I’m a lesbian and I constantly have intrusive thoughts that being who I am is bad morally. Also, feel like sometimes I am attracted to men but I know I am not. Is there anyone with a similar experience? Whenever the thoughts come I feel stressed. Sorry, if Thai triggered anyone.
Ah, the app won't let me reply in thread (Android) I wanna say, that doesn't sound like a very respectable person at all. "It goes against my morality" -- what's that's supposed to mean? Is their "morality" this unchangeable thing, like the sky, or the sun, that they never update? We should be adjusting our moral compass in a monthly, if not daily, basis. None of us is born perfect. Thinking that they already got everything right instead of reevaluating their world-view now that they have more evidence is a self centered thing to do
Honestly i don't know if you feel like that because of OCD or the messed up society we live in. Please no there's nothing immoral about being attracted to women. You're not hurting anyone, if they mind it's they're own problem. About liking men, well, you can never 100% certain. Think of it this way: and what if i do like me too? Let it sit and you'll see nothing changes. It doesn't matter. Let the uncertainty be. Nothing changes one way or another :)
Thank you for your words. Appreciate that. Yes! That’s what I have to learn to live with the uncertainty. I think the root of it all might be because at some point in time I was rejected by my mother. We’re cool now. However, some of my siblings make me feel weird about myself. And one of them who was very special to me we completely don’t speak. It sucks but I have to learn to love me first and like you said heck with whate anyone thinks. Is just when the thoughts come suddenly it bothers me. Lol but hey whatever one day at a time.
@perezmt Do they use the bible against u?
@JakeOak They’re not very religious per say. They do believe in God. But for example the person I no longer talk to. Once said to me “I love you. However, you being a lesbian goes against my morality and convictions”. I respect her views but her saying still worked on my brain some way. Like wow that hurts a little.
@perezmt How could you respect someone like that?? That’s awful
@JakeOak I know!! Lol I ask myself how can I respect it? I overlooked her comment because our bond. Mind you we don’t even speak. Lol
You’re not 💗💞💗
What do you mean sorry ? :)
I feel so many discussions of SO-OCD revolve around (mostly) straight identifying people fearing they are gay, or the reverse. But has anyone who identifies as bisexual or queer experienced SO-OCD? I am a woman married to a man, and while my sexual orientation has been reasonably fluid since I was in my teens, I have consistently felt a preference for men, and never felt the need to put a label on my identity (including straight) - and I’ve never hidden the fact that I’ve had flings with women. About three years ago I had the “brain broke” moment where I suddenly out of nowhere thought: “I am bisexual, I have been masquerading as straight since I’m married to a man, and I have to come out to everyone I know.” It was all I could think about. The fact that I felt shame accompanying it made me fear that I might be using the term bisexual to cover up the fact that I was actually gay. It particularly messes with my head because OCD is characterised as “unwanted” thoughts, but actually I am occasionally attracted to people of other genders, so these thoughts are not always unwanted. Which makes me wonder whether I am just in denial, and I don’t have OCD at all? And thus the cycle continues… Would just love to hear from anyone else if they relate to this!
Hi! I am genuinely so happy and attracted to my boyfriend but cannot stop having extreme anxiety trying to figure out my sexuality. Some days I think I am sexually attracted to women and other days I don’t feel this way. How can I accept the uncertainty? Another part of this OCD is I obsess over what the queer community will think of me since I have limited experiences with women. I am so happy with my partner but the OCD is keeping me in fear of missing out. I keep constantly comparing myself to others and getting down that they have had more sexual partners. Seeing if I’m alone in this.
does anyone here also struggle with sexuality ocd as a queer individual? i’ve mostly seen people talk about it from a heterosexual perspective but i haven’t seen or heard much from those who identify as queer or lgbtq and such. i’ve struggled with comphet (compulsive heterosexuality) since i was a kid however have always been confident from a young age that my attraction and desire in romantic relationships is exclusive to women even after trying to like & date men. though, recently, i’ve been having so many intrusive thoughts about the men i’ve interacted with. i am okay with male friendships however the thought of being with a man repulses me and makes me nauseous. i keep going back and forth in my head to “check” how i feel by forcing myself to think about situations that include men. it is becoming incredibly exhausting and i wish it would just go away. i just want to know i’m not alone
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