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- 6y
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- 6y
I think for people who ask, they’re in such a state of panic that they dont realize the harm. We all have those moments that we feel out of control and losing control of our thoughts and emotions. People do it for that instant relief, even though thats not possible and never happens. Sympathize with them more than anything, they’re hurting and in pain.
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- 6y
I totally feel you! It’s just so scary sometimes and people can get desperate (I’m sure you know the feeling). I understand them. But let’s all try to help each other not fall for the reassurance trap!!❤️
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- 6y
i think this app is great for support. sometimes everyone needs some reassurance to fight their ocd thoughts and push through it without completing their compulsion! it’s normal and helps a lot. ever since i’ve been on this app it has helped me incredibly to hear other people having panic just like i do and watching us support them and seeing them get over it so i have to respectfully disagree, this app has helped me so much this past month i’ve has it downloaded, i’ve came to this app when i wanted to complete a compulsion and it completely relaxes me to the point where sometimes i don’t have to come on here anymore because i know i’m fine and i’m not the only one. peoples reassurance let’s me know i have support. if u feel as if it’s unhealthy delete the app
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- 6y
Show support is okay but we should not contribute to give reassurance all the time. This is a trap too. This is a good app but If we always stay here we also are going to think all the time in our thoughts. This is bad for us and for the others. This way we are not letting go, never. Please understand is harmful too :( and thank you for being so kind
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- 6y
Hahahah don't worry ♡ look is just... we ALL, we who respond. We who make the question. We are all the same people. We are not separated. BUT, IS NORMAL. We have this shit with us all the time, is so tiring. Is going to happen, like or not, is so complicated to face sometimes. Is okay, I'm just making you remember why you should think twice before you start rumination about your doubts, you should start with another questions: what is best for me? Do I really need this question in my life? Is it really going to help me at all? No, is not. You don't need an answer. You will be fine. You and everyone here. Let's help eachother in a healthy way because someday, and Im not kidding WE ARE GOING TO LEAVE THIS APP. But for good, I mean. We are free, even if we forget it sometimes. We are and we will be free of ocd.
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- 6y
I agree Brooklyn I just joined, and after reading quite a few posts and posted to try and help others I then thought to myself this could be more harming than beneficial
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- 6y
I'm not giving reassurance to anyone anymore. That is only going to make them worse with time and heal even slower. Any therapist is going to tell you that. Is okay coming here, talk about how we feel. Talk about what we feel. Saying to eachother we are not alone, that is awesome. But we should not answer to their ocd or their rumination. We know that, so please, understand
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- 6y
If we stop first the questions we will not put the answers. Because remember everyone: answer is also a reassurance for us too. The ones who are responding. We also answer to make ourselves remember what we try to deny sometimes. And most of the times we have to let our thoughts go. Soneday we will have to forget and distract. Coming here looking for "that thing that makes me normal again" and you all know what Im talking about: is hurting. Please keep the fight, you have a lot of friends here. We care
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- 6y
I second what collegestudentxx said:) Most of the time ppl aren’t wanting to know if their thoughts are real, they just want to know that things are going to be ok and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with comforting another❤️ Reassuring someone that their panic attack is going to end is not harmful - it’s helpful!
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- 6y
Good point, to be honest I never looked at it that way that posting here kinda feels like it’s turning to a reassurance sometimes but I suppose using it in moderation isn’t bad. To show support for each other because living with ocd can feel like you’re the only one living with it.
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- 6y
You’re absolutely right
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- 6y
I also have this shit and Im sorry if it sound rude to you, but is the truth. Want it or not, people need to know: repeating doubts and questions and "ifs", seriously this is hurting them too. And is important. This is like fucking googling and you need to be aware. If we keep giving reassurance all the time: who are we helping?
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- 6y
I did not said the app is not helpful, but using it too much in a harmful way it is. You are just taking this in a personal and hurted way, what is not the case, please. We are not bullies
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- 6y
Brooklyn33 I agree with you on people giving other people reassurance, it often bothers me because that’s what it is. I hate it when I give myself reassurance. It helps very short term, but the intrusive thoughts we know won’t stop. They only trick you.
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- 6y
Fuck, I just did it. Totally did not mean that. Just trying to show my understanding point.
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- 6y
True
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- 6y
It does help tho
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- 6y
To know we all go through the same problem if u dont like the app delete it because i do
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- 6y
Guys no... the sooner you see reassurance all the time is going to make you worse, the better, please. I understand you want to help eachother and that's okay but no, don't give reassurance to their ocd rumination and even less inmediatly, is so dangerous...
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- 6y
You can find support here and not give reassurance in the comments at the same time like a lot of nice people does, or asking a lot of information that is really helpful to combat ocd. that is healthy, I dont see why you take this so personally when is not, is not about disliking the app, (is not about "yourself"), but making it better if we are aware of these triggerings.
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- 24w
I feel awful that I keep coming on here whenever I’m down bad but oh my gosh OCD is the most painful shit that I have EVER experienced in my life and I have a physical chronic illness…. I hate to say it but I hate living right now it’s too painful… im crying as I type to the point where my stomach is hurting, I have pretty severe ocd I do have generalized anxiety and idk if that is connected with ocd but because of that I have most of the subtypes REAL EVENT OCD,POCD,ZOCD,ROCD,SOCD HARM OCD, you name it and I got it!!! a lot of also why I have have those theme is trauma growing up and involving those things^ as of right now i’m 25 and a women with the most loving boyfriend in the entire world before my ocd hit me I NEVER questioned my love and care and attraction with the love of my life I always knew I was going to marry and be with this person the rest of my life! Now with ocd it confuses me soooo much and now I think I’m gay and didn’t realize or indenial and listen I get it “don’t look for reassurance!” “It’s not the thing ocd is attacking that is the problem ocd is the actual problem!” Here’s the thing with that if I’m in a relationship and I’m gay that would mean I would have to leave that said relationship and to say that “oh yeah that stuff happens and you’ll move on” is absolutely devastating to me this is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE and your telling me that iv been lying to myself this whole time or that I didn’t realize?!?!? And that sexuality can change (even though some say it can’t google says otherwise and some people have said it can’t idek anymore) and all this other BULLSHIT I can’t take it WHY?!?! why does this have to happen why can’t I just be with my love the rest of my life?!? and yes before anyone says anything I have been attracted to girls more so when I was younger watching lesbian porn liking the body’s and fantazing them sexually it stopped when I got older but I still don’t get disgusted with women who are pretty it just makes me uncomfortable because I’m with the love of my life and before I remember talking to my partner and discussing certain childhood things I experienced and we discussed that we both could be a little bi and for certain I’m (demi sexual so I don’t even really care about looks) and I truly didn’t care!! NOW I do care even with being bi because again I don’t like thinking about anyone else but my partner but I do also know my parents are homophobic and I do think about if I am gay they wouldn’t be okay with that and I also dont want to deal with that so now I sound like in indenial right?!???? I didn’t even care about labels before my ocd it just didn’t matter but now it’s effected my sex life and it’s hard for me to enjoy sex with being so confused I’m so confused I googled everything can you still have sexual fantasies with same gender but still be straight? Can you fantasize about same gender or imagine marrying them all of it !!! And non of that disgusts me it just makes me uncomfortable AGIAN only bc I just love the partner I’m with right now!!! I’m so fucking confused do I have to leave my partner and accept that I’m gay is that going to happen in the future if I get better with ocd and find out it’s been true all along?!???
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- 15w
harm ocd is the bane of my existence. people always tell me that if you have anxiety over a thought, that’s ocd. and these intrusive thoughts cause me IMMENSE anxiety. i’m constantly looking for reasons why i’m not what these thoughts tell me i am. but WHY DOES IT FEEL SO REAL?? it’s like i can’t reassure myself that this isn’t me and i don’t want to do it, but i also look for reasons why it’s not me. my brain is constantly telling me “if you don’t act on this, you’ll never feel free”. WHAT EVEN IS THAT?? and why does it feel real?? anytime i think about getting therapy, i constantly think that it’s not going to help me positively but help me realize i am this person. i just wish someone with harm ocd could get into my brain, understand me, and tell me everything will be okay. i wish someone in recovery could tell me that they’ve been where i am, felt the same feelings, thought the same thoughts, and got through it when they thought they wouldn’t. i feel like i’m drowning in it. another thing is i think about how my mom knows a surface level understanding to this form of my ocd, but if she knew it all, i’m scared she’d never look at me the same. i’m scared she’d be scared of me and think i need psychiatric help. IM TERRIFIED.
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- 11w
First off - I’m sorry, I post here a lot. My thoughts are going to be scattered because I have the adhd/ocd/executive dysfunction wombo combo. Im so embarrassed I am THIS neurodivergent. I swear my brain couldn’t pick one struggle and settle with it. I’m not making these diagnoses quirky personality traits by any means, in fact, in this post im venting about how exhausting and embarassed I am living with a brain like this on the daily. I need to hear someone’s advice please. I love hearing everyone’s advice on posts because it’s so useful, and brings me back down to reality. Everyone on here gives advice so tastefully in a way where it doesn’t feed into the self reassurance compulsion, but it’s also been thorough and constructive enough where it’s reminded me to ground myself in a healthy way. I love seeing others helping others, it soothes me. This community has been so kind, and I’m so happy I found it. I wish I could ask more, but I have so many questions I think it’d drive everyone here crazy lol. I am doing erp therapy now, and it’s been teaching me so many amazing techniques. I’ve been making progress. However, I sometimes have my moments of vunerablity. I’ve been experiencing this especially now more than ever because I am going through a breakup. He did it through text after nearly 9 months together. I’d do anything for him and love him through anything, and he broke my heart when I least expected it. I’d make his bed for him multiple times, but I haven’t done that for myself in years. I’d sit with him for hours to watch and do anything he likes, but he’d never do the same and I’d never do the same for me. I’m also at fault because I was too scared to speak up so I let a lot of disrespect slide. Why did my ocd do that? Why does ocd make me people please even when I don’t want to? Why does OCD make me care so much about things that will never effect me (like wanting validation from a random person on the street and hoping they’ll think I’m pretty enough to look at), but then when it comes to my future or positive wellbeing (like focusing on college/doing well in classes/personal hygiene/health), forces me to not care/neglect myself and those needs? I don’t understand it. Ocd makes me think everything’s a setup or a trap. I can never believe that I am fine right where I want to be. Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I even think this much? I care and feel so deeply but it becomes unhealthy so fast because ocd makes me fixate and I stay there for a while. For some reason I let this breakup define my self worth. I let it topple into the ocd fear that I will never make it in life - that I won’t be successful, I’ll never get the career I want, the love I want, or the life I want. My OCD’s version of “logic” isn’t even logical. Yes, I understand how the breakup means feelings of low self worth which will then topple into feeling bad about other things. But why has my brain been wired to think this way? Why does it seem so easy for everyone else to function normally with life but not me? Honestly this is the first time in my life where I’m dedicated to focusing on myself and learning more about myself instead of others in my life and it’s a very odd and bizarre feeling. I’m excited of course, but I’m also scared. My ocd makes me ruminate like “what if I will never make the most of this life I’ve been given”, “what if I truly have no worth and the most I will ever be in other people’s lives is a background character”, “why do I care if I’m a background character or not? I should feel guilty and ignorant for assuming everyone will automatically like me”, “are people lying to me when they call me pretty, smart or kind?”, “I need to look and sound perfect in both pictures, videos and in real life. I will never be satisfied for accepting who I am now”, and a bunch of other annoying questions. But sometimes it’s like I just can’t take the reality for what it is but at the same time, but I also acknowledge that I know this is ocd talking. This is so, so difficult. Do I make any sense with what I’m saying? Can anyone help?
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