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im also 16 struggling with the same thing :[[ but! i have 2 friends that have been dating since middle school!! and are both juniors in highschool now and have an amazing trusting relationship. it might be hard to believe but highschool romances CAN work out :]] its hard not to doubt yourself and your relationship with your partner after the honeymoon phase, but its normal to feel a bit different after that ends. have hope!! :D i hope that could help a little
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Thank you so much, it helped me alot ! It gave me confidence in my relationship. I know that the confidence wont last for more than an hour but thank you alot :)
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@raj123 ofc!! whenever you start to notice youre getting anxious or you start obsessing, just try to remember that not everyones relationship is the same!! it might not work for others but that doesnt mean it wont work for you :]]
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@icedmilkk But I dont have rocd😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
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@raj123 you might not, but sometimes you might obsess over a theme you dont necessarily have :0!!
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@icedmilkk I have had hocd in the past, but now it's fine ig. I mostly dont have rocd too. Idc if I have rocd or not but I wanna be with my gf forever 😭
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@raj123 i totally understand that feeling!! i love my partner so much and i wanna be with them forever too, but i get so worried about 'puppy love'!! its a sucky feeling :[ but itll get better with time. youve already gotten to 4 months!! and past the honeymoon stage :D
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@icedmilkk Yessss that thingg!!! I finally found someone with similar thoughts. So how long have you been w your gf??
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@raj123 i have a bf but we just hit one month :]
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Yes. It can last. I’ve been with my boyfriend since we were 16 and 17. My ROCD started 3 months into the relationship. We are now 27 and 28! ROCD still flairs up sometimes, but anything is possible if you want it enough.
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I’ve been with my fiancé since we were 16, and we have been together for 11 years now.
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In my opinion it depends on the two people and what they desire in the future. I’m in high school myself and I’ve been in a relationship from 12-15 which was 3 years however stuff happened and that’s the past. However I do know people who dated in middle school who are still together senior year of high school and I know people who are older and have been together since high school. There is never a possibility that it won’t happen
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Lately, I’ve been feeling like something has changed in me — like I have changed, and like my feelings for my boyfriend have faded or shifted. It’s one of the worst sensations I’ve ever felt. I keep thinking things like “I don’t love him like before” or “I’ve changed too much to feel anything now.” Sometimes when he calls me or makes a joke, I get irritated for no reason. I feel like I’m being mean, cold, disconnected — and then guilt crashes down on me. I remember how I used to feel: warm, close, expressive. And now… I just don’t feel the same. That makes me think: “Maybe I’ve fallen out of love.” But I’m also constantly anxious. I overthink every moment. I can’t relax into anything without analyzing if what I feel is “right.” It makes me wonder — maybe I haven’t actually changed. Maybe I’m just overwhelmed and tired from months of these thoughts and fears. I don’t know how to feel right now. I just want to believe that this disconnection isn’t proof that love is gone, but a sign that I’m scared and burnt out.
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