- Date posted
- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
I think for people who ask, they’re in such a state of panic that they dont realize the harm. We all have those moments that we feel out of control and losing control of our thoughts and emotions. People do it for that instant relief, even though thats not possible and never happens. Sympathize with them more than anything, they’re hurting and in pain.
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- 6y
I totally feel you! It’s just so scary sometimes and people can get desperate (I’m sure you know the feeling). I understand them. But let’s all try to help each other not fall for the reassurance trap!!❤️
- Date posted
- 6y
i think this app is great for support. sometimes everyone needs some reassurance to fight their ocd thoughts and push through it without completing their compulsion! it’s normal and helps a lot. ever since i’ve been on this app it has helped me incredibly to hear other people having panic just like i do and watching us support them and seeing them get over it so i have to respectfully disagree, this app has helped me so much this past month i’ve has it downloaded, i’ve came to this app when i wanted to complete a compulsion and it completely relaxes me to the point where sometimes i don’t have to come on here anymore because i know i’m fine and i’m not the only one. peoples reassurance let’s me know i have support. if u feel as if it’s unhealthy delete the app
- Date posted
- 6y
Show support is okay but we should not contribute to give reassurance all the time. This is a trap too. This is a good app but If we always stay here we also are going to think all the time in our thoughts. This is bad for us and for the others. This way we are not letting go, never. Please understand is harmful too :( and thank you for being so kind
- Date posted
- 6y
Hahahah don't worry ♡ look is just... we ALL, we who respond. We who make the question. We are all the same people. We are not separated. BUT, IS NORMAL. We have this shit with us all the time, is so tiring. Is going to happen, like or not, is so complicated to face sometimes. Is okay, I'm just making you remember why you should think twice before you start rumination about your doubts, you should start with another questions: what is best for me? Do I really need this question in my life? Is it really going to help me at all? No, is not. You don't need an answer. You will be fine. You and everyone here. Let's help eachother in a healthy way because someday, and Im not kidding WE ARE GOING TO LEAVE THIS APP. But for good, I mean. We are free, even if we forget it sometimes. We are and we will be free of ocd.
- Date posted
- 6y
I agree Brooklyn I just joined, and after reading quite a few posts and posted to try and help others I then thought to myself this could be more harming than beneficial
- Date posted
- 6y
I'm not giving reassurance to anyone anymore. That is only going to make them worse with time and heal even slower. Any therapist is going to tell you that. Is okay coming here, talk about how we feel. Talk about what we feel. Saying to eachother we are not alone, that is awesome. But we should not answer to their ocd or their rumination. We know that, so please, understand
- Date posted
- 6y
If we stop first the questions we will not put the answers. Because remember everyone: answer is also a reassurance for us too. The ones who are responding. We also answer to make ourselves remember what we try to deny sometimes. And most of the times we have to let our thoughts go. Soneday we will have to forget and distract. Coming here looking for "that thing that makes me normal again" and you all know what Im talking about: is hurting. Please keep the fight, you have a lot of friends here. We care
- Date posted
- 6y
I second what collegestudentxx said:) Most of the time ppl aren’t wanting to know if their thoughts are real, they just want to know that things are going to be ok and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with comforting another❤️ Reassuring someone that their panic attack is going to end is not harmful - it’s helpful!
- Date posted
- 6y
Good point, to be honest I never looked at it that way that posting here kinda feels like it’s turning to a reassurance sometimes but I suppose using it in moderation isn’t bad. To show support for each other because living with ocd can feel like you’re the only one living with it.
- Date posted
- 6y
You’re absolutely right
- Date posted
- 6y
I also have this shit and Im sorry if it sound rude to you, but is the truth. Want it or not, people need to know: repeating doubts and questions and "ifs", seriously this is hurting them too. And is important. This is like fucking googling and you need to be aware. If we keep giving reassurance all the time: who are we helping?
- Date posted
- 6y
I did not said the app is not helpful, but using it too much in a harmful way it is. You are just taking this in a personal and hurted way, what is not the case, please. We are not bullies
- Date posted
- 6y
Brooklyn33 I agree with you on people giving other people reassurance, it often bothers me because that’s what it is. I hate it when I give myself reassurance. It helps very short term, but the intrusive thoughts we know won’t stop. They only trick you.
- Date posted
- 6y
Fuck, I just did it. Totally did not mean that. Just trying to show my understanding point.
- Date posted
- 6y
True
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- 6y
It does help tho
- Date posted
- 6y
To know we all go through the same problem if u dont like the app delete it because i do
- Date posted
- 6y
Guys no... the sooner you see reassurance all the time is going to make you worse, the better, please. I understand you want to help eachother and that's okay but no, don't give reassurance to their ocd rumination and even less inmediatly, is so dangerous...
- Date posted
- 6y
You can find support here and not give reassurance in the comments at the same time like a lot of nice people does, or asking a lot of information that is really helpful to combat ocd. that is healthy, I dont see why you take this so personally when is not, is not about disliking the app, (is not about "yourself"), but making it better if we are aware of these triggerings.
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- 20w
First off - I’m sorry, I post here a lot. My thoughts are going to be scattered because I have the adhd/ocd/executive dysfunction wombo combo. Im so embarrassed I am THIS neurodivergent. I swear my brain couldn’t pick one struggle and settle with it. I’m not making these diagnoses quirky personality traits by any means, in fact, in this post im venting about how exhausting and embarassed I am living with a brain like this on the daily. I need to hear someone’s advice please. I love hearing everyone’s advice on posts because it’s so useful, and brings me back down to reality. Everyone on here gives advice so tastefully in a way where it doesn’t feed into the self reassurance compulsion, but it’s also been thorough and constructive enough where it’s reminded me to ground myself in a healthy way. I love seeing others helping others, it soothes me. This community has been so kind, and I’m so happy I found it. I wish I could ask more, but I have so many questions I think it’d drive everyone here crazy lol. I am doing erp therapy now, and it’s been teaching me so many amazing techniques. I’ve been making progress. However, I sometimes have my moments of vunerablity. I’ve been experiencing this especially now more than ever because I am going through a breakup. He did it through text after nearly 9 months together. I’d do anything for him and love him through anything, and he broke my heart when I least expected it. I’d make his bed for him multiple times, but I haven’t done that for myself in years. I’d sit with him for hours to watch and do anything he likes, but he’d never do the same and I’d never do the same for me. I’m also at fault because I was too scared to speak up so I let a lot of disrespect slide. Why did my ocd do that? Why does ocd make me people please even when I don’t want to? Why does OCD make me care so much about things that will never effect me (like wanting validation from a random person on the street and hoping they’ll think I’m pretty enough to look at), but then when it comes to my future or positive wellbeing (like focusing on college/doing well in classes/personal hygiene/health), forces me to not care/neglect myself and those needs? I don’t understand it. Ocd makes me think everything’s a setup or a trap. I can never believe that I am fine right where I want to be. Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I even think this much? I care and feel so deeply but it becomes unhealthy so fast because ocd makes me fixate and I stay there for a while. For some reason I let this breakup define my self worth. I let it topple into the ocd fear that I will never make it in life - that I won’t be successful, I’ll never get the career I want, the love I want, or the life I want. My OCD’s version of “logic” isn’t even logical. Yes, I understand how the breakup means feelings of low self worth which will then topple into feeling bad about other things. But why has my brain been wired to think this way? Why does it seem so easy for everyone else to function normally with life but not me? Honestly this is the first time in my life where I’m dedicated to focusing on myself and learning more about myself instead of others in my life and it’s a very odd and bizarre feeling. I’m excited of course, but I’m also scared. My ocd makes me ruminate like “what if I will never make the most of this life I’ve been given”, “what if I truly have no worth and the most I will ever be in other people’s lives is a background character”, “why do I care if I’m a background character or not? I should feel guilty and ignorant for assuming everyone will automatically like me”, “are people lying to me when they call me pretty, smart or kind?”, “I need to look and sound perfect in both pictures, videos and in real life. I will never be satisfied for accepting who I am now”, and a bunch of other annoying questions. But sometimes it’s like I just can’t take the reality for what it is but at the same time, but I also acknowledge that I know this is ocd talking. This is so, so difficult. Do I make any sense with what I’m saying? Can anyone help?
- Date posted
- 15w
Ever since I found out about relationship OCD, I’ve been researching non-stop. Google, Reddit, ChatGPT, this app… I regret it deeply. Before I knew what ROCD was, I still had disturbing thoughts, but I didn’t spiral like this. I didn’t question reality this deeply. But now… it’s like I’ve implanted in my mind that I have a disorder that’s “unfixable” or that only gets better with time. And even though I struggled before, since I started researching obsessively, I feel like I’ve completely lost control. My boyfriend told me that I’ve gotten worse ever since I began searching. And I see it — I used to be able to express love. I used to say “I love you” a lot. Now I can’t even say it. And when I did say it before, I think I was using it like a compulsion — like if I say it enough, maybe the thoughts will stop. But they didn’t. Now I can’t even be intimate without feeling this horrible discomfort, sometimes even disgust. And I remember telling my therapist that — and she said it’s not normal to feel disgust when your partner touches you. That devastated me. It stuck in my head. And now? It all feels real. Not like “just thoughts.” It feels like I’m denying the truth, like I’ve ruined everything by digging too deep. I’m not myself anymore. I’m not the girlfriend I used to be. I feel like I’ve lost everything — even my ability to feel love. There’s a constant pressure in my chest, like a weight I can’t describe. And no matter what anyone says — whether it’s hopeful or scary — it doesn’t bring me peace. I feel completely lost inside my own mind. I don’t even know why I’m posting. Maybe because I just want to feel less alone.
- Date posted
- 12w
I am tired of talking with chat gbt for reasurance or to calm myself, im tired of searching reddit posts on r/rocd so i can read the comments to get an answer on how to get better, to post here 10 times a day so someone can say something that will calm me, all this things used to get me better a little, but now they dont and in still doing them, but in tired, i want this to stop, my thoughts are so persistent and it comes with bad negative feelings about my relationship, my boyfriend, i have so much fear in me its insane, i feel like i have changed and all the thoughts that once i knew they were fake they feel now that they are the reality that i dont accept. It breaks my heart to read stuff from people that say “when i am with him my thoughts goes away “ because mine doesn’t. I feel iritated, angry, disgusted for no reason at all, I see people saying that i care about my relationship and my boyfriend because i dont like these thoughts but, my therapist said to me “you can care about people and dont like them” or something like that, also when i told her “when these thoughts started i knew they were fake and i always said they are not real i dont want them” and she said something like “you can tell is snowing outside but its not true because its warm and sunny” My thoughts feel so real, i feel like im not like the others with rocd. Also this thing about choosing love and choosing your partner is bringing me into a spiarl because what if i dont want my partner? what if i only want to feel better and not to love him? What if all this time i though i felt live was just me pretending to feel love because i put high expectations on this relationship? what if i dont love him for who he is? what if i never loved him? i have a long list of what ifs. I cant go to therapy anymore due to more factors and also it was not beneficial for me at all. i just want peace. Im scared if getting better bc im scared that i will realise my thoughts are true. what if im i. denial? my thoughts scream at me affrirmations like “i dont love him” also being intimate is so hard. can somebody tell me some advice?
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