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Your comment of "he deserves someone who truly loves him" really struck me, that same thought spins around in my head a lot and I hadn't been able to properly put into words what it was so thank you! If possible, talk to a therapist and see if they diagnose you with ocd. While getting a diagnosis didn't take away the thoughts and the pain, it at least then gave me a plan of action. The biggest thing then that helps me is to respond to my thoughts with uncertainty "maybe I do want to break up maybe it dont". This is hard and feels unsafe in the moment but it stops the compulsion/rumination cycle which is what leads to the really anxious feelings. Above all, take time for yourself to rest and relax. Anxiety takes up a lot of energy, and if you don't take care of your basic needs, everything will feel way worse. Also this week's episode of the OCD stories podcast is all about rOCD, so could be hopeful to listen to that 😊 Good luck!
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this is so helpful, I love saying “maybe __ maybe ___” and then you place your thoughts sort of on the side once they’re recognized.
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I have been going through the exact same thing over the past few months. It feels like I am incapable of enjoying anything in my life. We have been together for over years and I am looking back over all of that time convinced that I have never been with him for the right reasons. I am convinced that he stays with me because he doesn’t know how to break it off. There have been countless occasions where I have been beyond selfish and unreasonable. I feel like I am in a constant state of inner turmoil. Whenever he gets angry or even slightly annoyed with me, I fall apart. It is so upsetting and draining. Hopefully, knowing that you are not alone in this gives you at least some confort. I feel kind of isolated right now. I don’t have a lot of friends. Just hang in there. That is what I am trying to do.
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thank you so much it really does bring some comfort. we’ve been friends for years and we’ve had situations where we’ve gotten close to being in a relationship but I’d always be the one to back out but now that we’re actually in a relationship, my brain is trying to convince me that I should back out again because I truly don’t have feelings for him, even though I do and I know the only reason i think about backing out is because I want to stop feeling like this. I hope we both make progress in this tough time
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I’m gunna be honest.. I thought this was my post because everything you said at the start I resonated with haha.. but remember, you are NOT you’re thoughts. This is going to be more generic .. I’ve been with my bf for 2 years, and slight TW for anyone, but I’m obsessed with this idea that I have to know/feel love 24/7…. In relationships, you feel many things. but I totally understand what you mean, these thoughts take away all your enjoyment.
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I relate to this so much. I have unrealistic expectations of love and it has distorted my way of thinking. My OCD has caused me to think that I’m not in the right relationship bc it’s not perfect all the time. Total bs and i try to remember that but sometimes it can be really hard.
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