- Username
- raj123
- Date posted
- 2y ago
im also 16 struggling with the same thing :[[ but! i have 2 friends that have been dating since middle school!! and are both juniors in highschool now and have an amazing trusting relationship. it might be hard to believe but highschool romances CAN work out :]] its hard not to doubt yourself and your relationship with your partner after the honeymoon phase, but its normal to feel a bit different after that ends. have hope!! :D i hope that could help a little
Thank you so much, it helped me alot ! It gave me confidence in my relationship. I know that the confidence wont last for more than an hour but thank you alot :)
@raj123 ofc!! whenever you start to notice youre getting anxious or you start obsessing, just try to remember that not everyones relationship is the same!! it might not work for others but that doesnt mean it wont work for you :]]
@icedmilkk But I dont have rocd😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@raj123 you might not, but sometimes you might obsess over a theme you dont necessarily have :0!!
@icedmilkk I have had hocd in the past, but now it's fine ig. I mostly dont have rocd too. Idc if I have rocd or not but I wanna be with my gf forever 😭
@raj123 i totally understand that feeling!! i love my partner so much and i wanna be with them forever too, but i get so worried about 'puppy love'!! its a sucky feeling :[ but itll get better with time. youve already gotten to 4 months!! and past the honeymoon stage :D
@icedmilkk Yessss that thingg!!! I finally found someone with similar thoughts. So how long have you been w your gf??
@raj123 i have a bf but we just hit one month :]
Yes. It can last. I’ve been with my boyfriend since we were 16 and 17. My ROCD started 3 months into the relationship. We are now 27 and 28! ROCD still flairs up sometimes, but anything is possible if you want it enough.
I’ve been with my fiancé since we were 16, and we have been together for 11 years now.
In my opinion it depends on the two people and what they desire in the future. I’m in high school myself and I’ve been in a relationship from 12-15 which was 3 years however stuff happened and that’s the past. However I do know people who dated in middle school who are still together senior year of high school and I know people who are older and have been together since high school. There is never a possibility that it won’t happen
A thought I struggle with a lot is the future regarding my relationship. I am pretty young, 18, and I just graduated highschool and starting Uni in September. My college is only 25 minutes away from my house, but I struggle with the intrusive thought that because I am so young and there is so much I still have ahead of me, that my relationship is inevitably temporary and something in life will eventually take it away from me... even though the relationship is very solid. I know this is rediculous considering there is not going to be distance between me and him, but it feels like Im fighting an impossible battle sometimes and I dont want my relationship to have to end because of life's bad timing and circumstances. I couldnt imagine being with anyone else. Idk how to cope with this thought sometimes and its ruining my morning.
Someone please help. So ive been in my relationship for 6 years and now I don't have the love feelings that you have in the honeymoon phase, I just feel comfortable, safe, and normal around him. because of this, my mind thinks that something is wrong in my relationship and that I need to break up even though I heard that this is completely normal and healthy in a long term relationship. I want to know of any tips to help me cope with this or tips on how to get some feelings back. I feel like my medications and the pandemic have something to do with it as well cause we mainly just lay in bed all day together or go to the store when we see each other so maybe I gotten used to a routine and may be bored and need to spice things up. I just need some advice because I honestly have no idea if what I'm going through is supposed to happen in long term relationships cause this is the only relationship that I've been in. He's amazing and I always talk to him when I am happy, sad, or annoyed. He always tries to cheer me up and always says how he wants to marry me. I really don't want to lose an amazing guy and I feel bad that I'm doing something wrong. :(
Hey guys I have rocd and I need advise or some words of encouragement When it comes to the feelings of oh I dont love my boyfriend even when I say I do it feels like im lying to myself and it makes me discouraged but I am too numb to fight it Its like my body doesn't want to accept I do Moments when I think oh I want to do something with my boyfriend my brain and feelings shut it down like oh its just going to turn into a routine or nothing he does will make you into him It just makes me depressed and numb because I love my boyfriend a lot, I could not imagine leaving him when I know all I want is him Sometimes my head tells me oh you are too young to have rocd (im 19) or there's always the grass greener on the other Side why settle But I love long term relationships and I want it with him, I chose to date him because it was something about him that was just different and I instantly connected with him We also been together for almost a year (anniversary on August 25) and sometimes my head tells me oh if you guys were together longer its rocd since a lot of people that are on the app I've seen had their relationship for years With anyone dealing with this and go through these episodes in recovery what is it that you do that helps you go forward with your partner and not feeling like giving up
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