7710 ❤️
- Date posted
- 3y ago
ChamBChamB
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I can’t even type with confidence that I love my partner, which reinforces obsession. I get triggered when people say “ I know I love my partner but…” because I feel like I can’t even say that, S if I don’t know for sure…then I have these moments of clarity sometimes where I feel immense love for my partner, and I say it by accident…it’s all very confusing. I love my partner. Fuck, that was distressing to type haha.
arunbarunb
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Big respect for this
LoverGirlLoverGirl
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
1. Get off the NOCD app and stop posting. Iv noticed that you constantly ask for reassurance in your posts. This is a compulsion and will only fuel your OCD. 2. Get off of forums like Reddit and google. This as well will only fuel your OCD, and when you think you’ve found your “answer” OCD will just come back with more doubt. 3. Find a therapist who you can talk to and start therapy . NOCD has great therapist who can definitely help you. And therapy as well as ERP is what is going to help you get better. 4. Certainy is an illusion at best; nothing in life is 100% certain. Iv seen you struggle for a long time. And you will only get better if you stop with the complusions and let uncertainty in. I know how hard it is to want to feel like you again, to want to feel the love for your partner, but posting and ruminating about it and wishing it isn’t going to change anything. You getting help is the first step. Best Wishes.
arunbarunb
- Date posted
- 3y ago
This is such a good post..do you have any more tips. I'm gonna make this my phone wallpaper cause it applies to me too el
eoideoid
- Date posted
- 3y ago
A "what if" doubt!! A lot of "what if doubts" actually! Remember what I told you in the previous post!! And DO IT I know you FEEL that it is the right thing to do. break up; is not the answer. Or better, is the answer if you want to lose him. You don't need to feel the sparkle to know that you love him. It's a choice. If you want to stay, stay, even if you don't feel so.
arunbarunb
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Nobody even knows what the legitimate reasons for attracting to someone are or staying with them. So why should your attraction be any more or less valid for any particular reasons? Whether because of attachment or ROCD or anything else who cares about any of the indirect evidence. Only the direct evidence that you choose to stay with each other in this particular moment matters, not the ex
7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
- Date posted
- 3y ago
It’s just…. Sunday I did amazing. I knew I love him and knew I wanted to stay and then stressful things happen and I start thinking negatively. The thing is I stayed off of Reddit and the NOCD app all day Sunday. I did amazing. He even gave me a lay down hug and it made me happy. But now it’s like I don’t love him and I am just denying my true feelings. I kept telling myself this is just a dream a really bad dream. 😖 I don’t want to break up but it’s like I just want to leave…😞
LoverGirlLoverGirl
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
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Anonymous
- Date posted
- 21w ago
Please help, ROCD is too much
I have an amazing fiance, our anniversary is coming up soon and I'm very excited, but my head keeps going back and forth on I love him or actually you don't love him. You hate him. It's so distressing. I keep looking up things to save relationships and comparing our relationships to other people like what am I doing wrong? And anytime I think of it, I also start thinking what if all of this is just in my head and it's not real or I'm just faking all of this. It's constant back and forth and it's making things hard. I'm not texting him as much as I use to and he noticed it. He feels bad and I don't want him to think it's his fault. He's the best fiance I've ever had and I don't want to lose him, but I want these thoughts to go away. Is it even ROCD or am I just losing it? I know I have OCD around food and gross sexual intrusive thoughts but I don't know if it's effecting other aspects of my life (I was only recently diagnosed) Please help, anyone.
WhatAGuy05
- Date posted
- 11w ago
Can someone with rocd give a newbie some advice?
Flagged as triggering to be safe I’ve never been in a real relationship before… you can guess why lol. But I really want the one I’m in to work out. Still I can’t help but be scared that I don’t actually have feelings for him. I’m scared that I’m leading him on? And I’m scared because I can no longer identify what’s real and what’s ocd. To make matters worse we went on winter break from college and we are long distance so I went from seeing him every day and now I haven’t seen him for four weeks. I’m going to see him in two days and I was trying to lay out an outfit that he would see me and think “wow” in. But I started to wonder, am I doing this cause I like him or because I just want him to like me and I don’t have feelings for him. I feel like a terrible person. The combo of no relationship experience plus the ocd plus winter break is distressing. (We’ve been together three going on four months)
Rage against...
- Date posted
- 10w ago
ROCD
I don't know. I just fucking went down a huge rabbit hole of this lady on ROCD Reddit who described something very similar to how I feel about my boyfriend. She was so scared to break up but wanted to anyway bc she wanted to explore and stuff. A lot of the stuff she wrote was things I swear I could have written myself. And I feel so anxious and sick bc she ended up leaving her boyfriend. She's not happy now but feels it's the right choice. I'm so fucking scared - bc I feel like I need to do it now. I feel in ways no ROCD sufferer has felt and I swear this is true. What the fuck??
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