- Username
- getwellsoon
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I’ve had ROCD pop up a lot through various relationships. I didn’t know what it was though for quite some time. Once I recognized it and got treatment, things got much better and I feel like I have a much healthier view of love, relationships, and partnership. I am able to trust more, be a better partner, and form closer bonds with less anxiety. Treatment is key. Ocd is ocd no matter what the theme. Once you learn to treat one theme, it will help you live your entire life with more awareness.
Ps I’m in a long term relationship and just bought a house with my partner. Keep your head up. Put in the work and the work pays off. Promise.
@pureolife thank you for all the encouragement and your words, i just genuinely feel so confused and at a loss but if i give up i feel like i’d really regret it. so i’m genuinely trying all i can
Yes hello. My rocd has just started about a month or two ago. It was so bad that I ended up at a emergency psychiatric hospital. I was so alone and I felt so down. i also found out about rocd a month ago. It was amazing. I ofc had compulsions that were watching videos on rocd and reading about it. I couldn't sleep, eat, even be alive at that point I started to become suicidal as well but that was because I didn't see a way out I thought I was crazy and loosing it. I had a lot of panic attacks as well with which my mom helped me a lot with. Im now at a point that I can sleep! Omg I can't explain how nice that is. I can be with my partner without having a panic attack or even throwing up. Its the little things that matter. And remember love is a choice not a feeling. Feelings and thoughts constantly change. Stay hopeful.
i’m very glad to hear that you’re able to sleep now, it’s just hard because at the end of the day i want the best for them and i worry if all these doubts and worries in my head are for a genuine reason, but thank you so much for the hope and reminding me that feelings and thoughts do constantly change. i needed that reminder truly.
It will get better again! I struggled a lot with it for years but now having a pretty good time,at least for my rocd...not really sure what made the difference,I still have to start therapy...but I think understanding it and then telling myself it's ok not to find my partner the best and sexiest etc. All the time,that being afraid I don't love him is OCDand maybe also not thinking about the big word and m animg of love too much but just that I enjoy being with him in the moment my OCD is quiet...so in the moment I can quite enjoy my time with him again without always checking my feelings constantly...it's great,fight for that and if you can get help wo it doesn't take so long to get better I would say! You can do this!
thank you so much for your optimism, i feel very confused at the moment but i still don’t want to give up. it feels like a constant fight with my brain but i know deep down i still want this, wishing you all the best for you and your relationship
Plz only respond with positive advice or thoughts. Last time I posted someone responded with a bad thought and it made everything worse. I have ROCD and I am absolutely terrified that I might cheat or doing something that’s cheating. Like everything is either bad or good. It’s all just black and white. I’ve never slept with anyone, given my number out, kissed anyone, texted anyone or secretly been seeing anyone. I freak out over things like making eye contacts with a guy and I notice he thinks I’m pretty (which feels good cuz I struggle with insecurities) and I make eye contact for too long, but the entire time I have no intentions of doing any with this guy and I’m very prepared to tell him I have a boyfriend if he comes over and telling him to leave. Anyways, that’s an example of the small things I tend to obsess over and just wondering if anyone worries about the same thing and any positive advice you could give before I go insane.
hi! I'm really struggling with rocd right now. I have a boyfriend that I'm very in love with, and havent doubted that until now. I've been struggling with what I think is derealization, which has caused myself to feel distant from him, and like he isnt actually my boyfriend. because of this, I now I keep getting repetitive intrusive thoughts that I dont love him, and that I never loved him, and that I don't even know him. its terrifying. I've told him about this, and hes very supportive. he knows I still love him, and just wants to help me. but I'm so terrified of these thoughts to the point of almost believing them. if anyone else has struggled with this, how do you cope? I've been trying to reassure myself of my memories of him, and looking at things I do currently that show I still have love for him, but I would love some other ideas since it's still hard to convince myself. thank u!!
Can anyone else with ROCD tell me their experience with it and their partner? How you’ve navigated it and how it’s affected you? I just need ti know I’m not alone with my thoughts that throw themselves into me when I’m with my girlfriend. Thoughts of hating her, of hitting her, breaking up with her, being angry for no reason, and more recently a forced numbness that scares me. I think the numb could be separate and could be stress and burnout from taking care of her the past few weeks emotionally without breaks pretty much and I’ve been drained and I’m scared my love for her won’t come back but I’m sure that’s not true. I’m sure it will. I hope it will but before when I had these thoughts they scared me a lot more now in more numb to them. I get scared that if I’m not obsessing over her then I don’t love her, or if I don’t want to be with her 24/7 then I shouldn’t be with her at all. Could anyone share their experiences?
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