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Thats rocd 100%
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There is a Great online Programm called ocdandanxietycourse from Nathan Peterson
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Thank you, i’ll check it out :)
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100000% ROCD. Try not to seek reassurance and be okay with the uncertainty. I have ROCD too and been through ERP which saved my life. Love is not something that is the same for everyone. There is no textbook that explains to you what love is or how you should feel. There are literally no answers to this question. You are okay ❤, just try and sit with the uncertainty and live life. I know how hard it is, but choose freedom over certainty.
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Thank you so so much for this comment, i dont feel crazy anymore
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@oliviak2305 This makes me so happy to hear. And believe me, I totally recognize myself in your story. My ROCD started when me and my boyfriend were together for 6 months, we are now together for 8 years and just bought a new house together. I am currently having soms ROCD thoughts and that is okay. I just tell myself "maybe what I feel is enough, maybe it is not. Maybe he is not the one, maybe he is, but that is not my job to figure it out. I will just live and enjoy life and embrace the uncertainty!" You can do this sweetheart, you are never ever ever alone 🍀♥️💫
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@roels333 Yeah, It’s like my brain is trying to tell me something is wrong with my relationship and him. I genuinely feel trapped in my own thoughts. I nearly broke up with him because i thought i didnt want a relationship and didn’t want him but i couldn’t do it because i dont want him out of my life because deep down somewhere i know i love him and there’s something pushing me on to stay with him and not give up. I have it in my head that he’s the person i want to spend my life with and it terrifies me that it might not happen
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@roels333 I think i’m also suffering from anxiety with it all too but i genuinely just feel so overwhelmed. Hearing that you managed to power through all the doubts makes me feel more confident i’ll get better. Thank you so much for your words❤️❤️
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@oliviak2305 If I can do it, you can do it. And believe me, I still have my OCD episodes. But OCD also makes you the person you are. Thank your OCD for making you such a loving, caring person. Because that's what you are!
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this is ROCD !!!!! i have it too and empathize with you. my partner is literally perfect and i love them soooo much and yet i still get the same damn thoughts you do from time to time! i've done ERP through NOCD and it's helped so much. what helps me now that my therapy is done, i write in my notes phone my deepest fears and what my OCD tells me is true and it's scary but for some reason it really helps. then i delete it and don't allow myself to ruminate any longer. you got this!
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Yes uncertainty is key
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Hi there! Thank you so much for reaching out on here! I am certainly no professional, but ROCD is a very real thing. This would be a great thing to discuss with your therapist. You can come up with some uncertainty statements to practice daily until your distress decreases! I am so sorry that you are experiencing this distress. However, OCD doesn't have to win! There are ways to fight back and show it that you're the boss. Don't give up--you've got this!
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Lately, I’ve been feeling extremely confused and guilty. My boyfriend has been really busy with exams, and we haven’t talked much this past week. I don’t really feel like I miss him, and that scares me. It makes me think maybe I don’t love him anymore, maybe I’ve changed, and maybe this relationship doesn’t feel right for me anymore. A few days ago, a friend invited me to go to a club with her and another girl. I know that if I went without my boyfriend, he would feel bad — not because he’s controlling, but because in our relationship, we’ve always had mutual boundaries and respect. I decided not to go, but ever since, I’ve been spiraling. My thoughts keep going: “What if I didn’t go just because of him?”, “What if I actually wanted to go, but I stopped myself because I don’t really love him?”, “What if I’m holding myself back and this relationship is limiting me?” All of this makes me think I’m bored, that I don’t like him anymore, or that I’m staying out of habit. It’s hard to tell what I really want or whether these thoughts are part of ROCD or some deeper truth. I keep wondering if I’m just attached to him because he’s my first boyfriend and we’ve been together for so long. Sometimes I even think I wouldn’t care if we broke up, and that I don’t feel anything for him anymore — and that absolutely destroys me, because he’s such a good person who truly loves me. He doesn’t deserve to be treated with so much doubt and coldness. I feel miserable. I don’t know what’s real and what’s just obsession. It hurts that I can’t feel any clarity or peace. I just want to know if this is ROCD or if I’m in denial and refusing to accept the truth
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