively new relationship (around 2 months) and it has been completely virtual due to varying circumstances. I have never been in a serious relationship before and my past “exes” have never been this serious or brought up any of these feelings. About a month in I started having tons of symptoms and thoughts I figured were due to an SSRI change (i eventually went back to my original med/dose) however, it has remained quite bad since. Thoughts include: -I don’t actually like my partner, I just like the feeling of being wanted -I have crushes on other people, including my partners friends who I barely know -I don’t feel butterflies so I must be losing feelings for him -I think he’s ugly/im just not attracted to him -I’m secretly a lesbian and I’m wasting his time by being with him -a general feeling of dread, wrongness, or needing out of the relationship -not being able to believe him when he reassures me about everything -all of the above is just my genuine feelings and I’m using ocd as an excuse These are obviously crazy things to think, however one of my biggest compulsions is confession and self sabotage so I have told my partner all of these things in detail. He’s really great and patient about all of it but I can tell it weighs on him. Hes even recently expressed feeling like it’s his fault and that he wonders if it wouldn’t be this bad if I was with someone else. I feel so miserable but i feel like I’d be miserable in any relationship but im scared that’s not the truth and my ocd isn’t real. When it’s good i feel the most romantic love for him I’ve ever felt toward anyone ever. He’s an incredible person but I just feel so alone and lost on what to do. I’ve literally tried to break up with him like five times and each time we’ve ended up wanting to stay together. I’m really really scared I’ll never get better or this is simply the wrong relationship for me.

I’ve been really struggling the last week and I need some help. I’ve been seeing a guy for about 2 months who checks a lot of my relationship boxes. He’s so kind and we have a lot of fun together. The first few weeks I was totally smitten but had moments of fear about being committed. We talked about it and decided to take things slowly, and then I would have days of feeling like every thing was perfect with some fearful feelings in between. Two weeks ago now my SO-OCD and ROCD started to come back a little as well as my more anxious-avoidant behaviors. I started to get more scared of the future and it was more intense. At the end of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He is exactly the type of person I see myself marrying and has great values and is so secure about me. Until last week, he generally made me feel so safe and secure. Ever since saying yes, I feel so scared and anxious and my SO-OCD and ROCD is on max. I also find myself getting more annoyed and irritated about things that were minor annoyances or non-issues before. I’m having intense physical responses to both OCD themes, and the nagging thought and feeling that I need to end things with him because we aren’t right for each other. It makes me feel so sad and guilty. Sex is becoming harder because of the thoughts too, whereas at first it was perfect. I don’t know who I can talk to about this without them telling me to just break up with him. Everything is so new so I think they’d chalk it up to my intuition. But I do want to be in love and have less fear around relationships, so I don’t want to give into the fear. I think it could help me to set boundaries and have space for myself more often. I think I need some advice or insight. I know I shouldn’t ask for reassurance, but having some around how other people have felt at the beginning of a relationship would help. Why is it that the label is freaking me out so much? How do you guys set boundaries to prioritize yourself when you feel this way?

I don’t even know where to start. Hey. I’ve been experiencing what I think is rocd for like 4 months now and it’s rlly hurting me. So me and my bf have been to together since November of last year and this is the best relationship I’ve ever been in (albeit it’s my first SERIOUS relationship) we have so much fun together, we show each other love and comfort, we play together and we spend almost every day together (we’re long distance so I mean fting) and I love spending all this time with him. I love waking up all call with him and falling asleep on call with him. I just love being around him for the most part. But there’s also a part of me that is constantly on the fence on whether I love him or not for a multitude of reasons. Like sometimes I feel nothing towards him. Like not even a slight warmth or affection. When that happens I’m usually rlly depressed, anxious and feel so guilty. And then there’s also times where if he txts me I’ll get this rush of anxiety and feel this knawing in my stomach. And also sometimes I’ll just be pissy at him for no reason. Almost like I’m annoyed at him for being alive. It feels like a mix of annoyance and anxiety. I feel so bad and always treat him kindly even with that feeling. Most of the time it’s cuz I’m jealous which I am VERY prone to jealousy and it’s the main problem in our relationship. Which also makes me think I don’t love him. I’m almost always worried I don’t really love him. I’ll get thoughts like “I’ve fallen out of love” or “what if I don’t really love him I love the idea of him and that’s why I get annoyed so easily” and it’s a lot of what if are relationship is a fraud or what if I don’t love him. And the thing is I really wanna love him. He’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me and care abt him so much and sometimes I feel like none of this is real cuz how could I not absolutely love and adore a man who loves me and is so perfectly imperfect. I love him but I don’t know if I love at the same time. Like sometimes I’ll cry and just repeat I love you over and over again to picture of him but then I think “you’re just lying to yourself”. I’ve been diagnosed with OCD specifically religious and spiritual OCD but this is the first time I’m experiencing ROCD I’m even starting to question if I loved my dead cat mainly cuz I’ll try to be like well I loved my cat and I still got mad at her but then I think “maybe I didn’t love her” which makes me think I dont love either of them. Whenever I get like this I also google a lot of stuff like quiz’s and forums and Reddit to try and find an answer to if I love him and to soothe myself. idk I’m just exhausted. Ik this isn’t the place to vent abt my relationship problems so I’m sorry abt that. I’m also having problems with retroactive jealousy and the fact that most of my friends don’t like my bf cuz one of there friends was talking to him for a bit and he was like obsessive so they don’t like him and that makes my stomach feel weird and makes me kinda mad at him for ever talking to her. I just wanna love my bf and him love me. Ig I’m asking if this sounds like ROCD and if so what do I do? I’m so tired of feeling like this. I just wanna love my baby boy.