- Username
- raj123
- Date posted
- 2y ago
im also 16 struggling with the same thing :[[ but! i have 2 friends that have been dating since middle school!! and are both juniors in highschool now and have an amazing trusting relationship. it might be hard to believe but highschool romances CAN work out :]] its hard not to doubt yourself and your relationship with your partner after the honeymoon phase, but its normal to feel a bit different after that ends. have hope!! :D i hope that could help a little
Thank you so much, it helped me alot ! It gave me confidence in my relationship. I know that the confidence wont last for more than an hour but thank you alot :)
@raj123 ofc!! whenever you start to notice youre getting anxious or you start obsessing, just try to remember that not everyones relationship is the same!! it might not work for others but that doesnt mean it wont work for you :]]
@icedmilkk But I dont have rocd😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@raj123 you might not, but sometimes you might obsess over a theme you dont necessarily have :0!!
@icedmilkk I have had hocd in the past, but now it's fine ig. I mostly dont have rocd too. Idc if I have rocd or not but I wanna be with my gf forever 😭
@raj123 i totally understand that feeling!! i love my partner so much and i wanna be with them forever too, but i get so worried about 'puppy love'!! its a sucky feeling :[ but itll get better with time. youve already gotten to 4 months!! and past the honeymoon stage :D
@icedmilkk Yessss that thingg!!! I finally found someone with similar thoughts. So how long have you been w your gf??
@raj123 i have a bf but we just hit one month :]
Yes. It can last. I’ve been with my boyfriend since we were 16 and 17. My ROCD started 3 months into the relationship. We are now 27 and 28! ROCD still flairs up sometimes, but anything is possible if you want it enough.
I’ve been with my fiancé since we were 16, and we have been together for 11 years now.
In my opinion it depends on the two people and what they desire in the future. I’m in high school myself and I’ve been in a relationship from 12-15 which was 3 years however stuff happened and that’s the past. However I do know people who dated in middle school who are still together senior year of high school and I know people who are older and have been together since high school. There is never a possibility that it won’t happen
A thought I struggle with a lot is the future regarding my relationship. I am pretty young, 18, and I just graduated highschool and starting Uni in September. My college is only 25 minutes away from my house, but I struggle with the intrusive thought that because I am so young and there is so much I still have ahead of me, that my relationship is inevitably temporary and something in life will eventually take it away from me... even though the relationship is very solid. I know this is rediculous considering there is not going to be distance between me and him, but it feels like Im fighting an impossible battle sometimes and I dont want my relationship to have to end because of life's bad timing and circumstances. I couldnt imagine being with anyone else. Idk how to cope with this thought sometimes and its ruining my morning.
Do you guys think this is ROCD or am in denial(I prey not). I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 8 months now and I assume I fell out if the honeymoon faze a long time ago. I get worried because sometimes i feel annoyed with her and don't feel like I love her and then other times I just want to love all up on here, cuddle with her, and give her affection. I'm just scared because it just seems like most of the time It doesn't feel like I am attracted to her or that I love her. I want to fight and keep pushing because I know love is a choice but I don't know if i'm just in denial or not. I just really want to feel the way I used to about her or at least like not feel doubtful and feel like almost repulsed by her (in a way ig). I just want to feel for her again please helppppp.
hi. i have been dealing with the worst rocd episode to date. i’ve been with an amazing man for almost 2 years. i flirted around and dated one person in high school. i entered my first long term relationship in 2020 when i was 18. I was never the party type. I always liked having a close knit group of friends and having intimate gatherings. two weeks ago i saw a post about how relationships in your 20s dont last and that your 20s are for dating around. that sent me into a spiral and i felt that i had to date around or i was doing something wrong. after tears on both ends he allowed me three months to date around and bate a decision. i tearfully downloaded tinder and swiped left on everyone. i called him back that same night and sobbed begging for us to not do this break thing because i knew that’s not what i really wanted. since then i’ve had days of clarity where I know I don’t want anyone else. when we are together, i feel at peace. but when we’re apart i’m back to spiraling. this is the worst episode i’ve had to date and mind you i’ve had cheating ocd, false memories, and compulsive confessions in the past. I keep giving into the compulsions to look at articles about how young relationships are destined to fail they don’t make me feel good at all. I don’t want reassurance, just want to know how people move past these flare ups. any advice is greatly appreciated please.
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