- Username
- Itswhatever
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Please help
Guys I literally feel trans. I literally feel like I have to come out and that I’m not a girl anymore 😭😭 I can’t believe my life has come to this.
Guys I literally feel trans. I literally feel like I have to come out and that I’m not a girl anymore 😭😭 I can’t believe my life has come to this.
Hey I’m trans and I had this exact thing but opposite!! I was scared that I was cis and lying to myself. (I was not) I felt the need to tell everyone “oh hey haha jk” even though I felt comfortable in my gender but my brain always had this icky “what if” and “this will go away and you will feel normal and be happy if you tell them ur actually cis.” Honestly just ignore it, mine lasted like a good month but it did go away and I’m more confident then ever that I’m trans, so it was for sure just intrusive thoughts. If you don’t want to be trans, then don’t and just ignore it. The more you look into it and look up things about it, the more you supply your brain with knowledge it can use to trick you❤️
Ugh it’s the worst. I feel like a man in the inside and that my femininity is gone but I want it back. 😭 it feels so convincing that I’m trans
Is this the OCD, or do you actually feel you might be trans?
Idek at this point
I hope it’s the ocd
@Itswhatever Can I ask why you 'hope it's the OCD'? If you really don't want to be transgender, than you're probably not transgender.
@Declan Because I don’t want to be transgender. Like I’ve had this for a month. I feel like a man in the inside but I don’t want to feel like that 😭
@Itswhatever As a trans male myself, I totally get that. And I would encourage you not to worry about 'what-ifs'. Take the time to listen to yourself, even experiment with styles or pronouns if that's something you're comfortable with right now. But if not, that's okay. You don't have to be anything right now. You're still you.
@Declan I’m sorry but you saying that u can relate to that is very triggering to me because I don’t want to be a male. But no offense to you at all. That’s just not something I want for myself.
@Itswhatever Hi love. I know you are in distress because even reading this chain brought back some of my OCD about this topic but @Declans experience should help you- him being a trans male himself has nothing to do with you’re situation whatsoever. If anything this is OCD because of how uncomfortable you feel when he says “you don’t have to be anything right now you are still you”. What he relates to is feeling like you are not comfortable with you’re own gender; because the OCD makes you FEEL like that even though it’s not true.
@SDW453 Ugh the thing that gets me is the “feeling” of male. Like I feel like a male. And I can’t stop having anxiety over it. I don’t wanna feel like a man. I wanna feel like a girl
@Itswhatever Did you read the Instagram post I Reccomended to you?
@SDW453 Yes
@Itswhatever Did it help ?
@SDW453 It helps me because it reminds me that it is just OCD. But the only way to get over it is by accepting the things and not giving into compulsions.
@SDW453 Ugh it helped a little but it didn’t say anything about feeling like the opposite gender so it kind threw me off and made me anxious
@Itswhatever But that’s what OCD does… it makes you feel things you don’t wanna feel. Did rhis just come randomly out of the blue?
@SDW453 Yes I had hocd before this and then I was reading about someone’s intrusive thoughts about trans ocd on this app and then the thoughts just came flooding in.
@Itswhatever See. Ans thing happened to me love. People who are trans don’t have ocd about being trans… don’t worry. I also have SOCD that randomly got intrsuive thoughts about this. It’s all OCD. i promise
@Itswhatever When you want to transition, you don’t feel like this RANDOMLY and after another theme. I’m don’t giving reassurance because that won’t help BUT i hope I can make you feel better
@SDW453 Thank you so much angel! U honestly did make me feel valid and heard unlike a lot of people so thank you so much. It’s just so hard to tell what’s real and what’s not all the time :( but thank you so much
@Itswhatever Of course I’m always here for you
@SDW453 Do you have insta ?
@Itswhatever yes I do! it’s @sofweissman
@SDW453 Followed ya:)
@Itswhatever you’re gorgeous love! and comfortable in YOUR own skin. You can always DM me whenever you want💗
@SDW453 Thank you so much. I sure will. Did u say you’ve had this theme before.
@Itswhatever Well it’s fairly new I literally got a random intrsuive thought about it kinda the same way you did on Sunday morning. I saw a video of someone who is trans and all the sudden got all these intrsuive thiughts about it which scared the living hell out of me. It was completely out of the blue.
@SDW453 It feels shameful, unlike me, and very disturbing. I am starting ERP Thearpy to deal with my many other themes (if you click on my profile you will see them:) so I hope that will help. My thearpist told me whenvee I get a thought to say “I don’t need to figure this out right now” and countinue with my normal schduele. When I have done that and not talked about it constantly it has helped me. Try this… whenever you get a thought say “this is ocd, I don’t need to solve this right now”. It’s okay to be uncomfortable you are NOT in danger.
@SDW453 Thank you honey. ❤️
Hey love- this is probably you’re OCD. all the sudden out of the blue a few days ago I got intrusive thiughts about me being trans when I have NEVER questioned it and am a very feminine girl and always felt comfortable with my gender identity. I did some reading and with TOCD it usually happens when someone has a different form of OCD and happens out of the blue rather than someone who is actually transgender these feelings don’t just come “out of the blue” per say
If your trans then your trans it won’t change anything unless if you think ocd is making you feel this way
if you have Instagram, I reccomend going on the account @soocdsupport and reading their post on transgender OCD. ur not alone
I’m a gay guy and I always felt different, but in a gay way, you know. I’ve never questioned my gender identity and I always felt in the right body. But since I saw the instagram profile of a trans girl, I can’t stop thinking “what if I’m trans?”. Literally I think about this the HOLE DAY and I always look for evidence that I’m or not trans. And the worse thing is that as a gay guy I’ve done things or liked things which are stereotypically for girls. This thought gave me panic attacks, anxiety and stress during all the day. I’m scared and confused because my mind keeps telling me that there’s should be something and for some reason I thought about it. It’s like my brain has been replaced during this month. I just want to go back in time and be the happy guy that I was before, I miss my life.
I’m having a panic attack right now. I’m talking to a cute boy and my mind is telling me I’m not attracted to him and I’m attracted to girls. I want to be with a guy. But what if I’m into girls and I have internal homophobia. I don’t want to be gay because it’s not something I believe in. I feel the need to come out. I want to be into men like I was. I hate this living like this is such a waste. I literally don’t want to be here. I’m at work and I’m freaking out
Someone please help me . I’m so tired of this gender identity thing . I did a compulsion and googled gender dysphoria symptoms and I had a panic attack . One of the articles said that sometimes children with gender dysphoria say that they are bi to suppress that they are trans and I remember when I was little I did think that I liked girls once but then I got older and realized I don’t but now I just don’t know . I took a self assessment test to see if I have gender dysphoria and it says that I don’t but then idk if I was lying or not and when I see articles on symptoms of people with trans ocd I know it sound just like me and that being a man dosnt align with who I am but then I feel like I’m lying about that too . Then it’s what if I’m non bianary ? What if I get used to the thoughts and I start to actually be comfortable as a boy ? I feel like I can’t do anything , I can’t be a mom , I can’t be a gf , I can’t be a friend a daughter and can’t do anything . I feel defeated and sad . I don’t want to be trans but it feels like I have no choice and I can’t take that I will never know if this is ocd or who I really am and it’s starting to feel like this is who I am and it makes me sad . No one around me understands and I feel like I’m putting to much on my friends and family with all of this. I just want it to stop
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