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Thats rocd 100%
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There is a Great online Programm called ocdandanxietycourse from Nathan Peterson
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Thank you, i’ll check it out :)
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100000% ROCD. Try not to seek reassurance and be okay with the uncertainty. I have ROCD too and been through ERP which saved my life. Love is not something that is the same for everyone. There is no textbook that explains to you what love is or how you should feel. There are literally no answers to this question. You are okay ❤, just try and sit with the uncertainty and live life. I know how hard it is, but choose freedom over certainty.
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Thank you so so much for this comment, i dont feel crazy anymore
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@oliviak2305 This makes me so happy to hear. And believe me, I totally recognize myself in your story. My ROCD started when me and my boyfriend were together for 6 months, we are now together for 8 years and just bought a new house together. I am currently having soms ROCD thoughts and that is okay. I just tell myself "maybe what I feel is enough, maybe it is not. Maybe he is not the one, maybe he is, but that is not my job to figure it out. I will just live and enjoy life and embrace the uncertainty!" You can do this sweetheart, you are never ever ever alone 🍀♥️💫
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@roels333 Yeah, It’s like my brain is trying to tell me something is wrong with my relationship and him. I genuinely feel trapped in my own thoughts. I nearly broke up with him because i thought i didnt want a relationship and didn’t want him but i couldn’t do it because i dont want him out of my life because deep down somewhere i know i love him and there’s something pushing me on to stay with him and not give up. I have it in my head that he’s the person i want to spend my life with and it terrifies me that it might not happen
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@roels333 I think i’m also suffering from anxiety with it all too but i genuinely just feel so overwhelmed. Hearing that you managed to power through all the doubts makes me feel more confident i’ll get better. Thank you so much for your words❤️❤️
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@oliviak2305 If I can do it, you can do it. And believe me, I still have my OCD episodes. But OCD also makes you the person you are. Thank your OCD for making you such a loving, caring person. Because that's what you are!
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this is ROCD !!!!! i have it too and empathize with you. my partner is literally perfect and i love them soooo much and yet i still get the same damn thoughts you do from time to time! i've done ERP through NOCD and it's helped so much. what helps me now that my therapy is done, i write in my notes phone my deepest fears and what my OCD tells me is true and it's scary but for some reason it really helps. then i delete it and don't allow myself to ruminate any longer. you got this!
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Yes uncertainty is key
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Hi there! Thank you so much for reaching out on here! I am certainly no professional, but ROCD is a very real thing. This would be a great thing to discuss with your therapist. You can come up with some uncertainty statements to practice daily until your distress decreases! I am so sorry that you are experiencing this distress. However, OCD doesn't have to win! There are ways to fight back and show it that you're the boss. Don't give up--you've got this!
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I’ve been really struggling the last week and I need some help. I’ve been seeing a guy for about 2 months who checks a lot of my relationship boxes. He’s so kind and we have a lot of fun together. The first few weeks I was totally smitten but had moments of fear about being committed. We talked about it and decided to take things slowly, and then I would have days of feeling like every thing was perfect with some fearful feelings in between. Two weeks ago now my SO-OCD and ROCD started to come back a little as well as my more anxious-avoidant behaviors. I started to get more scared of the future and it was more intense. At the end of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He is exactly the type of person I see myself marrying and has great values and is so secure about me. Until last week, he generally made me feel so safe and secure. Ever since saying yes, I feel so scared and anxious and my SO-OCD and ROCD is on max. I also find myself getting more annoyed and irritated about things that were minor annoyances or non-issues before. I’m having intense physical responses to both OCD themes, and the nagging thought and feeling that I need to end things with him because we aren’t right for each other. It makes me feel so sad and guilty. Sex is becoming harder because of the thoughts too, whereas at first it was perfect. I don’t know who I can talk to about this without them telling me to just break up with him. Everything is so new so I think they’d chalk it up to my intuition. But I do want to be in love and have less fear around relationships, so I don’t want to give into the fear. I think it could help me to set boundaries and have space for myself more often. I think I need some advice or insight. I know I shouldn’t ask for reassurance, but having some around how other people have felt at the beginning of a relationship would help. Why is it that the label is freaking me out so much? How do you guys set boundaries to prioritize yourself when you feel this way?
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I know it’s long but plz read :( have been having really bad ocd about my relationship and my partner and it has gotten worse and worse over the span of like about nine months I’d say. I do acknowledge there are flaws and legit issues about him and the relationship like there are with anyone but I also know ocd has clouded my judgement and perception by analyzing everything and compulsions. For a while I kept feeling this need to get out which I know was ocd. I was really scared to spend the weekend with him because I thought I would just be annoyed and irritated cause it’s been that way for a while but he also was going through a period of high stress so maybe I was resenting him for that and I also wasn’t communicating how I should have been when I was upset because I’ve done that too much in the past. This weekend I was told in therapy to just be in the moment and not have to worry about trying to answer the question of do I love him or should I break up. It did help but It’s weird cause this weekend ended up better but I also was kind of numb? Like I was enjoying myself but didn’t feel what I always have felt in the past? Anyway, I am really anxious because i feel like if I loved him I would be supportive of when his parents compliment him or when he does well at something when instead all I think of are that I’m not happy or annoyed because of things he does that upset me or make me mad and it’s like that’s the only way my brain wants to see him as a person. Or when he is upset it feels like I don’t care like I used to because I think of how he doesn’t deserve this when he does this or he shouldn’t have this when he is like this etc. Why does my brain automatically go there? That’s horrible! I feel like I should be excited for him, rooting for him. But it also feels like I do care for him? But my thoughts keep changing. I am afraid I only am with him because I love that he loves me and how he treats me. This makes me feel selfish cause I can’t do that. I notice I still like when he cuddles me and is sweet to me and does fun things watching movies etc. And that’s not how it used to feeel which scares me because I don’t want to be without him. I also love his parents am I only with him cause of how his parents treat me? I feel so selfish and like I have to tell him and break up with him cause it’s the right thing to do. I never used to feel like this. I’m scared. Is it possible I’m just I’ve been mad and resenting how it’s been cause he’s been stressed mix with my ocd? My therapist said relationships can go through phases. Can I fall back in love with him again? I feel like I have to try to start with someone else like this is too far gone. I don’t want to stay in something where I don’t feel toward him the way I want to but I really don’t want to leave him. I feel like such an awful person cause he doesn’t deserve this and is so caring and loving despite everything the major thing that bugs me is how he gets irritable a lot which is an imperfection that makes me get anxious and question him😭 trying not to read into this and just follow what the therapist said but this is scaring me because I feel like if I loved him I wouldn’t think like this or feel like this.
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I’ve dealt with ocd themes for as long as I can remember, POCD, HOCD, false memory, the feelings of having to confess something, washing certain body parts a specific amount of times, all of it I am still pretty young and I just got into my first relationship. I always knew ROCD existed I just never had the chance to have an experience with it 😭 and here I am. I really do think I have an anxious attachment style. But it’s also like I constantly worry if I’m too much or if i should not be in a relationship or if I rlly love my partner like I tell him. I am sensitive and very communicative so when things bother me I like to communicate them but then I worry that I do too much or I worry that it isn’t normal to find this many things wrong so early in a relationship. I also worry if he doesn’t like me or if he Will get tired of me, but those thoughts are easier to get by. The hard thoughts r the ones where I doubt my feelings for him. My mind feels like a MESS! And it’s harder because we only see eachother once a week. This may be heaven compared to other ppl who struggle with real long distance but for me the time in between gives me a lot of time to nitpick things that aren’t even real problems and create a sense of a toxic relationship that isn’t even real! The only times where I feel like maybe it’s all in my head are when. I see him and the days after, but when it gets long it gets rlly hard. I rlly do love him and he gives me reassurance when needed but I can’t help but focus on the negatives when little things bother me, especially when we are apart from eachother and jsut texting. Texting is hard because then there is the obsession over waiting to see how long he will take, not knowing the tone of texts, and being able to over analyze every conversation we’ve had. I also do mental checks to help me reassure myself that I love him 😭 like when’s the last time he made me laugh, what are some nice things he’s done that I rlly liked, and jsut trying to actively acknowledge everything he’s done so I can stop panicking abt the fear that I don’t love him. It’s literally only been 2 months of us dating so the fact my ocd is so early onset annoys me so bad because I rlly do feel like I am still in the crucial stages of a relationship where we are learning how to love eachother, so there should be some ups and downs and minor arguments while we get over this phase… but I can’t help but wonder what if these little things just mean I hate him? It’s extreme but I worry and the reels and tik toks I see about people realizing they don’t love their partner make it all bad!
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