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- oliviak2305
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Thats rocd 100%
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Thank you, i’ll check it out :)
100000% ROCD. Try not to seek reassurance and be okay with the uncertainty. I have ROCD too and been through ERP which saved my life. Love is not something that is the same for everyone. There is no textbook that explains to you what love is or how you should feel. There are literally no answers to this question. You are okay ❤, just try and sit with the uncertainty and live life. I know how hard it is, but choose freedom over certainty.
Thank you so so much for this comment, i dont feel crazy anymore
@oliviak2305 This makes me so happy to hear. And believe me, I totally recognize myself in your story. My ROCD started when me and my boyfriend were together for 6 months, we are now together for 8 years and just bought a new house together. I am currently having soms ROCD thoughts and that is okay. I just tell myself "maybe what I feel is enough, maybe it is not. Maybe he is not the one, maybe he is, but that is not my job to figure it out. I will just live and enjoy life and embrace the uncertainty!" You can do this sweetheart, you are never ever ever alone 🍀♥️💫
@roels333 Yeah, It’s like my brain is trying to tell me something is wrong with my relationship and him. I genuinely feel trapped in my own thoughts. I nearly broke up with him because i thought i didnt want a relationship and didn’t want him but i couldn’t do it because i dont want him out of my life because deep down somewhere i know i love him and there’s something pushing me on to stay with him and not give up. I have it in my head that he’s the person i want to spend my life with and it terrifies me that it might not happen
@roels333 I think i’m also suffering from anxiety with it all too but i genuinely just feel so overwhelmed. Hearing that you managed to power through all the doubts makes me feel more confident i’ll get better. Thank you so much for your words❤️❤️
@oliviak2305 If I can do it, you can do it. And believe me, I still have my OCD episodes. But OCD also makes you the person you are. Thank your OCD for making you such a loving, caring person. Because that's what you are!
this is ROCD !!!!! i have it too and empathize with you. my partner is literally perfect and i love them soooo much and yet i still get the same damn thoughts you do from time to time! i've done ERP through NOCD and it's helped so much. what helps me now that my therapy is done, i write in my notes phone my deepest fears and what my OCD tells me is true and it's scary but for some reason it really helps. then i delete it and don't allow myself to ruminate any longer. you got this!
Yes uncertainty is key
Hi there! Thank you so much for reaching out on here! I am certainly no professional, but ROCD is a very real thing. This would be a great thing to discuss with your therapist. You can come up with some uncertainty statements to practice daily until your distress decreases! I am so sorry that you are experiencing this distress. However, OCD doesn't have to win! There are ways to fight back and show it that you're the boss. Don't give up--you've got this!
I’ve had doubts my whole relationship with my boyfriend. Things like “you don’t find him attractive. You don’t think he’s funny. You’re lesbian because you don’t love him. You don’t love him at all. You think he’s annoying. You think his face looks weird. You want to be with other guys. He doesn’t make you happy.” But I always cry and get upset at the thought of losing him. Is that ocd, or something wrong with the relationship. It’s so hard to tell if this is Rocd or if this is one of those, “you never loved nor were interested in him in the first place.” Type things. I want to be interested and in love with him so bad, but I feel like all these thoughts get in the way. :( I don’t get that crazy “you love him so much,” feeing everyone talks about. Like yeah I know I feel for him and love him for who he is, but I don’t feel crazy deep in love :(
Is this ROCD or not? I continuously keep having doubts about my feelings for my boyfriend. I’ve never had this before with my previous relationships and it’s really upsetting because this is the first boy that’s actually treating me like how i deserve. I feel like i’m in a bubble when it’s to do with him. I feel like i can’t emotionally get to him or connect to him. Whenever I think about him or see photos of him i get anxious and stuff. I know i want to be with him forever and i panic about it going wrong. I’m scared i’m going to end up giving in to the doubts and end it😞Whenever i think about the future it makes me anxious, it’s like i’m turning my emotions off. I keep crying after being intimate with him and i don’t know why, i’m panicking it’s because i’m losing feelings for him. I look at other couples and ask myself why am i not like them, why am i not in love like them. They make it look easy and it’s making me doubt everything. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months and it’s amazing when i don’t have these horrendous doubts. He’s so patient with me and he loves me and worships the ground that I walk on yet and I still have these doubts. They came when our relationship started getting serious. I keep asking my friends and mum for reassurance if i love him and it’s making me so so sad. I feel like if i love him i shouldn’t be having these feelings. He’s not done anything wrong and i feel so guilty for it. Is this OCD or me? Plz help :(
so a lot of the time i worry i don’t love him. but recently, i’ve been obsessing (losing sleep too) over if he doesn’t love me. i’m constantly worrying he’s not doing enough and he’s not right for me and it makes me so anxious i can barely breathe. is this normal???
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