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I’ve had ROCD pop up a lot through various relationships. I didn’t know what it was though for quite some time. Once I recognized it and got treatment, things got much better and I feel like I have a much healthier view of love, relationships, and partnership. I am able to trust more, be a better partner, and form closer bonds with less anxiety. Treatment is key. Ocd is ocd no matter what the theme. Once you learn to treat one theme, it will help you live your entire life with more awareness.
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Ps I’m in a long term relationship and just bought a house with my partner. Keep your head up. Put in the work and the work pays off. Promise.
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@pureolife thank you for all the encouragement and your words, i just genuinely feel so confused and at a loss but if i give up i feel like i’d really regret it. so i’m genuinely trying all i can
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Yes hello. My rocd has just started about a month or two ago. It was so bad that I ended up at a emergency psychiatric hospital. I was so alone and I felt so down. i also found out about rocd a month ago. It was amazing. I ofc had compulsions that were watching videos on rocd and reading about it. I couldn't sleep, eat, even be alive at that point I started to become suicidal as well but that was because I didn't see a way out I thought I was crazy and loosing it. I had a lot of panic attacks as well with which my mom helped me a lot with. Im now at a point that I can sleep! Omg I can't explain how nice that is. I can be with my partner without having a panic attack or even throwing up. Its the little things that matter. And remember love is a choice not a feeling. Feelings and thoughts constantly change. Stay hopeful.
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i’m very glad to hear that you’re able to sleep now, it’s just hard because at the end of the day i want the best for them and i worry if all these doubts and worries in my head are for a genuine reason, but thank you so much for the hope and reminding me that feelings and thoughts do constantly change. i needed that reminder truly.
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It will get better again! I struggled a lot with it for years but now having a pretty good time,at least for my rocd...not really sure what made the difference,I still have to start therapy...but I think understanding it and then telling myself it's ok not to find my partner the best and sexiest etc. All the time,that being afraid I don't love him is OCDand maybe also not thinking about the big word and m animg of love too much but just that I enjoy being with him in the moment my OCD is quiet...so in the moment I can quite enjoy my time with him again without always checking my feelings constantly...it's great,fight for that and if you can get help wo it doesn't take so long to get better I would say! You can do this!
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thank you so much for your optimism, i feel very confused at the moment but i still don’t want to give up. it feels like a constant fight with my brain but i know deep down i still want this, wishing you all the best for you and your relationship
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hi. so one big factor of my OCD is rumination. i met a guy who i have a crush on the idea of (idea bc there are red flags). my biggest fear is not finding true love, my ex told me no one else would deal with what i have (my ocd, specifically reassurance seeking and getting overstimulated after intimacy). a few weeks ago, my friends and family all gathered and tried to give me advice that sounded like “you’re shy and you’ll never find someone.” after that, i’ve felt off. i’ve been using an unhealthy coping skill, daydreaming, and i’ve just felt unbalanced. my ocd makes everything feel different sometimes, i can’t explain it. life, myself, almost like being in a dissociated state. has anyone else experienced that? i don’t know how to remain balanced during my off times and i know pms exasperates it all. i take ashwaghanda and omega 3s in a multi vitamin daily. i take them all together in the evening but i’ve missed three days recently and also messed with my rocky sleep schedule because of fun times with friends. i hope these supplements work, because i don’t know if i’d be brave enough for medication. i had a bad reaction on prozac and often am forgetful. i just have been battling my OCD consciously for almost ten years now and unconsciously for longer. i am so tired, as my mental health extends beyond my OCD. i’m in talk therapy with some cbt aspects but i only see her twice a month. i’ve broken down so many times and promised myself id get on track or that certain things would work, but it’s like i am stuck in a circle that gets smaller when i’m able to help myself. i just want to be normal. i want to be able to mess up my sleep schedule to enjoy good times and not suffer horrible consequences or fear that i will be entirely thrown off balance. i don’t want to worry or doubt or feel so dissociative that i squint my eyes for a moment and wonder why i feel so unreal. i will never understand why god has allowed me to go through this. i cannot let it be for nothing but i don’t know how much more to bend and contort my body and brain to get somewhere stable but how lovely it would be if i could. i don’t have much of a schedule right now, i get apathetic and give in with things from time to time. one thing can trigger me and i am back to square one wether in a week or month. any advice, any and all is so helpful. your stories, your thoughts. maybe feeling less alone and knowing what has helped you is exactly what i need right now. thank you 💗
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Looking back, my introverted nature and struggles to find belonging in high school may have set the stage for how OCD would later impact my relationships. I had my first relationship in high school, but OCD wasn’t a major factor then. It wasn’t until my longest relationship—six years from age 18 to 24—that OCD really took hold. The relationship itself wasn’t the issue; it was what happened after. When it ended, I became obsessed with confessing past mistakes, convinced I had to be completely transparent. Even when my partner was willing to work past them, I couldn’t let go of the intrusive thoughts, and that obsession landed me in the hospital. From there, my struggle with ROCD (Relationship OCD) fully emerged. For years, every time I tried to move forward in dating, doubts consumed me. I would start seeing someone and feel fine, but then the questions would creep in: Do I really like her? Do I find her attractive? Is she getting on my nerves? What if I’m with the wrong person? I’d break things off, thinking I was following my true feelings. But then I’d question: Was that really how I felt, or was it just OCD? I tried again and again, each time hoping I could “withstand it this time,” only to fall back into the same cycle. The back and forth hurt both me and the person I was with. By the time I realized it was ROCD, the damage had been done, and I still hadn’t built the tools to manage it. Now, at 28, I know I need to approach dating differently. I recently talked to someone from a dating app, and my OCD still showed up—questioning my every move, making me doubt my own decisions. I haven’t yet done ERP specifically for ROCD, but I know that’s my next step. Just like I’ve learned tools for managing my other OCD subtypes, I need a set of strategies for when intrusive doubts hit in relationships. My goal this year is to stop letting uncertainty control me—to learn how to sit with doubt instead of trying to “figure it out.” I want to break the cycle and be able to build something healthy without my OCD sabotaging it. I know I’m not alone in this, and I know healing is possible. I’m hopeful that working with a therapist will help me develop exposures and thought loops to practice. I don’t expect to eliminate doubt entirely—after all, doubt is a part of every relationship—but I want to reach a place where it doesn’t paralyze me. Where I can move forward without constantly questioning whether I should. And where I can be in a relationship without feeling like OCD is pulling the strings. I would appreciate hearing about your experiences with ROCD. Please share your thoughts or any questions in the comments below. I’d love to connect and offer my perspective. Thanks!
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Hello, I unknowingly have lived with ROCD or OCD (not sure what one. I’m new to this). It has ruined so many amazing romantic and platonic relationships and I am so sad that just now I am finding out what the hell is wrong with me. Maybe life would be different if I have known. My OCD and anxiety is at an all time high (ATH) due to some horrible events that have happened in the recent months. I am at the point where paranoia has taken over my life now. I had my first panic attack a few weeks ago where I fainted. My anxiety attacks are so extreme I go thought cognitive distortion that has lasted days. My girlfriend of 3 years is my emotional guardian and she no long has the energy to be that and honestly it’s not her responsibility to be that. She is bi and wanted to have an open relationship and for someone who has OCD this has not been good for me. She also was assaulted in my own home by a good friend of ours when I was out of town but it’s not a clear situation because it sounded consensual at first. I just left my very high paying job. I am financially secure but the job was emotionally abusive and looking back made my OCD worse. I am taking some time off to get my head right…but now, all I have to do during the day is live in my OCD. I’m very happy I finally figured out why I act the way I do but I don’t know if I can get better quick enough to save my relationship. I have never been so worried about myself (M 28 years old). I am a confident young professional and never thought I would be writing on a page like this. Anyway…I hope it gets better.
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