Freaking out freaking out!!! Oh my god what if my partner and I aren’t compatible!? What if I’m just with him bc of attachment!?!? My intrusive thoughts are calmer. What if I am just afraid to break up with him… I know I love him but it feels fake when I say it…. 😞 is breaking up the only way to find my answer!? Someone on Reddit says ROCD can stem on real problems and she broke up to see if her ex is compatible for her…

I can’t even type with confidence that I love my partner, which reinforces obsession. I get triggered when people say “ I know I love my partner but…” because I feel like I can’t even say that, S if I don’t know for sure…then I have these moments of clarity sometimes where I feel immense love for my partner, and I say it by accident…it’s all very confusing. I love my partner. Fuck, that was distressing to type haha.

1. Get off the NOCD app and stop posting. Iv noticed that you constantly ask for reassurance in your posts. This is a compulsion and will only fuel your OCD. 2. Get off of forums like Reddit and google. This as well will only fuel your OCD, and when you think you’ve found your “answer” OCD will just come back with more doubt. 3. Find a therapist who you can talk to and start therapy . NOCD has great therapist who can definitely help you. And therapy as well as ERP is what is going to help you get better. 4. Certainy is an illusion at best; nothing in life is 100% certain. Iv seen you struggle for a long time. And you will only get better if you stop with the complusions and let uncertainty in. I know how hard it is to want to feel like you again, to want to feel the love for your partner, but posting and ruminating about it and wishing it isn’t going to change anything. You getting help is the first step. Best Wishes.

A "what if" doubt!! A lot of "what if doubts" actually! Remember what I told you in the previous post!! And DO IT I know you FEEL that it is the right thing to do. break up; is not the answer. Or better, is the answer if you want to lose him. You don't need to feel the sparkle to know that you love him. It's a choice. If you want to stay, stay, even if you don't feel so.

Nobody even knows what the legitimate reasons for attracting to someone are or staying with them. So why should your attraction be any more or less valid for any particular reasons? Whether because of attachment or ROCD or anything else who cares about any of the indirect evidence. Only the direct evidence that you choose to stay with each other in this particular moment matters, not the ex

It’s just…. Sunday I did amazing. I knew I love him and knew I wanted to stay and then stressful things happen and I start thinking negatively. The thing is I stayed off of Reddit and the NOCD app all day Sunday. I did amazing. He even gave me a lay down hug and it made me happy. But now it’s like I don’t love him and I am just denying my true feelings. I kept telling myself this is just a dream a really bad dream. 😖 I don’t want to break up but it’s like I just want to leave…😞

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-angry-therapist/202104/what-do-when-partners-dont-feel-it-anymore